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My wonderful man passed away Thanksgiving night.

sks311
sks311 CSN Member Posts: 9
in Lung Cancer #1
My husband passed away on Thanksgiving night with his family and loved ones by his side. He had gotten fluid build up in his lungs in Sept and had a pluredisis in Oct. the fluid was malignant. He had over 6.5 litres drained off in the course of 2 weeks.
We had went to the have his maintence chemo Alitma, when I had asked for an MRI of his brain as he was not able to speak plainly and was doing some odd things. He was also very weak and was not able to walk without aid of some sort. The MRI showed that he had a massive tumor and that the swelling had crossed the blood brain barrier and that there was no hope for him. We went back home that day, the 14th of November, we kept him as comfortable as we could. We were able to give him morphine shots as his pain got worse, by that Monday he was not abole to get out of bed, he also took his last bite to eat which was a few bites of pudding. He quit drinking water on Wednesday morning and was no longer responsive Thursday morning, he opened his eyes and looked at me as he took his last few breaths. He fought hard this battle of cancer, and although our journey was never easy and he never caught a break, my man never complained. He was a warrior.
Ralph was a wonderful, kind man and I hate cancer for taking my husband, my kids' father and my grandkids' grandpa away from us. His hope was that maybe there would be a cure, if not for him then for the future cancer patients.
Please say prayers for my family and me as we grieve for the wonderful man that has left this life for Gods kingdom.
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  • Rosi
    Rosi CSN Member Posts: 69
    #2
    I am sorry
    I cannot imagine what you going true, I am praying for you and your family.
    I also lost my husband to the evil cancer seven months ego.
    I am very sorry. God bless you and your family.
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  • grannylove
    grannylove CSN Member Posts: 183
    #3
    So very sorry...
    for your loss. I pray that you feel the loving arms of God around you and your family during this time of grief. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Cheryl
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  • srl831
    srl831 CSN Member Posts: 1
    #4
    Sorry
    Sorry for your loss. I also recently lost my husband (Nov.6th 2011). Like your husband, Jeff fought hard and never complained about much of anything during treatment. I pray for you and your family.
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  • NayPaul
    NayPaul CSN Member Posts: 230 Member
    #5
    so sorry....
    I hope that with time the good memories grow and the painful one subside.
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  • KLScoville
    KLScoville CSN Member Posts: 161 Member
    #6
    I am so sorry
    I know how you feel. My husband passed on November 14th, 2011 from lung cancer. This cancer SUCKS!!!! I miss my Mark so much. I am lost without him. Thanks to CSN and the grief couselor and another grieving widow, I am making it. Sort of. I feel your pain.

    God Bless you and your family at this time.

    ~Kelly
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  • sleepless in jersey
    sleepless in jersey CSN Member Posts: 185
    #7
    My heart goes
    out to you and your family.
    God Bless...
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  • catcon49
    catcon49 CSN Member Posts: 398
    #8
    sleepless in jersey said:

    My heart goes
    out to you and your family.
    God Bless...

    dear sks
    I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband truly sounds like a warrior and a wonderful man. We have lost a number of wonderful people (including your husband) on this site this year. I as if my condolences are inadequate. I wish I could say something to take your pain away, but I am at a loss.

    God bless and you will be in my prayers.
    c
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  • JackieA
    JackieA CSN Member Posts: 150
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    catcon49 said:

    dear sks
    I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband truly sounds like a warrior and a wonderful man. We have lost a number of wonderful people (including your husband) on this site this year. I as if my condolences are inadequate. I wish I could say something to take your pain away, but I am at a loss.

    God bless and you will be in my prayers.
    c

    many thoughts and prayers to you
    Your story sounds so familiar as I went through similar with my mom. Strength for you and family. Bless you
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  • trspaw
    trspaw CSN Member Posts: 73
    #10
    So sorry to hear of the loss
    So sorry to hear of the loss of your wonderful husband.

    God Bless
    Teresa
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  • Glenna M
    Glenna M CSN Member Posts: 1,576
    #11
    So sorry...
    There are no words to explain the pain I feel each time another survivor loses their battle. I'm also praying for a cure, I know it won't be in my lifetime but I pray it will be soon.

    Stay strong and remember the good times and memories you two have made together.

    My best to you and your family,
    Glenna
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  • onemore
    onemore CSN Member Posts: 57
    #12
    Dear Sks311,
    I am so sorry
    Dear Sks311,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband...My dad passed away December 4th, 2011. He had mesothelioma (asbestos lung cancer). I was inspired by your post because my dad just like your husband put up a good fight, never complained and hoped for a miracle. It is so hard. My dad was so young and it is just not fair. The only way I find peace with it is that he is not suffering anymore. Not a minutes goes by that he is not on my mind. I will keep you and your family in my prayers as well....

    Onemore
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