Grandma refusing Dr. Appts.
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your grandma is smart
Yes, your grandma's wishes are all that counts. She sounds like a wise lady. Old age for some folks is excellent, for others it's not. Let your grandma call her own shots as long as she can. She probably knows more than the doctors about what's going on in her body. Good luck, it's not easy.0 -
I agreeBarbara53 said:your grandma is smart
Yes, your grandma's wishes are all that counts. She sounds like a wise lady. Old age for some folks is excellent, for others it's not. Let your grandma call her own shots as long as she can. She probably knows more than the doctors about what's going on in her body. Good luck, it's not easy.
I completely agree with Barbara53.. As hard as it is right now and as challenging as her choice is on your mind and soul. It's her choice on what she wants to do and how she is going to handle this situation now. it sounds like she has been through a lot in her life and suffered a lot of loss.
I am so sorry. I know her choice is a difficult one for you and considering all you have also lost in your life this can't be easy on you.
You are really strong. Don't forget that.0 -
what else do they want to do?tllcaregiver said:I agree
I completely agree with Barbara53.. As hard as it is right now and as challenging as her choice is on your mind and soul. It's her choice on what she wants to do and how she is going to handle this situation now. it sounds like she has been through a lot in her life and suffered a lot of loss.
I am so sorry. I know her choice is a difficult one for you and considering all you have also lost in your life this can't be easy on you.
You are really strong. Don't forget that.
What else do they want to do regarding the pulmonary hypertension? Are we talking about adding steroids? Another medication? Yes pulmonary hypertension is a difficult disease to manage but between doing nothing for it and doing everything there are shades of gray.
I understand about respecting someones wishes but is she making an informed decision? The agony of not having enough oxygen, the air hunger is a terrible feeling, long painful suffocation is a horrible state. And she could deal with not having air for years, on her couch hooked on some oxygen, unable to walk anywhere or to do anything for many many years. Her quality of life can be severely impacted by refusing treatment. So I ask again, what treatment course is her pulmonologist recommending? Is the treatment more painful than the disease of pulmonary hypertension? Does your grandmother fully understand the consequence of her refusal. If she does, then so be it.
J.0 -
Grandma refusing Dr. AppointmentsI_Promise said:what else do they want to do?
What else do they want to do regarding the pulmonary hypertension? Are we talking about adding steroids? Another medication? Yes pulmonary hypertension is a difficult disease to manage but between doing nothing for it and doing everything there are shades of gray.
I understand about respecting someones wishes but is she making an informed decision? The agony of not having enough oxygen, the air hunger is a terrible feeling, long painful suffocation is a horrible state. And she could deal with not having air for years, on her couch hooked on some oxygen, unable to walk anywhere or to do anything for many many years. Her quality of life can be severely impacted by refusing treatment. So I ask again, what treatment course is her pulmonologist recommending? Is the treatment more painful than the disease of pulmonary hypertension? Does your grandmother fully understand the consequence of her refusal. If she does, then so be it.
J.
You need to walk a mile in Grandma's shoes. It is her life and her decision. Would you want others to make these decisions for you. A medical POA is a tool to be used only when a person is no longer capable of making rational decisions for themselves. Not a tool of persuasion. You have said yourself she is not mentally impaired to make her own decisions. Just because her decision is not the one you would choose, does not give you the right to win out. Don't try to control her. She knows what she wants for her own life.0
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