I have posted before and am helping my dad. He is 60. He cannot join himself due to a shaking disorder which makes it impossible to type. Anyway, he is very unaware of things to do with cancer, he has not known anyone in his shoes. He knew he had stage 4 cancer but just realized a week ago that there is only 4 stages. He is having a few problems. He feels the constant urge to have a BM even after he has one he still feels the urge. Also, he is having alot of trouble getting pain under control. He is on 150 mg of fentynol, 20 mg of oxycodone time released once a day and 10 mg of oxycotin every 4 hours for breakthru pain. Are any of you having similar problems? Have any suggestions? I know alot of it might have to do with location of his tumor but he is very frustrated and wants to be able to go out and do things and enjoy life but he feels like crap. He also cannot take radiation. Any ideas? As always, thanks to all of you for your help and ideas!!!