Just feeling sad...

Jaylo969

sharpy102 said:

thank you all

Thank you all for your kind words....and you guys are right...and my brain knows that too. I know this was the best for her, but my heart wishes she was still around. It just feels so unfair...some people lose their parents when they are in their late 30s, ,or even more, in their 40s. When it is Christmas it makes me so sad. I have not had Crhistmas since she left. No more family dinners together, no more trips with my parents here and there, no more playings with my brother. It just annoys me and makes me so sad realizing that I will never have these ever again. I want to play with my brother, I want share the chocolate we get, I want to run up to Mom and tell her about school, I want her to cook a yummy dinner where we sit down at the kitchen table, Dad is at the end of the table like as he used to joke "because he is the master of the house" then my brother, Mom and I. And we would be eating, chit-chatting while the house is nice and warm. Have that Christmas tree in our living room as it used to, being all excited who is getting what. Parents telling us where we might go over the winter holidlay, or at summer. And yes, you guys are right, I should just move on with my life. But it is so hard to move on when I see the other kids running to their parents after school to be picked up, coming back to school in January seeing the others showing what they've got for Christmas, or telling where they went over the holidays....I'm sorry for my earlier whining I will not do that....and I'll try to move on with my life.

Take care everybody and Happy Holidays!

To Sharpy..

I don't want to hijack Judy's thread but I want to tell you dear Sophie that if I were a teenager like you, I truthfully think I would feel very much like you feel. I cannot even imagine being so young and losing a Mother. Heck, my Mom passed 2 years ago and I was 57 and it threw me for a loop.I too knew that I had to "move on" but it has taken awhile for me, and as I have "moved on" I have brought my Mother's spirit with me. You were NOT whining. This is a support group and you needed our support and we thank you for supporting us too. Hugs to you Sophie and PM if you would like.

-Pat

Kathleen808

sharpy102 said:

thank you all

Thank you all for your kind words....and you guys are right...and my brain knows that too. I know this was the best for her, but my heart wishes she was still around. It just feels so unfair...some people lose their parents when they are in their late 30s, ,or even more, in their 40s. When it is Christmas it makes me so sad. I have not had Crhistmas since she left. No more family dinners together, no more trips with my parents here and there, no more playings with my brother. It just annoys me and makes me so sad realizing that I will never have these ever again. I want to play with my brother, I want share the chocolate we get, I want to run up to Mom and tell her about school, I want her to cook a yummy dinner where we sit down at the kitchen table, Dad is at the end of the table like as he used to joke "because he is the master of the house" then my brother, Mom and I. And we would be eating, chit-chatting while the house is nice and warm. Have that Christmas tree in our living room as it used to, being all excited who is getting what. Parents telling us where we might go over the winter holidlay, or at summer. And yes, you guys are right, I should just move on with my life. But it is so hard to move on when I see the other kids running to their parents after school to be picked up, coming back to school in January seeing the others showing what they've got for Christmas, or telling where they went over the holidays....I'm sorry for my earlier whining I will not do that....and I'll try to move on with my life.

Take care everybody and Happy Holidays!

Sharpy

Sharpy, my dear,

You have been through more than many of us twice, even three times your age.  In time, my dear, in time.  Never feel like you need to be at a particular place in the grieving process.  You were so young when you lost your mom.  My prayers are with you dear.  I hope and pray for a specail someone or family to come into your life.  Not, to replace your family but to walk by your side.

 

With love and aloha,

Kathleen

Kathleen808

Judy,

Judy,

The hodlidays can be so hard for us.  This is ****'s 4th Christmas since diagnosis and in some ways it is easier than the first one.  We are trying to stay grateful and putting one foot in front of the other.

Tlhinking of you.

 

Aloha,

Kathleen

janie1

Kathleen808 said:

Judy,

Judy,

The hodlidays can be so hard for us.  This is ****'s 4th Christmas since diagnosis and in some ways it is easier than the first one.  We are trying to stay grateful and putting one foot in front of the other.

Tlhinking of you.

 

Aloha,

Kathleen

Hi Judy

Remember, you are never alone.  Life is different, that is for sure.  I am grateful that I see things differently....thanks to cancer.  What I love, I love even more.  What i see, is so much more vivid, and the list goes on and on.  Don't care much for all the superficial stuff.  

Hope you have good, positive people around you.  Negative ones??   Well, you can avoid those.  Do what you need to do to boost YOU!  You more than deserve it. 

Here's to a better NEW YEAR!

 

Eltina21

Just Feeling Sad

Hi,

   I just wantd you to know that we all feel a bit sad at times.  Just know that you are not alone.  Just take one day at a time and live each day to the fulliest.  This year I will turn 60.  I am truly looking forward to new adventures. I am thankful for great family and friends.  My closest friends were my roommates in college.  We called ourselves the Fantastic 4, when we met iun 1971.  Now we are the Golden girls.  One of us has had bilateral knee replacment, I had cancer, the other has diabetes.  I told them if they put all of our body parts together, we would be something else. However we travel, party, talk about our grandchildren and still work 40 hours each week.  Most of all we laugh.  I pray that you laugh as well . Have a wonderful day.

  Peace and Blessings,

     Karen