A month ago, hubby and I were visiting a friend who lives out of town. My hubby suffers from a bad neck due to arthritis. Jane has always been very concerned about him and started giving him advice as to what he should do to get better. I spoke up and said, “Yes I want John to get better not only for himself but because we have these holidays planned for this summer.” Jane turned to me and said, “Holidays? They’re not important.” I said, “Well, I feel I have to cram in everything I can in case I don’t enjoy long term survival.” And then I started crying, saying more crazy things to her, and I was shouting. I felt ashamed of myself afterward and you can imagine my consternation when I got an email from her a few days ago with the terse statement: “Ann, your behaviour in my home was disrespectful to me; I do not deserve and will not tolerate this.” I want to say much more but space does not permit.