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Ellen
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You came to the right place...
When I came here a couple of weeks ago I had no earthly idea how much I DIDN'T know. And, I thought I would really show my "stupid" if I asked questions, but not any more. I am totally amazed at how complex and complicated cancer is and at how many different ways it affects people. I'm no longer afraid to ask anything, because there are some smart people here that are more than willing to share.
Welcome.....and, if you haven't, go visit the caregiver's. What wonderful things they have done for me by letting me know I'm not alone in this battle.
D0 -
I am also the spouse. My
I am also the spouse. My husband was diagnosed in December of 2010 with stage III rectal. I was the same way, didn't really want to know the truth, I'm a little better now. There are such good and helpful people here. Really hate that you have to join us but you have found an excellent source of resources and people to lean on going through the same thing. Stephanie0 -
Welcome
So sorry that you had to join us but glad that you found this site. You can ask away at any questions and someone will be here to help you. This is a scary journey and you only need to ask and we will be here. Hoping that your journey with husband is with us.
Kim0 -
Agree, you came to the right place for information and support
I am also the spouse here. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 rectal cancer in June of this year. He is now 52. He is currently getting chemotherapy, FOLFOX with Avastin. His next step is liver surgery after 2 more cycles of chemo. How is your husband doing? Sending prayers to you both. Teri0 -
Ellen -
I'm also the spouse..... I'm the spouse of the 'caregiver"!
Things will be rough at times, since the only one actually facing
death, is the only one that truly knows what that feeling is like.
There will be times that nothing you say will be sufficient or
comforting in any way, shape, or manner. And you may find
that just a long, long hug and affection, is all that's needed to
bring your spouse from the depths of hell, to a sense of life again.
It's going to be a rocky road for you Ellen, but you can make it
if you try. There are no guarantees of life, just guarantees of love,
if and when you guarantee it.
Live for the today, pray for the tomorrow, and be thankful for
every yesterday.
May be there many, many more "yesterdays".
John0 -
I am glad you decided to
I am glad you decided to post. I think posting can be very intimidating. You don't know your audience and can't gauge their reaction to your words. It is easier to stalk the boards rather than participate but I think there is value to including yourself into the process. Getting to know the cast of characters and having them get to know you will give you a a sense of belonging during a lonely time. Lisa0 -
My husband was just
My husband was just diagnosed stage iv. He is 46 I stalked mostly while he was stage 3 but now I need this family more than ever. (like right now at 6am when i should be asleep and cant sleep!) I need to hear the truths too and everyone is so willing to support eachother. take care, Alex0 -
welcome aboard the crc express
dear ellen,
sorry you had to find us, we are a lovedlly group from all over the world.
cry away when you need to, you will have lots of lovelly moments ahead, try to share them with us.
hugs,
pete0 -
YES...ddpekks said:You came to the right place...
When I came here a couple of weeks ago I had no earthly idea how much I DIDN'T know. And, I thought I would really show my "stupid" if I asked questions, but not any more. I am totally amazed at how complex and complicated cancer is and at how many different ways it affects people. I'm no longer afraid to ask anything, because there are some smart people here that are more than willing to share.
Welcome.....and, if you haven't, go visit the caregiver's. What wonderful things they have done for me by letting me know I'm not alone in this battle.
D
that is exactly how I felt...thanks for letting me know that no question is too stupid and that I just have to ask it no matter what! And from reading these boards, I have found so many people are willing to share and that is a huge help and comfort!
Thanks for the warm welcome and give your choc lab a hug for me...we are a golden retriever family and the companionship of a warm, furry, friend, truly helps during this time too!
Ellen C.0 -
thank youkeystone said:I am also the spouse. My
I am also the spouse. My husband was diagnosed in December of 2010 with stage III rectal. I was the same way, didn't really want to know the truth, I'm a little better now. There are such good and helpful people here. Really hate that you have to join us but you have found an excellent source of resources and people to lean on going through the same thing. Stephanie
I am so glad to know that I am not alone with these feelings I am having. I have already found new inspiration from these posts!
Ellen C.0 -
The docs tell us it's gonna be a battleAnnabelle41415 said:Welcome
So sorry that you had to join us but glad that you found this site. You can ask away at any questions and someone will be here to help you. This is a scary journey and you only need to ask and we will be here. Hoping that your journey with husband is with us.
Kim
but I will be sure to ask questions as the going gets tougher...thanks so much Kim!0 -
See surgeon again in Novtko683 said:Agree, you came to the right place for information and support
I am also the spouse here. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 rectal cancer in June of this year. He is now 52. He is currently getting chemotherapy, FOLFOX with Avastin. His next step is liver surgery after 2 more cycles of chemo. How is your husband doing? Sending prayers to you both. Teri
My husband has 5 more cycles of chemo and then the surgeon will let us know the next step. Totally in the dark about what kind of procedure will be done...I guess we will find out in time. My husband has good & bad days...hasn't been able to work because of pain (he has a stent)and radiation hit him hard, but he is hoping one day to be able to go back to work. Trying to figure out health insurance, Cobra, SSDI, which really stinks because time could be spent in such better ways.
Thanks for you prayers Teri!0 -
Just when I thought...John23 said:Ellen -
I'm also the spouse..... I'm the spouse of the 'caregiver"!
Things will be rough at times, since the only one actually facing
death, is the only one that truly knows what that feeling is like.
There will be times that nothing you say will be sufficient or
comforting in any way, shape, or manner. And you may find
that just a long, long hug and affection, is all that's needed to
bring your spouse from the depths of hell, to a sense of life again.
It's going to be a rocky road for you Ellen, but you can make it
if you try. There are no guarantees of life, just guarantees of love,
if and when you guarantee it.
Live for the today, pray for the tomorrow, and be thankful for
every yesterday.
May be there many, many more "yesterdays".
John
I had cried myself out...I read your post and here come the tears again. Thank you John, sometimes this is just what I need to hear. Bless you!
Ellen C.0 -
I must have stalked this board...buckeye2 said:I am glad you decided to
I am glad you decided to post. I think posting can be very intimidating. You don't know your audience and can't gauge their reaction to your words. It is easier to stalk the boards rather than participate but I think there is value to including yourself into the process. Getting to know the cast of characters and having them get to know you will give you a a sense of belonging during a lonely time. Lisa
for a month before I got the courage up to join. I have definitely learned much more than I ever expected. And to get such a warm welcome, was a relief and a blessing.
Thank you Lisa!
Ellen C.0 -
Thank you...alexinlv said:My husband was just
My husband was just diagnosed stage iv. He is 46 I stalked mostly while he was stage 3 but now I need this family more than ever. (like right now at 6am when i should be asleep and cant sleep!) I need to hear the truths too and everyone is so willing to support eachother. take care, Alex
for all the support and knowing that when I am up in the middle of the night, I am not alone and have a place to turn. Please stay in touch and let me know how you husband is doing.
Ellen C.0 -
Thank you Pete...pete43lost_at_sea said:welcome aboard the crc express
dear ellen,
sorry you had to find us, we are a lovedlly group from all over the world.
cry away when you need to, you will have lots of lovelly moments ahead, try to share them with us.
hugs,
pete
I can't tell you and everyone else how uplifted these comments have made me feel today. It has helped immensely and I'm off to have a good day...and get my husband up and about!
Ellen C.0 -
Welcome
I'm sorry you have a need for us, but so glad you found us and are ready to participate. A few things to remember: No question is a stupid question. You can vent here when you need to let it all out. None of us are medical professionals, and what we share is what we've learned from our own journeys. Overall this is a supportive group. Your husband's experiences may be similar to ours or not.
It is safest to not get too heavy into politics or religion here, but stick to subjects closely tied to colorectal cancer - save yourself a lot of drama!0
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