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alexinlv
alexinlv CSN Member Posts: 194 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1
Hello everyone. My family is devasted- yesterday one of our best friends' 17 year old son died unexpectedly. Our children have grown up together and we are neighbors. I am beyond sick to my stomach! I worked today in my raggedy anne costume with my kindergarteners. (some of them think I am the "Wendy's girl!")

It's hard to breath. I am so sad for our friends. Nothing could be worse.

Tony has an appt to go to UCLA next Tues, so that's good. Our insurance is now saying they may not cover treatment there if it is not something he can have done here.

When is too much, too much!? Well, thank you for letting me vent!
Alex
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  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 CSN Member Posts: 6,744 Member
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    Sorry
    So sorry to hear of your friend's son. Such a tragedy when they are so young. Your friend is going to need you right now. My heart aches for them.

    Kim
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  • Brenda Bricco
    Brenda Bricco CSN Member Posts: 579 Member
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    Oh, do I know that heavy
    Oh, do I know that heavy heart, not being able to breath feeling... my gf lost her 16 year old daughter 2 years ago and it broke my heart into pieces. I don't even want to imagine the pain her parents endured. My sister lost her 13 year old son in 1994 a couple weeks before Christmas. I was so numb and foggy I don't even remember that Christmas and it's kind of strange to see that home video. I am so very sorry.
    As far as the insurance company... it sounds a little snakey if you ask me. Shame on them.
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  • laurettas
    laurettas CSN Member Posts: 372
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    I know
    We went to a funeral for a six year old girl who had been fighting cancer for almost two years. We know her family well and it was heart-rending to watch all they have gone through the past two years. She has two brothers that I am sure will take years to heal from the trauma. So sad.

    And I am so sorry about your friend's son. It is so hard on everyone when these things happen.

    Good luck on your battle with the insurance company!
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  • wolfen
    wolfen CSN Member Posts: 1,324 Member
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    laurettas said:

    I know
    We went to a funeral for a six year old girl who had been fighting cancer for almost two years. We know her family well and it was heart-rending to watch all they have gone through the past two years. She has two brothers that I am sure will take years to heal from the trauma. So sad.

    And I am so sorry about your friend's son. It is so hard on everyone when these things happen.

    Good luck on your battle with the insurance company!

    Oh,Alex
    Just vent away. There are no words to express how bad I feel for you and your neighbors.
    I have had several friends over the years who have faced this horrible experience. It is unimaginable and only time will partially heal this wound. Please offer my condolences to your neighbors.

    Wolfen
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  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 CSN Member Posts: 2,342 Member
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    Alex
    Alex,
    What a terrible tragedy. 17 is so young. I am very sorry for his family and all those who loved this young man.

    You are right. Too much! All you can do at this point is one foot in front of the other. Step by step.

    My prayers are with you.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen
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  • lisa42
    lisa42 CSN Member Posts: 3,625 Member
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    sorry
    Sorry to hear of the tragic news. I understand what a hard day you've had and then try to act normal with your kindergardeners- must have been very hard.
    Here's a big hug for you and know that I am thinking of you and saying a prayer right now.

    Lisa
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  • buckeye2
    buckeye2 CSN Member Posts: 428 Member
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    I agree there must be
    I agree there must be nothing worse than losing a child. It must be hard on your own children losing a friend. I hope you get good news from the insurance company. Lisa
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  • tko683
    tko683 CSN Member Posts: 264 Member
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    too much for sure
    So sorry to hear about your neighbor's tragedy. That is so sad beyond words. It happens way to often, and everytime I hear about another young person loosing their life it breaks my heart. You and your neighbor will have to be there for each other, both of you going through hard times together. Good luck with the insurance issue also. We have had the same problem with our insurance. We are only permitted to go in state or it is considered out of network unless there is some type of procedure that is not done in our state. It is amazing that insurance companies can make these kind of decisions with your life....Sending prayers up to you. Hugs, Teri
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