My beloved husband, Alan passed away.

annalan · February 2012

For those of you who don't read Facebook I would like to let you know that Alan passed away very peacefully in my arms on January 31st. I had posted here that since Christmas day he had developed a pain in his back and said he only felt comfortable lying down. The Drs dx a water infection and he received 4 lots of antibiotics over the following 3 weeks, water samples that were free of cancer cells. I became very concerned that he was getting no better so rang the oncology nurse that I'd relied on during Alan's Ivor Lewis op in March 2010. He was NED July 1st 2011. On January 13th we saw his onco. Dr who straight away arranged bloods and endoscopy, I saw the concern on his face. By the time Alan was told the cancer was back in his liver he really felt to ill to care. He was admitted to our local hospital and given enough pain killers to keep him comfortable. January 27th I went with him to our hospice and I stayed with him day and night. They really cared for his every need and on the 31st he slipped away so very peacefully. If it had to be we could not have planned it better. One of our daughters and grandaughter had just kissed him and told him they loved him. There was just the two of us which he loved, I had my arms around him and gave him a kiss and he took his last breath. A wonderful passing for a wonderful man. People have questioned if it was worth having the operation for such a short time, but the answer is yes, Alan hated the chemo more than the op, we had 2 lovely holidays, he had a new car and he never thought it would return. But having read so much about this beast I always knew there was a possibility just hoped we'd be one of the lucky ones. But our quality time made us lucky? Alan lived just 11 days from learning of his recurrence.

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TerryV · February 2012

My condolences
Ann,

I'm so sorry to hear of Alan's passing. I must agree with William - your "love affair" with Alan is obvious. That's great! It is so special to have that one true love in our lives.

Keep your wonderful memories close. Sounds like you shared many together!

Prayers of peace during this difficult time,

Terry
wife to Nick, age 48
dx 05/19/11 T3N1M0
THE 09/08/11

annalan · February 2012

TerryV said:
My condolences
Ann,

I'm so sorry to hear of Alan's passing. I must agree with William - your "love affair" with Alan is obvious. That's great! It is so special to have that one true love in our lives.

Keep your wonderful memories close. Sounds like you shared many together!

Prayers of peace during this difficult time,

Terry
wife to Nick, age 48
dx 05/19/11 T3N1M0
THE 09/08/11

Thank you William, Loretta
Thank you William, Loretta and Terry for your kind words of comfort. Yes our "love affair" was truly special.

MissusB · February 2012

annalan said:
Thank you William, Loretta
Thank you William, Loretta and Terry for your kind words of comfort. Yes our "love affair" was truly special.

So sorry...
I am so sorry to hear about your Alan, Ann. I lost my Bill suddenly in December and I grieve with you. I pray that God will give you strength and that your freinds and family will gather around you and provide comfort. Talk about him as much as you need to...it is what helps me put one foot in front of the other each and every day. Love to you - Kim

annalan · February 2012

MissusB said:
So sorry...
I am so sorry to hear about your Alan, Ann. I lost my Bill suddenly in December and I grieve with you. I pray that God will give you strength and that your freinds and family will gather around you and provide comfort. Talk about him as much as you need to...it is what helps me put one foot in front of the other each and every day. Love to you - Kim

Thank you Kim. Yes I did
Thank you Kim. Yes I did read about your Bill's sudden death and was so very sorry. I just don't think I can take it in that Alan has gone. Can't believe I will never see him again. I do have good friends and family to help me through but know it's going to be so difficult as I'm sure it is for you and everyone who has lost a loved one.

birdiequeen · February 2012

Touched by your post
I am so sorry to read of your loss. 11 days is so fast. The love you have for him is clear in your post and so touching to read. It is time to let others give you some care as you grieve.

Lee Ann

sandy1943 · February 2012

sorry to hear of alan's

sorry to hear of alan's passing. I can't imagine the pain that you and the others that have lost there mates feel. I have been married almost 50 and each year has brought us closer. I agree with you, the time God has given me after surgery has been so precious and every moment to be cherished and remembered.
My prayers are with you, Sandra