Need some uplifting today
God Bless,
Bobby in Dallas
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I have said it before and I will say it again
I have said it before and I will say it again for all you new folks.
A man that puts one foot too far in the past and the other foot too far in the future, does nothing but Piss all over today. Think about it!!!!!!!
Enjoy today. All sorts of crap can happen tomorrow.
Kerry (the attitude guy)0 -
hehe love ya kerryKerry S said:I have said it before and I will say it again
I have said it before and I will say it again for all you new folks.
A man that puts one foot too far in the past and the other foot too far in the future, does nothing but Piss all over today. Think about it!!!!!!!
Enjoy today. All sorts of crap can happen tomorrow.
Kerry (the attitude guy)
was having a downer day especially more so after reading about confused1 passing away. and as per usual you put everything into prespective, thank you for the kick up the backside.0 -
I'm sorry
I'm sorry you are feeling bad.I have bad days too,then I get mad and think about all the things I have yet to do,and decide that no matter what,I will kick cancers butt,no matter what it takes,I will fight to the end,and never give up.Feel free to come and vent anytime.0 -
Dear Bobby
Down days happen to all of us, but as with most bad stuff, recognizing it is half the battle. Don't let the devil sit on your shoulder and take away a perfectly good day.
You know, your thoughts about what your children would remember about you if you were no longer there really is one that anyone with children should be asking not just those with cancer.
I think it would be great if you spent some of your time writing letters for your kids about your best moments with them and how much you care for them. Then put them in an envelope, put the appropriate name on it, seal it up with the date on the outside. Then put them away. As the stack of envelopes grows, you will be leaving your children a legacy of your love thru the years, no matter if there are 2 left or if there are 50 left.
Hugs,
Marie who loves kitties0 -
I'm lifting you up, dearheart!
We all have bad days. And good days. And days filled with regret. But the one thing to remember is that you take you with you everywhere you go, so be kind to yourself, and don't beat yourself up!
As far as your kids...I have a friend who has done this, who is also stage 4 with small children. She is writing letters to her daughter, to be opened on certain occasions (like her marriage, first child, etc...). She is not giving up hope, just being prepared. Also, her hubby has promised to keep her memory alive to the kids, if anything happens. Just a thought...it seemed to calm her.
BIG dutch hugs, Kathi
TeeHee...while I was writing this, Marie was saying the same...0 -
Great minds!KathiM said:I'm lifting you up, dearheart!
We all have bad days. And good days. And days filled with regret. But the one thing to remember is that you take you with you everywhere you go, so be kind to yourself, and don't beat yourself up!
As far as your kids...I have a friend who has done this, who is also stage 4 with small children. She is writing letters to her daughter, to be opened on certain occasions (like her marriage, first child, etc...). She is not giving up hope, just being prepared. Also, her hubby has promised to keep her memory alive to the kids, if anything happens. Just a thought...it seemed to calm her.
BIG dutch hugs, Kathi
TeeHee...while I was writing this, Marie was saying the same...
Yes Kathi, great minds at work! lol
Tell us about your new avitar...what building is that?
Hugs,
Marie who loves kitties0 -
My new avatarLovekitties said:Great minds!
Yes Kathi, great minds at work! lol
Tell us about your new avitar...what building is that?
Hugs,
Marie who loves kitties
This is from a city named Utrecht, in The Netherlands.
We visited 2 museums that day...one, my fav (I collect music boxes), is the music box museum "MUSEUM SPEELKLOK". It is housed in an old church, complete with the church organ and many beautiful dance organs. The other museum, the train museum "SPOORWEG MUSEUM", is the one in the picture. These are both magnificent museums, and I will visit them often. The train museum even has the private cars (full sized) that used to carry the queen and other royals around in the days of rail travel... The building, itself, is the old railway station...and it is beautiful inside...completely restored!
It was a rainy day, so we were in a bit of a hurry. So, as we turned to walk up to the museum, we heard a plop! plop! sound repeatedly. Here, walking toward us, was a huge swan...acting as if he did this every day (probably does..lol). Their wingspan is about 5 feet, and they are birds with an ATTITUDE! So, we stood still and let him pass. We then watched as he crossed the street, in the crosswalk (no kidding!), stopping to look both ways before entering the street!!!!
We were in awe, and chuckling, at the same time!
Dutch hugs, Kathi0 -
Hi Bobby, we all have thoseKathiM said:My new avatar
This is from a city named Utrecht, in The Netherlands.
We visited 2 museums that day...one, my fav (I collect music boxes), is the music box museum "MUSEUM SPEELKLOK". It is housed in an old church, complete with the church organ and many beautiful dance organs. The other museum, the train museum "SPOORWEG MUSEUM", is the one in the picture. These are both magnificent museums, and I will visit them often. The train museum even has the private cars (full sized) that used to carry the queen and other royals around in the days of rail travel... The building, itself, is the old railway station...and it is beautiful inside...completely restored!
It was a rainy day, so we were in a bit of a hurry. So, as we turned to walk up to the museum, we heard a plop! plop! sound repeatedly. Here, walking toward us, was a huge swan...acting as if he did this every day (probably does..lol). Their wingspan is about 5 feet, and they are birds with an ATTITUDE! So, we stood still and let him pass. We then watched as he crossed the street, in the crosswalk (no kidding!), stopping to look both ways before entering the street!!!!
We were in awe, and chuckling, at the same time!
Dutch hugs, Kathi
Hi Bobby, we all have those down negative thoughts at times.. just know you are not alone. We are human and can't be 100% postive all the time... Hang in there, these feelings will pass. I pray for a clean scan for you. God Bless.. Petrina0 -
Hi Bobby ,cheer up, of course you can vent anything if helpsmommyof2kds said:Hi Bobby, we all have those
Hi Bobby, we all have those down negative thoughts at times.. just know you are not alone. We are human and can't be 100% postive all the time... Hang in there, these feelings will pass. I pray for a clean scan for you. God Bless.. Petrina
that's why we are here for! I pray for good, excellent, results on your next CT.
Hugs mate!0 -
Hey Bobby....pepebcn said:Hi Bobby ,cheer up, of course you can vent anything if helps
that's why we are here for! I pray for good, excellent, results on your next CT.
Hugs mate!
Yep...we sure do all have these days......... You will be around for a long long time...and like the old cooy says....... YA...THAT!
Jennie0 -
Praying for you Bobby, That
Praying for you Bobby, That He will give you an overwhelming, indescribable, irresistable sense of His love your you tonight, and that you'll experience that peace that passes understanding to let you know you are being gently held, and you are not alone.0 -
Hang in there
Hey, Bobby.
I'm sorry you have been having such a bad day. It does happen sometimes, doesn't it? The only thing to do is ride it out and know that things will surely look better in the morning.
Even if you do enjoy many more years with them, your children will always appreciate things like lots of pictures taken of all the fun things you do together. Make scrapbooks or photo albums for them. The idea about writing letters to them is great. You could maybe get a friend or your wife to to tape you talking about things you want them to know.
I pray you will be there for all the moments a dad wants to experience with his children. And I pray that you will be able to be there with a smile on your face and love in your heart.
Have a better day tomorrow, my friend.
*hugs*
Gail0 -
don't beat yourself up
Hi Bobby,
Your thoughts are very normal- don't beat yourself up over thinking normal and real thoughts. You wouldn't be normal if you didn't ponder the "what if...". But, as I'm sure you know, pondering that won't change anything, but still allow yourself the need to vent. I'm glad you posted this today and did vent. I know it's very helpful to me when I need it too. I will be thinking of you and praying for a good outcome on your scan on Feb. 1st. I honestly can't even begin to count or remember how many scans I've had over the past 3-1/2 years of this. My first oncologist scanned me every 6 weeks- which I thought was good back then, but now realize all the radiation exposure I've had & try not to freak myself out thinking about it! My point here, though, is that I most definitely can relate to the feeling of waiting to get the scan done, then waiting and anticipating what the results will be and how my life my change for the better or worse all by what is written on the radiology scan report.
I understand how tough that must be thinking about your two youngest children.
You have a faith in God, know trust that He will take care of your children, should you not make it. But, now let's try to not think that way! Again, it's a normal thought & I probably have thoughts about death enter my head every day, BUT let's go back to praising our Creater who I believe and know that you believe holds our lives in His hands.
Praying for strength and calm for you, Bobby-
P.S. Hope the dinner came out good!
Lisa0 -
Take care and be positive!
Hi Bobby,
I am so sorry to hear that you are having one of your down days... Maybe we were born on the same year, I am also feeling down, depressed and worried.
I also cannot imagine my days without my mum. So for your children's sake, keep up the good spirit and I am sure you will do well! I've heard from an onc that one of his patients live happily for more than 5 years after all the doctors have given her up! This old lady was not using any treatment at that time but just listen to what the onc said to her "be happy and live your lifel!
I sincerely hope your scan result will be a good one!!!
Dora0 -
i love it, where do you get these quotesKerry S said:I have said it before and I will say it again
I have said it before and I will say it again for all you new folks.
A man that puts one foot too far in the past and the other foot too far in the future, does nothing but Piss all over today. Think about it!!!!!!!
Enjoy today. All sorts of crap can happen tomorrow.
Kerry (the attitude guy)
kerry,
I am also trying to live today well, yesterdays gone and tomorrow I maybe in hell or heavan. None of us have any guarantees. Sometimes my wife says I mainly think of myself and in some senses thats the way it should be.
Enjoying today is where it starts for me and if I allow any of these negative thoughts into my empty head then they effectively stuff today.
The act of thinking about about possibly negative twists and eventualities that confronts us all to some extent is in itself positive as long as we don't dwell on them.
I think its essential to process these thoughts and to share them, even if its with us or the family. Not dealing with these fears is really unhealthy. After dealing with these thoughts I try not to dwell on them at all. That may mean filling my head with nothing meditation, or reading or movies. But I don't let these potentially fatal thoughts to take root in my head.
I find the beauty I see in my wife and kids everyday amazingly energising.
Now that I have learned how damaging these negative thoughts can be I make an serious effort to be optimisic and positive.
Pete (the diving guy)0 -
bobby I hope your days been as good as mine!!!
Dear Bobby,
Great post. Thanks.
You can only love your wife and kids now, its an act of heart and mind that happens moment by moment.
Don't let worries about tomorrow get in the way of loving today.
If you do then the worries effectively rob you of a great loving day you were entitled too enjoy.
I hope this not does sound to harsh but if we don't live each day as 100% loving then in my books we may as well be dead. We are giving our illness to much power, its got enough already. Don't let the cancer ruin any more days than absolutely unavoidable.
I might sound like am preaching and I maybe. At this point of our lives no point beating around the bush.
Remember faith is a wonderful gift, use it, protect it, cherish it and share it. Miracles happen all the time to all of us.
Just pray, smile and relax and thank god for today. I will with my family tonight.
Love Pete0 -
This comment has been removed by the Moderatorluvmum said:Take care and be positive!
Hi Bobby,
I am so sorry to hear that you are having one of your down days... Maybe we were born on the same year, I am also feeling down, depressed and worried.
I also cannot imagine my days without my mum. So for your children's sake, keep up the good spirit and I am sure you will do well! I've heard from an onc that one of his patients live happily for more than 5 years after all the doctors have given her up! This old lady was not using any treatment at that time but just listen to what the onc said to her "be happy and live your lifel!
I sincerely hope your scan result will be a good one!!!
Dora0 -
Bobby.............idlehunters said:Hey Bobby....
Yep...we sure do all have these days......... You will be around for a long long time...and like the old cooy says....... YA...THAT!
Jennie
Now is the time to draw on the faith you hold so dear.....Now is the time to draw on the faith that holds you together. Now is the time to draw on the faith that answers all. Now is the time to draw on that faith that allows you to be who you are....Bobby, now is the time to put all trust in your faith, and then let Him have all of your worries........Love to ya buddy, Clift0 -
attitudeKerry S said:I have said it before and I will say it again
I have said it before and I will say it again for all you new folks.
A man that puts one foot too far in the past and the other foot too far in the future, does nothing but Piss all over today. Think about it!!!!!!!
Enjoy today. All sorts of crap can happen tomorrow.
Kerry (the attitude guy)
ya know, i needed that! thanks0
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