My boyfriend is three weeks into chemo for testicular cancer. He has had his ups and downs but usually he ends up feeling ok. The other day though he finally started losing his hair and now he seems to be in a terrible funk. This is the last straw of denial he was holding onto and now he can't hold onto it anymore. How do I help him get through this? What do I say or do so we doesn't wallow in the depression? Should I let him get depressed? Is that part of the necessary process for him as the cancer patient or is that too much like self pity and I should bring on the tough love?