Stage IV- my fiancé, 22 yrs old

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  • debbie steadham
    debbie steadham Member Posts: 30
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    bigdavey said:

    hi dave
    my girlfriend is
    hi dave
    my girlfriend is going through the same treatments as yours
    it all began 2 years ago when she had stomach aches she went to the docs who did a wee sample and said she had the onset of the menopause she was 49 6 months later she still didn't feel right so went to another doc who did bloods and was confirmed xmas eve 2010 stage 3c ovarian cancer devastated we both thought it was the end of the world we married 2 months later thinking this is the end
    jeanette started her chemo in the february she had 3 sessions of carbo/taxol then underwent her debulking op then continued with her chemo her initial ca 125 was 10000 thats right 10000 after her first chemo it went to 13000 when she had finished her session it was down to 11 so we thought hey cracked it obviously she had all the side effects and i mean all neuopathy,bone aches,fatigue,chemo brain,listlessness, vision bluring,you get the picture anyway we bought gifts for the staff and nurses stupid now but we really thought that we had beaten it
    6 months later it was back this time the prof thought gemcitabane was the way to go so she had 3 sessions of this then her veins closed up so they put a pod in her stomach for the iv 2 more sessions and she was dying in front of me her pain was to much i rushed her back to mount vernon were they couldn't understand what had gone wrong she managed to crawl out of bed and her pod exploded through the skin poison running down her leg swiftly transfered her to surgery they removed the mess and managed to perforate her bowel in the process 7 weeks of hospital treatment at one point i received a phone call to tell me to get there quick she didn't have long well the doctors and nurses never gave up her temperature was hitting 40.5 she had more wires in her then i'd ever seen she couldn't eat or drink she in fact looked like a concentration camp survior slowly she turned the corner july 2012 she came home frail and weak she put her weight back on and we went on holiday for a week october this year she felt things were not right so we went back to the hospital and sure enough it's back this time in her pelvis and lymph nodes were now on taxol on its own for 18 weeks every week her hair is on its way out again she is fatigued all the time but we'll see it through together
    the reason i post this to you is just to say if you love someone you commit and never give in even in the darkest of times i know it's a fight we probably wont win but were together and lifes not forever but love is
    take care my friend and let me know how things are

    I am so thankful my husband does'nt feel that way...
    bigdavey,im not normally one to say anything about anyones post and i know we can say anything or vent or whatever,I read this post you wrote and was thinking how blessed we are to have our husbands ore boyfriends by our side.Then i came to the end of your post and i felt so bad for your wife when you closed with its a fight we probably wont win.If my husband feels that way he never voices it to me and i am so grateful he doesnt,I do not want to be around negative people.I had the thought while reading this ,What if she sees this post, probably a fight yall wont win.Please keep a positive outlook for youself as well as for her.Again im not trying to be hateful ,God is still working miracles.Hope all is well with your wife.Debbie

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