CAREGIVER'S DILEMMA- TO CRY OR NOT TO CRY?

bawa

ABC321 said:

My partner James is stage 4
My partner James is stage 4 and has been for over one year. we have three young children together (3,5 & 8) and he lives for them. All he wants is to see our youngest daughter start school next year, or to spend just one more Christmas together. We traveled to Sri lanka earlier this year with friends, and have bought tickets for Disney Land (LA) next month. Tears are never far away, for both of us. James is having a PET scan today, and we get the results tomorrow. lots more tears comming up i suspect, but either way, we have something to look forward to...i think that really helps. James loves to plan our holidays overseas, and this may be our last. I remind james to live each day, and not to focus on the future, but thats not so easy to do when you have very young children. James and i were having a cry in one of the kids bedrooms on the weekend, and our two youngest danced back and forth past the door in a congo line singing a show tune...you cant help but smile when you see that...it reminds you how great life is. Our family is strong and will band together when things get tough...the children will be ok, and will never forget who brought them to this earth and gave them such a fantastic start in life. Crying is good, its necessary, to cope with the pain. Live each day, and enjoy the time...life is good, even if it doesn;t feel that way sometimes.
XX

Vow!
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I am glad you shared them so beautifully. All the best for the scan. Can understand how it might feel. Prayers.
Bawa

bawa

ABC321 said:

My partner James is stage 4
My partner James is stage 4 and has been for over one year. we have three young children together (3,5 & 8) and he lives for them. All he wants is to see our youngest daughter start school next year, or to spend just one more Christmas together. We traveled to Sri lanka earlier this year with friends, and have bought tickets for Disney Land (LA) next month. Tears are never far away, for both of us. James is having a PET scan today, and we get the results tomorrow. lots more tears comming up i suspect, but either way, we have something to look forward to...i think that really helps. James loves to plan our holidays overseas, and this may be our last. I remind james to live each day, and not to focus on the future, but thats not so easy to do when you have very young children. James and i were having a cry in one of the kids bedrooms on the weekend, and our two youngest danced back and forth past the door in a congo line singing a show tune...you cant help but smile when you see that...it reminds you how great life is. Our family is strong and will band together when things get tough...the children will be ok, and will never forget who brought them to this earth and gave them such a fantastic start in life. Crying is good, its necessary, to cope with the pain. Live each day, and enjoy the time...life is good, even if it doesn;t feel that way sometimes.
XX

Vow!
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I am glad you shared them so beautifully. All the best for the scan. Can understand how it might feel. Prayers.
Bawa

bawa

ABC321 said:

My partner James is stage 4
My partner James is stage 4 and has been for over one year. we have three young children together (3,5 & 8) and he lives for them. All he wants is to see our youngest daughter start school next year, or to spend just one more Christmas together. We traveled to Sri lanka earlier this year with friends, and have bought tickets for Disney Land (LA) next month. Tears are never far away, for both of us. James is having a PET scan today, and we get the results tomorrow. lots more tears comming up i suspect, but either way, we have something to look forward to...i think that really helps. James loves to plan our holidays overseas, and this may be our last. I remind james to live each day, and not to focus on the future, but thats not so easy to do when you have very young children. James and i were having a cry in one of the kids bedrooms on the weekend, and our two youngest danced back and forth past the door in a congo line singing a show tune...you cant help but smile when you see that...it reminds you how great life is. Our family is strong and will band together when things get tough...the children will be ok, and will never forget who brought them to this earth and gave them such a fantastic start in life. Crying is good, its necessary, to cope with the pain. Live each day, and enjoy the time...life is good, even if it doesn;t feel that way sometimes.
XX

Vow!
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I am glad you shared them so beautifully. All the best for the scan. Can understand how it might feel. Prayers.
Bawa

bawa

ABC321 said:

My partner James is stage 4
My partner James is stage 4 and has been for over one year. we have three young children together (3,5 & 8) and he lives for them. All he wants is to see our youngest daughter start school next year, or to spend just one more Christmas together. We traveled to Sri lanka earlier this year with friends, and have bought tickets for Disney Land (LA) next month. Tears are never far away, for both of us. James is having a PET scan today, and we get the results tomorrow. lots more tears comming up i suspect, but either way, we have something to look forward to...i think that really helps. James loves to plan our holidays overseas, and this may be our last. I remind james to live each day, and not to focus on the future, but thats not so easy to do when you have very young children. James and i were having a cry in one of the kids bedrooms on the weekend, and our two youngest danced back and forth past the door in a congo line singing a show tune...you cant help but smile when you see that...it reminds you how great life is. Our family is strong and will band together when things get tough...the children will be ok, and will never forget who brought them to this earth and gave them such a fantastic start in life. Crying is good, its necessary, to cope with the pain. Live each day, and enjoy the time...life is good, even if it doesn;t feel that way sometimes.
XX

Vow!
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I am glad you shared them so beautifully. All the best for the scan. Can understand how it might feel. Prayers.
Bawa

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bawa said:

HOSPICE IS A GOOD IDEA
I will surely look for some hospice services in San Jose area of USA. Thats a good suggestion and it will help us all. I appreciate.

Thanks

Hospice
Hi Bawa

I don't usually post on this board, but I do follow closely.

Our family has used a wonderful hospice that I highly reccomend. We live near Stanford and this hospice is all over the bay area.
We used them this year for my mom who passed away in February and we used them for my mother in law last year.
If we ever need to use hospice again, I would call them right away. They were so helpful in every way.

This is their information: VITAS Innovative Hospice Care of California 1-866-418-4827

There are many hospice in the bay area, and we know many who have used other ones, but I really believe that Vitas is one of the best around.

Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions about our hospice experience. I would be more than happy to answer your questions.

Hugs
Lisha