My Husband Lost His Battle - Father's Day 6/17/12

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Some of you may have seen this on Facebook - others not. My husband lost his battle at 6:37 am on Sunday morning - Father's Day - 6/17. He was doing so well - had finished his treatment (this was his third battle with the beast) - was recovering well, had trache and picc line removed, and was getting his energy back. He had started back walking with the dog and I and even the doctors, who he saw on Friday, 6/15, were amazed by his recovery.

Sunday morning he woke me pointing at his throat/neck indicating he couldn't breathe. We tried to suction, while dialing 911. The suctioning didn't work and he went to the ground. While on phone with 911 I did mouth-to-mouth and air was coming back at me so I knew he had some sort of blockage in his throat that was cutting off the airway. Parameds were there within 5 minutes and they worked on him a long time. They transported him to the hospital but he was gone when they left here with him.

Doctor had hospital said no airway, following by cardiac arrest. I have asked myself a zillion times if he hadn't had the trache taken out would that have made a difference. Doc examined him and we saw on the screen he had a decent airway. I guess we will never know - could have been scar tissue build up, swelling, who knows.

I guess God was ready for him to go home. I believe his cancer was not gone and he was being spared the nasty road that was laying ahead of him.

Everyone here is so kind and supportive during treatment and after. It is such a place of comfort.

We are doing ok, sad, tired and trying to wrap our arms around the fact that he is gone.
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  • hwt
    hwt Member Posts: 2,328 Member
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    So sorry for your loss. May
    So sorry for your loss. May happy memories help you through this sad time. God bless your family.
  • MarineE5
    MarineE5 Member Posts: 1,032 Member
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    No Words
    No words that I type here will take away the pain, hopefully as time passes, the pain will ease and only fond memories will remain.....
  • CivilMatt
    CivilMatt Member Posts: 4,723 Member
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    prayers
    Kimmygarland,

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Matt
  • Jahnsart
    Jahnsart Member Posts: 41
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    it is a good thing he was at home
    It was sad to hear about your news, I must admit that it is always in the back of my mind that I could also die from this. I hope you take some consolation that you had an opportunity to be with him and love him all throughout your shared ordeal. Thanks for sharing and being an example of love and support.
  • KareGiver
    KareGiver Member Posts: 301 Member
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    CivilMatt said:

    prayers
    Kimmygarland,

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Matt

    Please know
    you are in my thoughts and prayers. So, so sorry...
  • phrannie51
    phrannie51 Member Posts: 4,716
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    Kimmy....
    I did see this on Facebook, and said a prayer the day I saw it. I am so sorry for your loss...

    p
  • Kent Cass
    Kent Cass Member Posts: 1,898 Member
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    Kimmy....
    I did see this on Facebook, and said a prayer the day I saw it. I am so sorry for your loss...

    p

    Kimmy
    So sorry to hear of this, and glad you let us know. Prayers are with you going forward.

    kcass
  • katenorwood
    katenorwood Member Posts: 1,912
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    Love sent...
    Hello,
    Thank you for sharing this very private hurt with us. I too was with my mother when she lost her battle with this demon. Way different...we knew she was leaving us. The words I'm so sorry doesn't qualify as a good enough response. In my heart and soul I feel for you and your family. May God lift you up and make the road a little easier to travel. Warmest regards, Katie
  • ooo
    ooo Member Posts: 105
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    Kimmy,
    Thank you for

    Kimmy,

    Thank you for sharing your story. Eventually time will make the bad times fade away and leave you only with good memories of a true hero. Hugs to you and to the family.

    Dre.
  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
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    So Very Sorry....
    I'm so very sorry to hear the loss of another warrior from our family here....

    Each time I see news like this it takes a little piece of me away.

    The consolation is that he will be always with you, loving you and with you every day. The memories you have, the thoughts that you shared, the life that you have lived, the family that you have.....he is with you.

    Prayers,
    John
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
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    I am so sorry for your loss
    Kimmy, I wish I had some magic words or something I could do to make this easier.

    Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God's grace surround you and your family during this very difficult time.

    Y'all had a long, hard fight.
  • joannaw81
    joannaw81 Member Posts: 185 Member
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    I am so sorry for your loss
    Kimmy, I wish I had some magic words or something I could do to make this easier.

    Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God's grace surround you and your family during this very difficult time.

    Y'all had a long, hard fight.

    Kimmy
    I am truly very sorry for your loss. Please now that your husband is know in the best place that he could be-with God.
  • Sam999
    Sam999 Member Posts: 319 Member
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    joannaw81 said:

    Kimmy
    I am truly very sorry for your loss. Please now that your husband is know in the best place that he could be-with God.

    Kimmy,
    I am so sorry for

    Kimmy,

    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

    Sam
  • D Lewis
    D Lewis Member Posts: 1,581 Member
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    Kimmy
    Your husband fought his battle against cancer with grace and dignity and love. He did not lose. He won in the end. Holding you in my heart during this difficult time. My condolences to you and your family.

    Deb
  • Tonsil Dad
    Tonsil Dad Member Posts: 488
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    D Lewis said:

    Kimmy
    Your husband fought his battle against cancer with grace and dignity and love. He did not lose. He won in the end. Holding you in my heart during this difficult time. My condolences to you and your family.

    Deb

    Kimmy.
    So sorry for your loss, thoughts and prayers are heading your way.

    God bless
    Tonsil dad,

    Dan.
  • Grandmax4
    Grandmax4 Member Posts: 723
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    Deepest Sympathy
    from my family to yours
  • ToBeGolden
    ToBeGolden Member Posts: 695
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    Sorry
    I'm sorry to hear your loss. Although it may be hard for you to tell the story, it is instructive for the rest of us to hear it. You and your husband are in my prayers. Rick.
  • tommyodavey
    tommyodavey Member Posts: 727 Member
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    Sorry
    I'm sorry to hear your loss. Although it may be hard for you to tell the story, it is instructive for the rest of us to hear it. You and your husband are in my prayers. Rick.

    So Sorry
    I cannot think of much to say with such a huge loss. My deepest sympathy to you and yours. Just like John said, it takes a little bit of us when one of our own losses the battle.

    God Bless,

    Tommy
  • Tim6003
    Tim6003 Member Posts: 1,514 Member
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    So Sorry
    I cannot think of much to say with such a huge loss. My deepest sympathy to you and yours. Just like John said, it takes a little bit of us when one of our own losses the battle.

    God Bless,

    Tommy

    That hurts...
    That hurts to hear your news. All of us here are just like your husband, we have battled the beast (though your husband obviously is very tough to have fought 3 times)and when we hear we have lost one , it does take away a piece of our heart as well.

    I pray peace and comfort for you. Three times? Your husband is certainly my hero.

    I am sorry for you loss.

    Sincerely,

    Tim
  • buzz99
    buzz99 Member Posts: 404
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    Kimmy
    So sorry to hear of your loss. What a shock when he seemed to be doing well. My heart goes out to you. Karen