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SKIPPER UPDATE: At Hospice

skipper85
skipper85 CSN Member Posts: 229
edited March 2014 in Head and Neck Cancer #1
Hello Everyone:

I apologize for not posting and commenting on your posts for the last week or so. I have been with Paul at hospice since last Tuesday. He is still hanging on but is slowly fading. My daughter was with me until yesterday. She had to go back to work and pick up her son from her soon-to-be ex-husband. She also was boarding (3) dogs in the kennel and needed to get them home so a friend could watch them when she returns. My son is with me at least until tomorrow. Paul is not giving up easy but now seems more peaceful (mostly because of drugs) than he has been this whole last week. I'm getting sleep at the hospice center but nurses come in and out during the night. Mentally I'm exhausted but I've accepted Paul's fate and I'm anxious for him and our whole family to find peace.

Please know that your thoughts and prayers have been much appreciated and have helped tremendously.

Thank you for all your support.

Skipper
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  • Jan Trinks
    Jan Trinks CSN Member Posts: 477
    #2
    Prayers coming your way
    Skipper:

    So glad to hear from you though not the news we'd hoped for. So glad you've accepted Paul's fate. Believe me I know it's not an easy thing to do. I'm right with you in this as I truly know how you are feeling and what you are going through. I hope that brings you some comfort as it did me when Charlie passed away. My favorite cousin and a very close friend have lost their husband/wife and talking with them is a comfort because I know they truly know what I'm going through. Stay strong and God bless you and Paul and your family.

    Jan (Basketcase)
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  • Hondo
    Hondo CSN Member Posts: 6,636 Member
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    Jan Trinks said:

    Prayers coming your way
    Skipper:

    So glad to hear from you though not the news we'd hoped for. So glad you've accepted Paul's fate. Believe me I know it's not an easy thing to do. I'm right with you in this as I truly know how you are feeling and what you are going through. I hope that brings you some comfort as it did me when Charlie passed away. My favorite cousin and a very close friend have lost their husband/wife and talking with them is a comfort because I know they truly know what I'm going through. Stay strong and God bless you and Paul and your family.

    Jan (Basketcase)

    Peace be with you

    Words are hard to express at this time skipper but my heart and my prayers are with you. My request to my wife is when that times comes for me not to let me suffer and not to keep me hanging on. I know that when I leave this world there is a better one awaiting me and one that I will wait for her to join me in. A place with no sickness, no cancer, and no pain

    God bless and give you the strength you need each day
    Hondo
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  • rozaroo
    rozaroo CSN Member Posts: 665
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    Hondo said:

    Peace be with you

    Words are hard to express at this time skipper but my heart and my prayers are with you. My request to my wife is when that times comes for me not to let me suffer and not to keep me hanging on. I know that when I leave this world there is a better one awaiting me and one that I will wait for her to join me in. A place with no sickness, no cancer, and no pain

    God bless and give you the strength you need each day
    Hondo

    Skipper
    Thank you for your update! I understand how exhausted you all must be. Try to get a bit of decent rest. It was difficult with my dad but we took turn's to give my mom a break. My thought's & prayer's are with you all!
    God Bless
    Roz
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  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom CSN Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    #5
    Lifting you up, skipper
    Prayers for your husband, you, and for your family.

    Praying for the peace you all deserve.

    Hugs.
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  • Glenna M
    Glenna M CSN Member Posts: 1,576
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    Prayers
    I will continue to keep you, your husband and family in my prayers.

    Glenna
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  • Pumakitty
    Pumakitty CSN Member Posts: 652
    #7
    Thoughts
    Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

    Kathy
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  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 CSN Member Posts: 8,305 Member
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    Thoughts and Prayers
    Your situation is one that truely hits home to us all I'm sure.

    Continued Thoughts and Prayers,
    John
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  • sweetblood22
    sweetblood22 CSN Member Posts: 3,228 Member
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    Skiffin16 said:

    Thoughts and Prayers
    Your situation is one that truely hits home to us all I'm sure.

    Continued Thoughts and Prayers,
    John

    Praying for your family.
    Skipper I'm so sorry to read this. I guess I was hoping against hope that there would be some kind of major turn around. You and your husband are still in my prayers.
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  • terryscarlett
    terryscarlett CSN Member Posts: 143
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    sweetblood22 said:

    Praying for your family.
    Skipper I'm so sorry to read this. I guess I was hoping against hope that there would be some kind of major turn around. You and your husband are still in my prayers.

    Skipper
    Prayers are with you and the family, may God give you comfort during this time of heart ache. I am so sorry you are having to go through this loss and pain. God speed.
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  • mswijiknyc
    mswijiknyc CSN Member Posts: 421
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    walking with you
    in more ways than one. keeping you in my thoughts. Stay present.

    Love and hugs,
    April
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  • JUDYV5
    JUDYV5 CSN Member Posts: 392
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    Skipper
    I will be Praying for you as you and your family as your go through this difficult time. Once again Hondo made the perfect point "A place with no sickness, no cancer, and no pain"
    What a wonderful place - Judy
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  • Ron49
    Ron49 CSN Member Posts: 91
    #13
    Prayers for You
    You are in our hearts and prayers
    Ron
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