My mom is gone

Ginny_B
Ginny_B Member Posts: 532
in Esophageal Cancer #1
It is with a broken heart that I tell you my mom is gone. She slipped into a coma 9 days ago and left me at 2:30 this afternoon. My brother stopped by to visit and I think that's all mom needed - her two children together with her. I was holding her and talking to her. She never regained consciousness. She took two breaths and the Lord took her into His arms.

This is the darkest day of my life. I am so happy for my mom's peace and comfort, but words cannot describe my pain. Everything was beautiful. I will cherish this for the rest of my days.

There are no words to describe the loss of my mother. The pain and emptiness is overwhelming. I had some alone moments with mom. I love you mom and will forever miss you.
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  • stephikindred
    stephikindred Member Posts: 140
    #2
    My heart is breaking for you
    Oh Ginny, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had your moments with her and were able to communicate and even at the point when she could not respond I'm glad you kept talking and holding her hand and just sharing the quiet moments together. I hope the lifetime of memories of your mom will help ease your pain and comfort you. She'll always be with you...now she's with you in spirit.

    With deepest sympathy,
    Stephanie
  • Freida
    Freida Member Posts: 182
    #3
    Ginny, I am so sorry you
    Ginny, I am so sorry you have lost your beloved Mom. You are a wonderful daughter and did such a wonderful job of taking care of her. I know you are going to miss her dearly. Hugs. Freida.
  • jgwright
    jgwright Member Posts: 242
    #4
    So sorry
    Ginny, take time to grieve, and then take stock of her life and yours. You've been a truly great daughter, and you know your mom loves you. And so do we all.

    --Jerry
  • AngieD
    AngieD Member Posts: 493
    #5
    jgwright said:

    So sorry
    Ginny, take time to grieve, and then take stock of her life and yours. You've been a truly great daughter, and you know your mom loves you. And so do we all.

    --Jerry

    Ginny, I'm so glad you and
    Ginny, I'm so glad you and your brother were with your mother this afternoon and that she is at peace. I'm praying for strength for you and all the family in the days to come. Just know that you were a wonderful caretaker for your mom and showed her how much you loved her. I know she is smiling down on you with love and pride.
    Angie
  • ritawaite13
    ritawaite13 Member Posts: 236
    #6
    Hi Ginny
    I think Terry said it best...thank you for sharing your mom with us. I think I know how incredibly hard this was on you. You poured your heart out to us and we all embraced you. Your love for you mom was evident in every post. You were an amazing caretaker and my heart aches for you. This awful cancer has been so hard on so many of us.
    I pray that wonderful healthy memories of your mom will bring you some comfort over the coming days and weeks. Saying goodbye to someone we love so much is the hardest thing we'll ever endure. I'm glad she was comfortable and pain free and you were able to be right there with her. I'm also so glad you had that magical moment when she got mad. As difficult as it was for you to be her principal caregiver, you'll never regret doing that for her - and for yourself. May God wrap his arms around you and give you some peace and rest.
    Love Rita
  • cher76
    cher76 Member Posts: 292
    #7
    Ginny, I am so very sorry to
    Ginny, I am so very sorry to hear of your mom's passing. You have been a loving and devoted daughter. Know that you did everything you could for her, as I am sure she knew that as well. May you find comfort knowing she is now without pain, and let the love that held you both so close continue to bring you comfort and strength. This disease is just so heartbreakingly cruel. Everyday it is robbing us of our loved ones way too soon. I pray for peace for you and your family and for an end to the pain and suffering that EC causes.
    Love,
    Cheryl
    "Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.". Eskimo proverb
  • annalan
    annalan Member Posts: 138
    #8
    So very sorry to hear about
    So very sorry to hear about your mum. You were with her every step of her horrible EC journey, you couldn't have done more. Please take comfort in the fact that she is now at peace, no more suffering for her and walk down memory lane with all your lovely memories. Big hugs to you and your brother.

    Ann
    Wife of Alan, who departed this life January 31st.
  • bingbing2009
    bingbing2009 Member Posts: 177
    #9
    Our Deepest Condolences
    Ginny, we are so sorry to hear this news. Just take things one day at a time. Time truly does help heal the pain.
    You are in our thoughts and prayers.

    Melinda and Vaughn
  • sangora
    sangora Member Posts: 213
    #10
    bingbing2009 said:

    Our Deepest Condolences
    Ginny, we are so sorry to hear this news. Just take things one day at a time. Time truly does help heal the pain.
    You are in our thoughts and prayers.

    Melinda and Vaughn

    Special Lady
    Ginny your mom was a special lady who raised a special daughter. The time you and she spent together these last few months will sustain you thru these dark days. Know that she is in a happier place and free of this disease. Sam
  • BMGky
    BMGky Member Posts: 621
    #11
    So sorry to hear of your
    So sorry to hear of your loss. Our deepest condolences. BMGky
  • Guigna
    Guigna Member Posts: 63
    #12
    BMGky said:

    So sorry to hear of your
    So sorry to hear of your loss. Our deepest condolences. BMGky

    sorry for your loss
    Sounds like she fought a tough battle. With you at her side.
  • TerryV
    TerryV Member Posts: 887
    #13
    I am SO Sorry, Ginny!
    Your mom put up a hard fight. She truly was a woman of great spirit and determination. It's not difficult to see where you get your spunk from :)

    You have been an excellent caregiver for your mom. And think of the special times, the alone moments, the "heart" moments, that you and your mom shared during this time. I believe you both learned a lot about each other.

    You've made some wonderful memories. Thank you for sharing your mom with us.

    With love & hugs,

    Terry
  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #14
    Thinking of You
    Hi Ginny
    I am sending you my deepest sympahties to you and your family on the loss of your mom. I lost my dad to esophageal cancer in March 2010. Your story sounds familiar to ours. My brother lives in NJ we live in Va. My brother made the trip to Va the day my dad passed.
    My dad was surrounded by his family when he passed. He went peacefully, like your mom.

    It is a wonderful memory for us to have. They are not longer suffering, no longer in pain, no longer battling cancer. May God grant you and your family the strength and peace you all need at this difficult time. Keep in touch. I do, it has been two years, I come here often. It helps me to help others.
    Tina in Va
  • JaneO
    JaneO Member Posts: 40
    #15
    Ginny
    So sorry to hear your mom has passed due to this awful disease. I think losing your mom is one of the hardest thing to deal with. I was very close to my mom also and it doesn't matter how old you get, you still think of yourself as their daughter. Hold onto the memories and be proud of the care you gave her. She is now in heaven looking over you and smiling.
    Jane
  • MissusB
    MissusB Member Posts: 111
    #16
    JaneO said:

    Ginny
    So sorry to hear your mom has passed due to this awful disease. I think losing your mom is one of the hardest thing to deal with. I was very close to my mom also and it doesn't matter how old you get, you still think of yourself as their daughter. Hold onto the memories and be proud of the care you gave her. She is now in heaven looking over you and smiling.
    Jane

    Ginny ~
    I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I know you will be forever grateful that you were able to be there with her the last few moments of her life. I do understand what you mean when you say there are no words to describe what you are feeling. I loved seeing a picture of you and your Mom in better times on Facebook. You both looked so happy! I will keep you close in my thoughts and prayers. Love to you - Kim
  • captdave
    captdave Member Posts: 153
    #17
    Ginny, I'm so sorry to hear
    Ginny, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. As you said your mother is at peace and pain free now. my deepest sympathies and condolences to you and your family.
  • birdiequeen
    birdiequeen Member Posts: 319
    #18
    Ginny,
    What a full picture
    Ginny,

    What a full picture you have painted here on CSN of your mother. I wish I could have known her in person. I feel for your loss. It is hard for me to fathom the loss of a parent. Take time to find your feet again. You have an angle on your journey with you.

    Godspeed,
    Lee Ann
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    #19
    Ginny,
    The next few days
    Ginny,

    The next few days will be a blur. Take things a day at a time and remember to take care of yourself too. I know how difficult this is --- I still have an empty place in my heart since my dad left us but I think he is looking out for us. But it doesn't make it easier when I want to pick up the phone and hear his voice.

    Love and hugs,
    Cindy
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