Hi, everyone. I just joined. My mom was diagnosed with NHL grade 3A (high grade) about a month ago. My family is a mess. It seems like it has taken forever since the surgery... she had two of her lymphnodes removed from the right groin area on 10/20. The pathology report came back with nhl 3a (high grade), but no large b- diffused cells, I think, the report is with my sister so I can't check. Her PETscan showed some uptake in the left groin and pelvis as well. For now they are saying it's stage 2, but we will find out the bone marrow biopsy (scary experience, even for me standing behind the curtain while they were doing it) result on Wednesday 12/1 to see if it has gone there. They say that will make it stage 4. I am dreading Wed and praying! First the local doctor said he will do R-CHOP 4 to 6 cycles. We took her to City of Hope (we live in los angeles and that is the place for cancer) for a second opinion and the onc there agreed. Then the local doc spoke with their tumor board and is now saying R-CHOP 3 cycles, followed by radiation in the local area, right groin where the enlarged lymphnode was originally. We asked the City of Hope doctor and he emailed, "yes that is fine too". It seems that no one really knows and just tries things. It is so hard! We took her to UCLA today for yet another opinion and this guy said something different! He said Bendamustine+Rit and radiation is good for stage 2 and just Bendamustine+Rit for stage 4, if it is in the bone marrow too. So we are so confused! We don't know what to go with. Now there are 3 possible ways to go. My mom's english isn't very good so she won't be able to use the support group here. I am hoping I can get some support/advice/answers here. She will probably start chemo soon, maybe early december and when I read the possible side effects I get so panicky and depressed! Please help!