Hello, had the follow up visit with my mom's surgeon. She is 79 and had her right kidney removed by robot a week ago. She is stage 3 grade 4. T3N1mx. Also has a positive margin for the renal vein. The surgeon gave us the report and basically told us mom is on borrowed time and that she will subcumb to her disease. He gave no hope or anything and was very matter of fact. Is this true? Are there no drugs out there to help at all? So we have to make an appt. with an oncologist and i am going to take her to Sloan for that. She is diabetic and has heart issues. One positive lymph node but the surgeon only took two out and said it wasn't necessary to take more because if one is positive then they are all positive. I don't see how that is possible if only one out of two were positive. I am just thinking he should have done a radical on her but given her age he didn't want to. I guess he feels she lived long enough. There was no hope and only negativity. We did not tell mom yet. She is already scared as it is. What a terrible office visit. This is the same doctor that told her maybe he can cure her because the mass was only 4.3cm. Turns out it was 6.5 cm. What to do now?