Hi to all my friends on the EC board!

hope0310
hope0310 Member Posts: 320
edited March 2014 in Esophageal Cancer #1
Hope everyone is able to enjoy a peaceful Christmas despite the phase of the journey that you are on....

Have not been over here in a while....my mother passed from SCLC in Sept and mother in law from EC in October, so it has been a gut wrenching year to say the least. I just wanted to stop in and wish eveybody well and share a poem, parden the duplication if I have posted it here before, but I really like it and want to share....

Be good to yourselves
Elysia
<---my beautiful angel, my mother

Don't Tell Me...

Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know,

Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.

Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed,

That I am chosen for this task, apart from all the rest.

Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,

Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.

Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,

Don't tell me how to suffer, don't tell me how to cry.

My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,

But I need you, I need your love, unconditionally.

Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,

Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say,

"My friend, I really do care."

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  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #2
    Great poem
    Elysia,
    This is really a great poem! I know people mean well when they say stuff like that to us, but guess they just don't know what to say, right? Anyhow, my friend, I really do care and am here for you anytime you want to talk. I"m lonely too since I lost my husband, so I understand. Take care! Carole
  • mrsbotch
    mrsbotch Member Posts: 349
    #3
    Poem
    I had never read that before . It really stikes a cord. As Mana said people don't know what to say so they all say the same thing. Grief is a funny thing. My husband is still here yet I have been grieving for him since his recurrance with EC. I know this is wrong but This is me and how I do things. I think what all of us want is someone just to listen and to not pass judgement on how we behave and how we feel.

    My mom is 90 , lives with us and is my best friend. I love her so much. She has been sick lately and I know I will lose her someday soon. I will grieve like there is no tomorrow and if people do not understand. I'm sorry. I know we have to get on with our lives but we will, it may take longer than most but we will.

    Be good to yourself tho


    Barb
  • GerryS
    GerryS Member Posts: 227 Member
    #4
    poem...........
    thanks for sharing...........
    Gerry

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