Passing On The Goodwill

lovingwifedeb
lovingwifedeb Member Posts: 183
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
Thanksgiving is almost here and like every year I am trying very hard to have a grateful heart. OK... I am trying VERY HARD to fill my heart with GRATEFULNESS. MY list really is long with the things I "should" be grateful for, healthy grandchildren, healthy children, healthy pets, a job, a home, food on the table. BUT my only one wish, my only hesitation today is WHAT IF I could have this one thing last thing, only one more thing... my husband's health. The diagnosis of melanoma that devastated our lives and changed us both forever.

The holidays were also on my husband's mind at the same time as mine as he mentioned to me he was thinking of all the things he was feeling grateful for. Now this man has receive a rather life changing experience since Father's Day this year, no guarantees of freedom from this cancer ever leaving him. He turned to me and kissed me on the cheek and said I just want to thank you for being here for me and supporting me through all of this because I couldn't do this without you.

I could really feel his sincerity come from his heart all the way into my very soul. These weren't just words that were spoken to me. He was thanking me for being part his life, part of his unknown future, part of his unknown time that we will have together and that we have decided to make the best of.

I am humbled.

I am grateful.

I would also like to take this time to thank all of you for being here. You have listened. You have responded. You have cared.

Deb.
lovingwife to Bob, stage 3c

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  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #2
    Tears
    Hi Deb,
    When I read your post, I got tears in my eyes. I feel so bad that you're going through this with Bob. It sucks! My husband, Tom said almost the same thing to me. I mean what kind of a wife would we be if we didn't take care of them right?
    This is such a great site and I feel that since my husband died and I found this comfort from all you guys that I wouldn't have made it without all the support from everyone.
    Tomorrow will be a hard day since it's the 1st Thanksgiving without Tom. But guess I should be thankful to have been married to him for 46 years. I'll be with my kids & grandkids, so that'll help me make it through the day. Might have a few glasses of wine too!!!
    Have a great day! "Carole"

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