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  • laurissa
    laurissa Member Posts: 773
    #22
    I was told
    3 years. Who's he to say that? I don't take it seriously, it's in Gods hands. I could die from something else. Heart attack, etc. I do worry about leaving my girls way too soon. I do think I need to be back on antidepressants, I quit a couple months ago. Xanax helps which I still take. Alot has gone on the past month. Too much to deal with. Trying to get disability, help with bills, etc.
  • Heatherbelle
    Heatherbelle Member Posts: 1,226 Member
    #23
    laurissa said:

    I was told
    3 years. Who's he to say that? I don't take it seriously, it's in Gods hands. I could die from something else. Heart attack, etc. I do worry about leaving my girls way too soon. I do think I need to be back on antidepressants, I quit a couple months ago. Xanax helps which I still take. Alot has gone on the past month. Too much to deal with. Trying to get disability, help with bills, etc.

    I just wanted to add that
    I just wanted to add that you all are so strong and such personal inspirations to me. I use the "ostrich method"-burying my head in the sand-sometimes when i get to thinking and worrying too much. All of you sharing your experiences and viewpoints with such grace and optimism and hope. You are all heroes and i SO love you all.
    *xoxo*
    Heather
  • debi.18
    debi.18 Member Posts: 850 Member
    #24
    Heatherbelle said:

    I just wanted to add that
    I just wanted to add that you all are so strong and such personal inspirations to me. I use the "ostrich method"-burying my head in the sand-sometimes when i get to thinking and worrying too much. All of you sharing your experiences and viewpoints with such grace and optimism and hope. You are all heroes and i SO love you all.
    *xoxo*
    Heather

    6 months
    My sister in law was diagnosed over 5 year with stage 4 breast cancer and was given 6 months...fast forward to today, she is happy,healthy and still dancing with NED.

    I know doctor's are doing what they believe is best when they tell someone how much time they left, but as said many times before, it's in God's hands.

    Hugs, Prayers and positive thoughts,
    Debi
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    #25
    so so sorry to hear you are
    so so sorry to hear you are going through this! I have not dealt with this but from reading posts NO ONE KNOWS for sure...

    I WISH YOU the best and my only advice for anything which truely helped me is using journal!

    Denise
  • natly15
    natly15 Member Posts: 1,941
    #26
    Such wonderful input by so
    Such wonderful input by so many pink sisters. No one but God knows for sure. All we ever have is right now, so I try to live and enjoy every moment one day at a time. I could get hit by a baseball at a game and that could be the last game I ever see. My mom always said "When it's your time,It's your time" and no doctor, friend, nurse, or cancer expert has the ability to tell anyone when their time is up. Live on and enjoy each daY with hope and faith and no matter how you feel try to find humor in life and laugh at least once every day. Hugs to you dear Warrior.
  • pinkflutterby
    pinkflutterby Member Posts: 615 Member
    #27
    natly15 said:

    Such wonderful input by so
    Such wonderful input by so many pink sisters. No one but God knows for sure. All we ever have is right now, so I try to live and enjoy every moment one day at a time. I could get hit by a baseball at a game and that could be the last game I ever see. My mom always said "When it's your time,It's your time" and no doctor, friend, nurse, or cancer expert has the ability to tell anyone when their time is up. Live on and enjoy each daY with hope and faith and no matter how you feel try to find humor in life and laugh at least once every day. Hugs to you dear Warrior.

    I sent you a PM

    I sent you a PM
  • mariam_11_09
    mariam_11_09 Member Posts: 691 Member
    #28
    SIROD said:

    To Jan Suvivorbc09 Never Give UP should not be the bottom line
    Dear Jan,

    Every woman diagnose with Stage IV often knows when to end treatment. It isn't any good to go on fighting when the treatments work less and less. I am not saying one should give up after a few different treatments, I am saying that one should have a few months of quality time before the end.

    I think it is hard for anyone who isn't stage IV to understand that it isn't the same when one is doing adjuvant treatment or treating a regional recurrences. When your first diagnose with stages ), 1, 2, 3 the aim is to hope for a cure. At this time there is no cure for stage IV, there is only treatment to buy more time. One can go on for years as I have, but I know that one day, I will hold my hand up and say enough. Many women who are stave IV can go live 30 or more years with this condition. It does depend on what kind and how fast your cancer is growing and what it responds too.

    The truth is we are all terminal, we hope for the best, prepare for the worst and live each day to the hilt.
    However fighting to the bitter end seems cruel to me. One should be able to enjoy life again via Hospice for many months instead of dragging themselves off for more drugs that will only a best buy them a few short and miserable months.

    One has to know when to draw the line, enough is enough.

    Best,

    Doris

    There seens to be a great
    There seens to be a great deal of "shoulds" here. In the real world there are no "shoulds". We all do what we need to based on personal decisions,choices and situations in life. Support for each person's decision whether or not it is what we would decide for ourselves is very important for everyone on this journery or just in life in general. What is enough for one person may not be enough for another .

    Carol, my heart goes out to you. I am not terminal, I am not in your situation and can only imagine what you might be going through based on a stage 3 cancer diagnosis. All I can suggest, is be present to what you are feeling, shock, sadness, despair and let it move through you so you can find the strength to live out your life in the way that is best for you.

    much love to you.

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