father has advanced prostate cancer
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Late Stage Prostate Cancer
Linda,
Many parents try to protect their children from worrying about their medical condition by witholding information. Many times, this only serves to increase the anxiety of the family as it seems to be occuring in your situation. From what you have described, your father appears to be in the final stages of his battle with prostate cancer. Most treatments at this stage are not curative but rather are intended to ease pain and preserve quality of life as long as possible.
Chemotherapy, as you may know from your father's previous treatments, is designed to attack cancer cells that are dividing but it doesn't discriminate between healthy and cancerous cells so there are many side effects associated with this treatment. Chemotherapy is usually the final treatment course for this disease. When prostate cancer migrates to the bones radiation is often used as a pain reliever but it is not going to cure the cancer at this point, only help to alleviate the pain. Without knowing what type of radiation treatment your father has had previously, this may or may not be working for him now.
Many men live with late stage prostate cancer for many months or years so it is impossible to predict, given the limited information you apparently have about his condition, when the end might be near. While your fears about not surviving chemo are understandable, it's unlikely that his medical team would put him through this if they didn't believe there was a good chance he would survive it and that his quality of life would not be too adversely affected. Having said that, if I were in a similar situation I would try to spend as much time as possible with your father while you can.
I am so sorry that you are dealing with this and wish the best for you and your family.0 -
Thank youKongo said:Late Stage Prostate Cancer
Linda,
Many parents try to protect their children from worrying about their medical condition by witholding information. Many times, this only serves to increase the anxiety of the family as it seems to be occuring in your situation. From what you have described, your father appears to be in the final stages of his battle with prostate cancer. Most treatments at this stage are not curative but rather are intended to ease pain and preserve quality of life as long as possible.
Chemotherapy, as you may know from your father's previous treatments, is designed to attack cancer cells that are dividing but it doesn't discriminate between healthy and cancerous cells so there are many side effects associated with this treatment. Chemotherapy is usually the final treatment course for this disease. When prostate cancer migrates to the bones radiation is often used as a pain reliever but it is not going to cure the cancer at this point, only help to alleviate the pain. Without knowing what type of radiation treatment your father has had previously, this may or may not be working for him now.
Many men live with late stage prostate cancer for many months or years so it is impossible to predict, given the limited information you apparently have about his condition, when the end might be near. While your fears about not surviving chemo are understandable, it's unlikely that his medical team would put him through this if they didn't believe there was a good chance he would survive it and that his quality of life would not be too adversely affected. Having said that, if I were in a similar situation I would try to spend as much time as possible with your father while you can.
I am so sorry that you are dealing with this and wish the best for you and your family.
Hello Congo,
I appreciate your feedback and i believe you are right on.. My father has had so many surgeries radiation , hormone shots and has done everything possible. It is just so hard to see someone that love life so much in so much pain.. I am not sure what t hey are giving him now but it keeps him asleep most of the time which is probally good for him as far as pain goes.. I plan to go see my father again with my brothers and sisters even though my mother will not agree.
God Bless Merry Christmas,
Linda0 -
A family reunion on Christmasschammitt said:Thank you
Hello Congo,
I appreciate your feedback and i believe you are right on.. My father has had so many surgeries radiation , hormone shots and has done everything possible. It is just so hard to see someone that love life so much in so much pain.. I am not sure what t hey are giving him now but it keeps him asleep most of the time which is probally good for him as far as pain goes.. I plan to go see my father again with my brothers and sisters even though my mother will not agree.
God Bless Merry Christmas,
Linda
Hi Linda
I am sorry for the condition of your farther. Kongo above has given you a great opinion on his medical conditions. Unfortunately, cancer affects any one on its path including their loved ones.
As a cancer patient myself I do not like to see people around me worried, particularly my close family. But I like to see them caring for me. Any small action gives me joy. Your mother may be thinking that solitude is best to your father and most surely has no deep meaning against your visiting their place.
You may take the opportunity of this Christmas season to arrange for a family reunion and show affection.
Wish you find a good way. God Bless your family.
VGama0 -
Family reunion on ChristmasVascodaGama said:A family reunion on Christmas
Hi Linda
I am sorry for the condition of your farther. Kongo above has given you a great opinion on his medical conditions. Unfortunately, cancer affects any one on its path including their loved ones.
As a cancer patient myself I do not like to see people around me worried, particularly my close family. But I like to see them caring for me. Any small action gives me joy. Your mother may be thinking that solitude is best to your father and most surely has no deep meaning against your visiting their place.
You may take the opportunity of this Christmas season to arrange for a family reunion and show affection.
Wish you find a good way. God Bless your family.
VGama
Hello Vgama,
Thank you for your kind words. I think it would be so wonderful if all of us children could see our Dad together. MY father has not seen us together in years only in photos. We all take turns visiting them in Florida only because that is the way my mom likes it to be . The only thing is my mother would say we were being negative and Dad is going to be fine. She wants us to wait till after he has his chemo treatments. We all are hoping he is going to be fine but in our Hearts we dont think he is. We talk on the phone with our concerns and worries and what ifs..We are hoping he will be b ack to himself.. Such a scary thought and surreal not to have Dad around..
I am so sorry to hear that you too are fighting the battle. I hope you can beat it.. You will be in my prayers.
Thank you again your words helped me and I will share this with my brothers and sisters...
God Bless and Merry Christmas,
Linda0
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