My wife starts chemo on 2/27.

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  • smokeyjoe
    smokeyjoe Member Posts: 1,425 Member
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    bjones60 said:

    Thank you so much
    Darline did fine today. She is also doing clinical trial involving a compound that may ease the side affects of some of the chemo mess. Thank you all so much for the prayers and thoughts. They mean more than I can ever express. God bless and be well. February 25, 2012 - 3:44pm
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    Hello bjones60

    You have just added CareGiver to your list of names.
    You are Son, Dad, Husband, Friend... and now CareGiver.

    My wife is my caregiver and i've been going through chemo since 1-3-2012.

    I have a couple things to share that make my day.

    1. She is there with me at Chemo treatments. Not sure if you're able to do that, but it's so nice to NOT have to drive and to be as stress free as possible.

    2. I have to be re-assured that I have not become a burden to her. So, as you get into this... assure her that you're there with her all the way. (if you look on this blog site, you'll see a couple conversations when the spouse takes off half way through the chemo as many of the great things in your marriage might be on hold for awhile..) her number 1 priority has to be to Get Better. And, you're committment to her will make her NEVER have to worry about losing you.

    3. Have an agreement with her that you're allowed to make her laugh, whenever she's crying. And, its okay to laugh until you cry. This is a very emotinoal time.... and in the alone time, it's hard not to think negative thoughts. so, my wife keeps a close eye on me during those times... and she's there to make me laugh and it's wonderful.

    4. Love her like you've never loved her before.

    and, I know you will.

    My prayers are with you and your wife... and your 15 year old.
    we have four kids... and the best point on our teenagers... is straight forward honest answers. REmember, kids are better at Google than most of us. Remind them that NOT everything on the internet is true.

    cheers.

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    Patteee
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    February 25, 2012 - 3:53pm

    Glad the first one went
    Glad the first one went well, remember to keep on top of the diarrhea, it can kick in and cause problems with dehydration. Hopefully your doc's have given meds for nausia etc. I was NOT warned enough about the diarrhea, it was mentioned in the leaflets I was handed but I feel it should have been stressed by doc. to watch for this and what to take. Keep Immodium or even the no name ones on hand.

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