I Lost My Husband Today

skipper85 Member Posts: 229
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
The battle is over and the beast thinks it won. No way. It took my husband's body today but it will never take his spirit or mine.

Paul crossed over late this afternoon peacefully at the hospice center. His decline was so rapid it seemed like it was in the blink of an eye. We had such a great Christmas. A good memory.

His request was no sad faces. Be happy for him. He's seeing all those he loved that had gone before him including all his dogs.

He had asked that a memorial fund be set up at our Vet for rescue animals and for people who would have to give up their animals because they couldn't provide needed medical care. We got our first rescue dog yesterday. She is so sweet but so undernourished and needs some other medical care. She was abandoned by renters downtown. We've name her "Downtown Judy Brown." The name of the fund is Pawing It Forward. If anyone is interested in helping these poor animals send me a private message with your e-mail address and I will send you pics of our first rescue and information about Pawing It Forward. It's a wonderful tribute to a great man and it will help us rescue dogs from high kill shelters and give them the medical attention they need so they can be put into foster homes and eventually be put up for adoption.

Thank you for all your prayers and good wishes over these past months. I will still be lurking in the boards and posting from time to time to give support to all my new friends.



  • Pennymac02
    Pennymac02 Member Posts: 332 Member
    No Sad Faces
    No Sad Faces for Paul, Skipper, but there's a sad place in my heart for you, my friend. May Gods blessings of peace and rest be with you.
    My heartfelt condolances.
  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    So sorry to hear that Paul lost his battle. At least you had a nice Christmas with him.I think it's a great idea to have the memorial for rescue animals. I'm sure Paul would be happy that you're following through with his wishes.
    Please take care of yourself and try to relax. These past months have been hard on you and since I"ve been through it, I know how important it is to try and take one day at a time.
  • luz del lago
    luz del lago Member Posts: 449
    My heart is with you tonight. Been very teary this evening about my love, but right now My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please, rest and find comfort in all that you have done and know that it made a huge difference. To leave this earth with love is a gift. And you gave that to him. What a wonderful inspiration you will do in his honor! Lurk often, for your experience is priceless.

  • neverquit
    neverquit Member Posts: 220 Member
    Skipper, I am very sorry for your loss. You should be comforted by the fact that you gave so much of yourself to help your love through this time. I have said a prayer for you both. Take good care of yourself and I wish you the best.
  • lovingwifedeb
    lovingwifedeb Member Posts: 183
    So Sorry...
    No words can express my ache for you, it's large and heavy and Lots of deep sighing. You are our reflection so hold tight, we need you to be strong because we need to know that you can survive this too.

    Pets can fill our lives with uncondiontional love, this is a perfect way to honor the memory of your husband, the love you will carry with you forever.

    Peace to you.

    lovingwife to Bob, stage 4
  • bluetopaz
    bluetopaz Member Posts: 10
    Hi Skipper...I am new here but am sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute to your hubby. God bless you and your family. Hugs to ya.
  • ms.sunshine
    ms.sunshine Member Posts: 707 Member
    bluetopaz said:

    Hi Skipper...I am new here but am sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute to your hubby. God bless you and your family. Hugs to ya.

    No sad face
    I do feel heartache for you. You are an inspiration, so stay in touch when you can.
    Your husband had a great attitude. I only hope when my time comes I have the same attitude. When he knew his time was short, he was making plans to take care of those left behind. What a guy!

    Last night I was reading in Matt. the scripture said, "Jesus saw the woman had great faith, and gave her what she wanted." I started thinking, "how does one see faith?" First thing this morning I read your post. Your post answered my question. I can "see" you and Paul had/have great faith.

    Blessings to you Skipper. All the best to Downtown Judy Brown. Take care.
  • Barbara53
    Barbara53 Member Posts: 652
    dogs in heaven
    Skipper, I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad that the end came quickly so Paul could go be with all those wet doggie noses in heaven. I've often thought that we outlive our pets so we can have the chance to love more of them! What a wonderful legacy for Paul to leave behind.
  • sea60
    sea60 Member Posts: 2,613
    He is dancing!
    No pain, no discomfort, just joy! What a wonderful thing you both have done helping these animals.

    Blessings and hugs to you,

  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    Please accept my sympathy. I know there are no words that can help, but helping the animals will give you some comfort. No sad faces? Like I told my husband if he had been a real sob, then we might manage that. When someone is so well loved we have to hurt. We miss them. We need to grieve. I know Paul understood that. We can be glad that they are no longer in pain, but we can feel bad for us. Take care of yourself now. Fay
  • karenbeth
    karenbeth Member Posts: 194
    Best wishes, Skipper. I was thinking about you recently as you hadn't posted. I am sorry for your loss. As an animal lover, I think the memorial fund is a lovely idea.

  • AlwaysMomsGirl
    AlwaysMomsGirl Member Posts: 8
    From my heart to


    From my heart to yours, my sincerest condolences. I admire and respect the work you're doing in your husband's memory and wish you only the best Pawing it Forward.

  • dodot
    dodot Member Posts: 14
    I am so sorry for your loss. I to lost my wife 2 weeks ago to this disease. I understand the pain. It is just about unbearable. My wife was 40 and she left me and my two teenage daughters. I will never get over it but with Gods help only learn how to live with it. God Bless u my friend. Please say a hello. ksodders@jlroberts.com is my email. I will be praying for u that God will give you direction and strength through this time in your life.

    Kendall from Mississippi