I can't believe my mother did this on X-mas..
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It will be OK
I know you're disappointed. You both have the right to decide where you want to be. Try not to be so disappointed that she didn't come.
All you can do is keep saying, if she asks about this day, that you were not able to keep food down after your 16 chemo treatments. You have to be the broken record. And focus on your own health and what you know you need to do, and don't worry about what she did do, or didn't do.
When you aren't feeling well, you probably are emotional. I know I get emotional. I always have the 3 day rule. Wait 3 days and see how you feel then. In most cases, my attitude and how I feel has changed by the 3rd day. I've learned to keep my mouth shut when I know perhaps that I should just wait.0 -
Good Advise Kathy!KathyLQ said:It will be OK
I know you're disappointed. You both have the right to decide where you want to be. Try not to be so disappointed that she didn't come.
All you can do is keep saying, if she asks about this day, that you were not able to keep food down after your 16 chemo treatments. You have to be the broken record. And focus on your own health and what you know you need to do, and don't worry about what she did do, or didn't do.
When you aren't feeling well, you probably are emotional. I know I get emotional. I always have the 3 day rule. Wait 3 days and see how you feel then. In most cases, my attitude and how I feel has changed by the 3rd day. I've learned to keep my mouth shut when I know perhaps that I should just wait.
I need to learn the three day rule...makes losts of sense.
I think TJ your Mom might be in denial and want to ignore that you might be so sick...it just might hurt her to the core to think her baby is that ill.
You are incredible, #16 WOW.
Keep your chin up sis.
I'm sorry hunny and I hope that you rest and take it as easy as you can...feel better soon.
Hugs Karie0 -
Stand your ground
as difficult as it may be. You need to take care of you!!! You do not need to justify your behavior although that is harder to do that to say. No one understands exactly what you feel like, no matter how you try to explain.
See if you can let go of being pissed--it will only hurt you. Just go on from here.
Good luck to you.
JoAnn0 -
dittojoannstar said:Stand your ground
as difficult as it may be. You need to take care of you!!! You do not need to justify your behavior although that is harder to do that to say. No one understands exactly what you feel like, no matter how you try to explain.
See if you can let go of being pissed--it will only hurt you. Just go on from here.
Good luck to you.
JoAnn
Stand your ground. You need to take care of you. I am truly sorry she treated you this way. You are going through enough right now without someone trying to add guilt onto your plate.
The three day rule is a good one. But you do not owe her an apology, if anything, she owes you one. And you'll probably never hear it, but you may see it. My in-laws have treated me like the proverbial red-headed stepchild. I did get a hug at Christmas. I was amazed!
I've learned to say "I'm fine. Thanks. You?" Few people truly want to know. To them, I talk. Otherwise, less is more.
Hang in there. Sending hugs you way!
Betsy0 -
Thanks
Thanks for your support. It is heartbreaking for me that my mother would act this way. She to had breast cancer and under went chemo and rads 12 yrs ago. I drove her to every treatment. And not once did I treat her this way. I am not asking her to pamper me just support me.0 -
mmmm maybe she just can't face it
Seeing her child...I personally could not do that to someone...but each handles differnetly..I would be every so dissappointed to say the least...but like the others said you must take care of yourself!
Eveyone has completely different reactions to different treatments-and it could be different each time...
feel better....take deep breath...
sorry you were treated like this esp on a Holiday0 -
disappointed...
I think if me I MAY BE OUT and out MAD...and hurt...but then I would have to say to myself it is NOT ME>...it's her..0
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