Getting Ready for 'post surgery'

worriedabouthubby

Samsungtech1 said:

Apology
I apologize for upsetting you. This was not my intent. It just seemed lime you were taking this lightly. Unfortunately, as happens, when you are trying to expand your knowledge to help your husband it is like a puzzle with missing pieces. I asked my question because you provided little information. Iam sorry for your curcumstances. I did not mean to upset you. I was trying to understand your situation. You have alot on your plate and you definetly do not need me adding to it.

Good luck.

Mike

I apologize, too
Samsungtech1- I'm sorry I snapped at you. You were trying to be helpful. I have made several other postings and forget that (because I haven't yet figured out the signature thing) that everyone who replies to one of my posts doesn't know all I've posted. I'm just very tense right now- we go to see the antheseologist at the hospital tomorrow and I've been mentally runnig around and around about what I need to do to be ready for the surgery and his homecoming. Because HE is in denial about alot of things. He won't make decisions about somethings because he doesn't want to think about them. I am also still caring for my mother-in-law and am worried about her care suffering while I have to be more focused on him. I didn't mean to take it out on you. Again, I'm sorry I responded without thinking. Thank you for all you do by sharing your knowledge and experience with newbies like me. Forgive me.

worriedabouthubby

Samsungtech1 said:

Apology
I apologize for upsetting you. This was not my intent. It just seemed lime you were taking this lightly. Unfortunately, as happens, when you are trying to expand your knowledge to help your husband it is like a puzzle with missing pieces. I asked my question because you provided little information. Iam sorry for your curcumstances. I did not mean to upset you. I was trying to understand your situation. You have alot on your plate and you definetly do not need me adding to it.

Good luck.

Mike

i apoligize, too
Oops- dulipcate

subu1970

worriedabouthubby said:

I apologize, too
Samsungtech1- I'm sorry I snapped at you. You were trying to be helpful. I have made several other postings and forget that (because I haven't yet figured out the signature thing) that everyone who replies to one of my posts doesn't know all I've posted. I'm just very tense right now- we go to see the antheseologist at the hospital tomorrow and I've been mentally runnig around and around about what I need to do to be ready for the surgery and his homecoming. Because HE is in denial about alot of things. He won't make decisions about somethings because he doesn't want to think about them. I am also still caring for my mother-in-law and am worried about her care suffering while I have to be more focused on him. I didn't mean to take it out on you. Again, I'm sorry I responded without thinking. Thank you for all you do by sharing your knowledge and experience with newbies like me. Forgive me.

Not to burden you any more,
Not to burden you any more, but Davinci or RRP, it will be a great idea to start thinking about ED rehabilitation, and about Kegels for strengthing the pelvic muscles. It may take a while to have both of these functions back to normal. Persistence and patience is the virtue. Do not give up on getting completely well. Good luck.

lewvino

worriedabouthubby said:

He hears what he wants to
I am talking to and listening to the docs and researching to find everything I can. I am fully aware of the seriousness. But he wants so badly to believe that this will all be fine. I am trying to arm myself with knowledge and to get him to be open to the facts. But I don't want to alienate him. He is a very stubborn man. I have been caring for many people over the past fewyears and am rather experienced in dealing with the health services, medical personnel, and in doing research. I view this board and others that I am on as tools to increase my knowledge. I also hoped to find emotion support. And in fact I felt I had until your last 2 sentences. My husband my br in denial about how bad things MAY be, but I am not.

thank you for providing some
thank you for providing some more details on your hubby. Ultimately as you have stated it is his decision to make. Be there and provide support for him but also get support for yourself also! A gleason 9 is one of the harder cases to treat. Yes the doctor can go in and remove the prostate. Its good that the doctor has a good number of procedures under his belt. However keep in mind the following: Being a gleason 9 the doctor will most likely take larger margins. That is to cut wider around the prostate to get surronding tissue that will be sent to the lab for analysis. I'm a gleason 7 (Three year post surgery). Not to discourage you but there is a good chance the 'cancer' has allready spread. THis may not show up yet on scans but they will closely watch your husbands PSA post surgery. MOst likely checks every 3-6 months.

Some Doctors recommend a double hit against the Gleason 9's. Surgery followed by radiation to surronding tissue.

Does your husband like to read? He may want to read Dr. Patrick Walsh's book on surviving Prostate cancer. It is written in easy to understand terms and he talks about all kinds of scenarios in his book.

There are many woman on this site who will be glad to provide you the support you need. You may also want to check another useful online forum called healingwell.com THey have many on that forum who are further down the road with 'advanced cases' of prostate cancer and are also very willing to assist others.

Again best wishes to you and your husband please keep us informed!

lewvino (larry)