Mom got mad!

Ginny_B
Ginny_B Member Posts: 532
in Esophageal Cancer #1
My daughter and the nurse were giving mom a bath and changing sheets. She was being jostled around and bothered. she opened her eyes and frowned! they called me and I could see mom looking at me so we talked! I told her the PICC line was gone and rubbed and rubbed her arm. I told her that her orchid bloomed. I told her who had visited and she made a sound. Then Chrissy and I said we could see her eyelids move and to blink if she could hear us. She blinked twice! She also nodded twice!

It was wonderful despite the fact that I was crying the whole time. She was aware! She knew! It was the greatest moment! It was all I wanted... a few more minutes.

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  • stephikindred
    stephikindred Member Posts: 140
    #2
    That is Awesome!
    I'm so very glad you had your wish! That is so beautiful. Thanks for sharing this!
    Steph
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    #3
    What a blessing! Now you
    What a blessing! Now you know she's still aware-keep telling her how much she means to you-she's hearing every word. I would talk to my mom about heaven and everyone waiting for her. She would get the sweetest look and smiles on her face. I know she was seeing the Lord and all the splender waiting for her.
  • BMGky
    BMGky Member Posts: 621
    #4
    Beautiful! Wonderful
    Beautiful! Wonderful memories!!

    Reminds me of an old-fashioned hymn:

    Precious memories how they linger,
    How they ever flood my soul.
    In the stillness of the midnight.
    Precious sacred scenes unfold.
  • AngieD
    AngieD Member Posts: 493
    #5
    BMGky said:

    Beautiful! Wonderful
    Beautiful! Wonderful memories!!

    Reminds me of an old-fashioned hymn:

    Precious memories how they linger,
    How they ever flood my soul.
    In the stillness of the midnight.
    Precious sacred scenes unfold.

    I've got tears in my eye,
    I've got tears in my eyes, Ginny! That is wonderful, so just keep talking. She hears you!
    Angie
  • ritawaite13
    ritawaite13 Member Posts: 236
    #6
    Wonderful
    That is awesome, Ginny! She heard you and was able to respond...perfect! Some people think I'm crazy when I say to keep talking to your loved ones even if they appear to not hear a word...they DO hear! Just keep telling her everything you've ever wanted to say and let the tears flow. Tears are expected and necessary at a time like this. I don't know anyone who would not cry and I don't think I want to know anyone who was unable to express such sorrow.
    Big Hugs to you Ginny, and to your mom too.
    Rita
  • TerryV
    TerryV Member Posts: 887
    #7
    Glad you saw awareness
    It's so important to us to see awareness in our loved one's eyes. So very glad you got that and the 5 more minutes you wanted, Ginny. These are surely special moments with your mom.

    Thank you for sharing your special time with us.

    Love & Hugs to you all. That is one tough lady.

    Terry
  • Ginny_B
    Ginny_B Member Posts: 532
    #8
    All the nurses talk to mom.
    All the nurses talk to mom. I walk by and hear them. Every time they do something they call her name and tell her what they are doing.
  • Donna70
    Donna70 Member Posts: 852 Member
    #9
    Ginny_B said:

    All the nurses talk to mom.
    All the nurses talk to mom. I walk by and hear them. Every time they do something they call her name and tell her what they are doing.

    so glad
    Dear Ginny,
    So glad you had those moments and that your Mom can hear you. You all have been thru so much, glad she has loving and caring nurses at this time and you there always helping her. take care,
    Donna70
  • Freida
    Freida Member Posts: 182
    #10
    Your post made me cry. How
    Your post made me cry. How wonderful that you got those few moments and got to tell her that the horrid PICC line was out and that her orchid bloomed.

    I remember when my Dad had his stroke and I flew back to England to see him. My brother and I went to the hospital and had talked to the head nurse and she said there was no chance of recovery and we had to decide is we wanted feeding and fluid tubes and such to prolong his life - he had been pulling them out even in his unconscious state. We made the decision not to. We sat by his bed for a couple of hours and suddenly he became aware for about 5 minutes and talked and talked and talked. Couldn't understand a word he said, but he pointed to the pictures of my kids that I had put by his bed and smiled and had a sparkle in his eyes. As suddenly as he awoke, he was gone again. He died the next day. it was such a magical moment and meant a lot. I am so glad you got your moment.
  • Ginny_B
    Ginny_B Member Posts: 532
    #11
    Freida said:

    Your post made me cry. How
    Your post made me cry. How wonderful that you got those few moments and got to tell her that the horrid PICC line was out and that her orchid bloomed.

    I remember when my Dad had his stroke and I flew back to England to see him. My brother and I went to the hospital and had talked to the head nurse and she said there was no chance of recovery and we had to decide is we wanted feeding and fluid tubes and such to prolong his life - he had been pulling them out even in his unconscious state. We made the decision not to. We sat by his bed for a couple of hours and suddenly he became aware for about 5 minutes and talked and talked and talked. Couldn't understand a word he said, but he pointed to the pictures of my kids that I had put by his bed and smiled and had a sparkle in his eyes. As suddenly as he awoke, he was gone again. He died the next day. it was such a magical moment and meant a lot. I am so glad you got your moment.

    I know that happens. My mom
    I know that happens. My mom said it happened just like that when her mom died. It's why I hate to go to bed at night, but my body just can't do what my mind wants to do. The hard part is knowing that even though I'm preparing for the end I know it will hit me hard. I can always hope when she's in this state because she looks so totally peaceful as if asleep. It's like - ok mom, it's time to wake up now and get mad at me for something.

    One month from today my mom will be 85.
  • Freida
    Freida Member Posts: 182
    #12
    Ginny_B said:

    I know that happens. My mom
    I know that happens. My mom said it happened just like that when her mom died. It's why I hate to go to bed at night, but my body just can't do what my mind wants to do. The hard part is knowing that even though I'm preparing for the end I know it will hit me hard. I can always hope when she's in this state because she looks so totally peaceful as if asleep. It's like - ok mom, it's time to wake up now and get mad at me for something.

    One month from today my mom will be 85.

    I don't think you can ever
    I don't think you can ever really be prepared. Sometimes hope is a double edged sword - good to have it, but it stops you from being ready. Just human nature to hope for that miracle I guess. You know, horrid as this is, it is just so wonderful that you have got to be with your Mom and help her through this. I am sure she already knew she was loved, but now with all you have been through with her, whatever happens next she has that wonderful certainty of how much you love her and you have that certainty that she knows that and that you took such care of her. I hope when my time comes I will have that certain knowledge of being loved.

    Gosh, I sound a bit maudlin. I am missing my own Mum so much right now. She is not doing real well and with Bill being sick I can't get over to England to see her. So give your Mom an extra hug and a kiss from me.
    Big hugs to you Ginny.
    Freida
  • TerryV
    TerryV Member Posts: 887
    #13
    Thinking of you, Ginny
    Just wanted to check in. Hope you're holding up and your mom is comfortable.

    With love, concern & hugs,

    Terry

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