Oral sex

13»

Comments

  • Tim6003
    Tim6003 Member Posts: 1,514 Member
    #42
    tuffenuff said:

    Every continent but
    Every continent but antarctica! Wow... I wish I had been that adventurous. It would make all of this a little easier to swallow, no pun intended.

    Being everyone here seems to be beyond legal age of consent, I think it would have been a travesty if the original post had been deleted. This is something we are discussing with our doctors so it should be fair game on the boards. There was nothing indelicate or pornographic in the way he phrased his post. And I'm sure at least 10 people were chomping at the bit to ask similar questions but are too embarrassed to do so. I'm sure the cervical cancer and anal cancer boards are overrun with this type of question and if they aren't, they should be. Oral sex should get the same attention.

    Birds don't do, bees don't don't do it but we do it. Or most of us anyway. Perfectly natural conversation and I commend the original poster for being brave enough to bring it up.

    Well....I'm for the vaccine...
    I never was against it...just never gave it a thought. Base of tongue cancer has made me realize I NEVER want one of my five children to go through what we did (btw...not that anyone anyone cares, I thought the comments of Bachman were silly and irresponsible, but she is entitled to her opinion..I just attributed her talk to "election fever" ..lol)

    I have a 13 year old daugher ...we are more or less a "traditional" family. I teach her to wait...be careful, blah blah blah...but I'm not dumb.

    Now my daughter (and four sons if allowed) will be given the vaccine (my decision). My wife too will be tested and if she shows clear or not I think she should get the vaccine.

    Because of this thread and comments by skiffin and some other links...I too may get the vaccine even though I was dx already with BOT HPV+.

    So I for one am thankful for the discussion and I learn something new everyday on this forum.

    Tim
  • nedsky39
    nedsky39 Member Posts: 6
    #43
    Irishgypsie said:

    Good Subject!!
    This is a subject that unfortunately most people of the medical community and patients tend to ignore!! Instead they say don't smoke, don't drink alcohol anymore; they don't say don't have anymore oral sex!! Also,one that I have had trouble with from the beginning; since I'm single. (How do you meet someone and let alone tell them you are a cancer survivor and in addition, tell them you got this from a STD)??? :(

    This is why I stopped going to my support group because all the older people who didn't get tested for HPV and the clinicians don't want to talk about this subject!! :(

    Regardless of what we don't know the fact is it's a reality; though there isn't 100% certainty that this was caused by oral sex; all the research is leaning that way! I won't share my oral sex history, but as far as the research goes, I am definitley in the (more than 5 partners)high risk category!

    If this isn't caused by oral sex then why is HPV+ Oral Cancer low in african americans? From the african american men that I have made friends with over the years; they have mostly all stated that they don't partake in oral sex. Is this why there tumors are negative for HPV? who knows for sure, but it definitley makes sense!! In addition, those of you who are lucky to be in relationships; chances are if your spouse did have HPV; most likely there bodies cleared it like the rest of the majority of the population; so obviously the paps will be negative, but rememeber it's not just in the cervix; it can be on the genitals, hence vuvlar cancer, penile cancer etc!!! These areas are not tested in a PAP or male exam!!! In addition, people are not having there spouses oral cavities swabbed! Is HPV there? Afterall they performed oral sex as well most likely!! it's a viscious cycle, possibly being passed back and forth, like a viral ping-pong game :(!!! Maybe it's being spread from french kissing??? Who knows, but are we gonna stop kissing???? :(

    Yes we are unlucky at this cancer lottery; but like laralyn stated, "we are lucky it's HPV+) the bottom line is "life is short and you have to be happy"; we all know this too well being the ones on this side of the fence. I guess it just depends what you can live with. We can't say for certain if oral sex will continue to put us at risk; you can use a dental dam; but I know it's unnatural; I say go for it, life is short!!

    Yes, I have decided to get the vaccines; is this a waste of time? Who knows for sure, however some research is tending to show this may help with preventing HPV reaccurence, which can lead to cell dysplasia; which we know may lead to cancer reaccurence. In addition, Why get this?; because I believe that chances are if we are lucky enough to be alive 10,20,30 years from now an HPV outbreak is more than likely to reaccur again!!! :(


    This is such a good/Huge subject it probably should have a super thread of it's own!!!

    Charles

    Guardsil vaccine?
    My husband has HPV+ SCC of BOT Stg III and has now finished his RX....same rx as most pt's...33IMRT's and 4 chemos running concurrently. I have tested negative for HPV...clear paps with HPV testing and never had atypical pap. I have read that John's Hopkins is recommending that pt's and their partners get the Guardasil vaccine. Our oncologist isn't recommending it...she said it's still in study stage. I asked if my husband could still have HPV...she says...we're treating CA not HPV...not very helpful!....anyone been recommended vaccine?......
  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #44
    nedsky39 said:

    Guardsil vaccine?
    My husband has HPV+ SCC of BOT Stg III and has now finished his RX....same rx as most pt's...33IMRT's and 4 chemos running concurrently. I have tested negative for HPV...clear paps with HPV testing and never had atypical pap. I have read that John's Hopkins is recommending that pt's and their partners get the Guardasil vaccine. Our oncologist isn't recommending it...she said it's still in study stage. I asked if my husband could still have HPV...she says...we're treating CA not HPV...not very helpful!....anyone been recommended vaccine?......

    No Cure for HPV
    As far as I know and have read, there is no cure for HPV, although in most people, the infection goes away within a year or so. Since an HPV infection does not usually cause symptoms, most people are completely unaware that they have even been infected.

    My wife, like you is tested annually during her exams and paps. Her MD doesn't feel anything other than is necessary to date.

    Best,
    John

Discussion Boards