Who else gets 'death support responses'?
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"I'm not dead yet!"team stevens said:tell me about it
When i called my inlaws to tell them,their response was, Oh my God..that's how his uncle went, too. Mike's brothers haven't even come to see him since all of this. they won't call him because "it's hard to understand him when he talks". One of his brothers even told me they'll just wait until the Holidays to see him. he should be 'back to normal' by then.
My coworker told me "there's a place in heaven for you. not all women would hang in there like you're doing..they'd want to get on with their lives. what the heck's that supposed to mean?
"Oh my God..that's how his uncle went, too." TOO?!!!!!!!
RELATIVE: Here's one, nine pence.
OLD MAN: I'm not dead!
CART PUSHER: What?
RELATIVE: Nothing, here's your nine pence.
OLD MAN: I'm not dead!
CART PUSHER: Here, he says he's not dead!
RELATIVE: Yes, he is.
OLD MAN: I'm not!
CART PUSHER: He isn't.
RELATIVE: Well, he will be soon, he's very ill.
OLD MAN: I'm getting better!
RELATIVE: No, you're not. You'll be stone dead in a moment.
CART PUSHER: Oh, I can't take him like that. It’s against regulations.
OLD MAN: I don't want to go in the cart!
RELATIVE: Oh don't be such a baby.
CART PUSHER: I can't take him.
OLD MAN: I feel fine!
RELATIVE: Oh, do us a favor.
CART PUSHER: I can't.
RELATIVE: Well, can you hang around a couple of minutes? He won't be long.
CART PUSHER: Naaah. I got to go on to Robinson's. They've lost nine today.
RELATIVE: Well, when is your next round?
CART PUSHER: Thursday.
OLD MAN: I think I'll go for a walk.
RELATIVE: You're not fooling anyone y'know. Look, isn't there something you can do?
OLD MAN: I feel happy! I feel happy!
WHAM!!
RELATIVE: Ah, thanks very much.
CART PUSHER: Not at all. See you on Thursday.
RELATIVE: Right.
Ah the things our "loved ones" say to us! :-D0 -
Monty PythonBigfuzzydoug said:"I'm not dead yet!"
"Oh my God..that's how his uncle went, too." TOO?!!!!!!!
RELATIVE: Here's one, nine pence.
OLD MAN: I'm not dead!
CART PUSHER: What?
RELATIVE: Nothing, here's your nine pence.
OLD MAN: I'm not dead!
CART PUSHER: Here, he says he's not dead!
RELATIVE: Yes, he is.
OLD MAN: I'm not!
CART PUSHER: He isn't.
RELATIVE: Well, he will be soon, he's very ill.
OLD MAN: I'm getting better!
RELATIVE: No, you're not. You'll be stone dead in a moment.
CART PUSHER: Oh, I can't take him like that. It’s against regulations.
OLD MAN: I don't want to go in the cart!
RELATIVE: Oh don't be such a baby.
CART PUSHER: I can't take him.
OLD MAN: I feel fine!
RELATIVE: Oh, do us a favor.
CART PUSHER: I can't.
RELATIVE: Well, can you hang around a couple of minutes? He won't be long.
CART PUSHER: Naaah. I got to go on to Robinson's. They've lost nine today.
RELATIVE: Well, when is your next round?
CART PUSHER: Thursday.
OLD MAN: I think I'll go for a walk.
RELATIVE: You're not fooling anyone y'know. Look, isn't there something you can do?
OLD MAN: I feel happy! I feel happy!
WHAM!!
RELATIVE: Ah, thanks very much.
CART PUSHER: Not at all. See you on Thursday.
RELATIVE: Right.
Ah the things our "loved ones" say to us! :-D
Sounds straight out of Monty Python, LOL....
"Bring out the dead...."0 -
Monty PythonSkiffin16 said:Monty Python
Sounds straight out of Monty Python, LOL....
"Bring out the dead...."
That's because it IS straight out of the 'Holy Grail' script!
Sometimes when I tell people that I'm fighting off cancer and they give me this look that says, "I can't believe I'm talking to a dead man," I feel like I want to scream out, "I'm not dead yet! I don't want to get on the cart! I feel happy! I feel happy!"0 -
So how are things?
I can relate for sure to all those responses, usually its everyone is praying & miracles happen everyday. Yet usually they are asking me the caregiver is doing and I want to say "Well I feel like crap, I have a 8 month old baby, minimal sleep, work is busy and my husband has cancer", but usually I just say "Fine." I guess people mean well.
In my case though I don't know which response I like because right now there is no cure for my husband's cancer and we aren't even getting treatment, so saying miracles come true seems like a stretch. I mean he won't mirarcously heal himself.
But I love everyone's responses it makes me just stay focused and keeping fighting the best I can for myself, my husband and my child.0 -
I am a huuge Monty Python fan. Bring out yer dead!!Bigfuzzydoug said:Monty Python
That's because it IS straight out of the 'Holy Grail' script!
Sometimes when I tell people that I'm fighting off cancer and they give me this look that says, "I can't believe I'm talking to a dead man," I feel like I want to scream out, "I'm not dead yet! I don't want to get on the cart! I feel happy! I feel happy!"
Always look on the bright side of life, da do..da do, da do......(I can't whistle anymore lol) The Holy Grail was funny. My favs are the sketches on MP Flying Circus tho.
And now for something completely different...0 -
Happy Memoriessweetblood22 said:I am a huuge Monty Python fan. Bring out yer dead!!
Always look on the bright side of life, da do..da do, da do......(I can't whistle anymore lol) The Holy Grail was funny. My favs are the sketches on MP Flying Circus tho.
And now for something completely different...
Used to watch Monty Python with Dad when I was a kid - passed it on to my son, who never misses a chance to say "What - you don't like Spam?". His girlfriend hates when we do it while looking at restaurant menus. Man - now I want a video night.0 -
In sickness and In healthmiccmill said:My mohter
actually said to me "It's so brave of you to stay and take care of him". Wha??? We're not legally married but have been together for 25 yrs. I must say though, that I've met two nurses who left their husbands when health problems became dire and that was a shock to me.
When you're in a marriage or committed relationship, illness doesn't seem like a deal breaker. Life is a risk and if you hook yourself up with someone then you take some of their risks also.
seems like I've heard these words before.....
~JG0 -
GEEKS!Pam M said:Happy Memories
Used to watch Monty Python with Dad when I was a kid - passed it on to my son, who never misses a chance to say "What - you don't like Spam?". His girlfriend hates when we do it while looking at restaurant menus. Man - now I want a video night.
You're all a bunch a total geeks with drain bamage!
... From the biggest geek-king of them all! :-D0 -
Queen GeekBigfuzzydoug said:GEEKS!
You're all a bunch a total geeks with drain bamage!
... From the biggest geek-king of them all! :-D
Oh, you have no clue. I have come to just embrace my geek-ness. It's part of the magic of me.
I love my geek hobbies, ametuer astronomy for one. Yeah, so I'm basically always the only girl there. I go to The PA Renaissance Faire every year and I dress up for it. I listen to Art Bell and George Noory Coast to Coast shows. LOVE science. Huge science geek. Love sci-fi fantasy books and movies. When I was married my craft room was decorated full of Lord of the Rings stuff. I had a full size Aragorn. I could go on, but I will save you the pain.
Queen Geek Sweet0 -
PS hmmmm...sweetblood22 said:Queen Geek
Oh, you have no clue. I have come to just embrace my geek-ness. It's part of the magic of me. I love my geek hobbies, ametuer astronomy for one. Yeah, so I'm basically always the only girl there. I go to The PA Renaissance Faire every year and I dress up for it. I listen to Art Bell and George Noory Coast to Coast shows. LOVE science. Huge science geek. Love sci-fi fantasy books and movies. When I was married my craft room was decorated full of Lord of the Rings stuff. I had a full size Aragorn. I could go on, but I will save you the pain.
Queen Geek Sweet
...maybe that's one reason no one asks me out! Lol. Maybe that and occaisionally wearing my dog on me as an 'accessory'. :-D0 -
The Things You Hear ...
Omigosh I'm on board with number four ... I'm speechless at the stories I've heard. People start out telling me a story ... and I think it's going somewhere positive ... and then suddenly the story goes, "... and then he died." I find myself shaking my head going, "Really? Really?"
It's mind boggling ... I would never say these things to someone whose husband has cancer ... what are they thinking?0 -
Selective memory.Skiffin16 said:In sickness and In health
seems like I've heard these words before.....
~JG
Unfortunately, some spouses seem to forget that bit and the bit about forsaking all others.
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cancer
Oh how I agree, I am sure we all get the same lines, really it would be hard for even me to find correct words if it were someone else. With that said, I can take most the comments, I do hate the ones that give the death stories right off the bat, but the worse is dear family members that act afraid of me now. That is hard. I guess all part of the journey....so they say.... denise0 -
cancer eyesD Lewis said:"Cancer Eyes"
At the start, I got a lot of the looks I would characterize as "Cancer Eyes" where people gaze at you with that sad, tragic look that says "OMG, you are dying!"
The little local ENT (and part-time plastic surgeon) who first diagnosed me STILL does the Cancer Eyes routine with me. He has no grasp at all of the relevance of my HPV status, no idea about current research, and remains convinced that my long term survival rate is somewhere down around 50%. My GP telephoned him to discuss my case, and was given the same prognosis.
This is why, early on, I took myself to the Stanford Cancer Center where people told me to pick myself up and get on with my life with the presumption that it will never return.
I love the four options Doug described above. I have seen them all, myself, and I also prefer Option 3, the wisecrack.
Deb
OMG, that is the same thing that happen to me. When the ENT put the trach in, he said I would be there for out patient surgery. Five days later, remembering none of that time gone by, just seemed to wake up with this thing in my throat, and I mas mad. He came in for the first time I recall seeing him after this and said " I know you are mad and me and you have every right to be, I a so so very sorry, please , I am sorry"...OK...he is sorry for what??? OK....he didn't give me cancer, what is the deal with this? I went to the office the first time after it , and he started it all over and said, whatever you need, whenever you need it, you call me , So, I am still confused, but embarassed that I did not know what I did for five days in the hospital (y boyfriend said I was the worlds biggest bit@# to everyone,I mean bad) So, I call to get another appt., want to know why I was there for 5 days, they check for an appt. and don't have one for two weeks, they go to ask him if he can put me in, he says "whatever she wants, I will see her ". So, I take the two week appt anyway. Go in and ask straight up....what happen. He say "What do you mean, everyone is there that long, everyone acts the same way, what do you mean? I mean this ENT is just really sorry that I have cancer. Didn't know how to react to that....he still is that way. But what a sweet man, I think he really means it, he has those cancer eyes.0 -
Hooty Hootsweetblood22 said:Selective memory.
Unfortunately, some spouses seem to forget that bit and the bit about forsaking all others.
Queen Geek Sweet, you're a hoot....0 -
Jabberwocky is AnotherBigfuzzydoug said:Monty Python
That's because it IS straight out of the 'Holy Grail' script!
Sometimes when I tell people that I'm fighting off cancer and they give me this look that says, "I can't believe I'm talking to a dead man," I feel like I want to scream out, "I'm not dead yet! I don't want to get on the cart! I feel happy! I feel happy!"
The monster so horrible that people caught the plague to avoid it...
It is the middle of the dark ages, ages darker than anyone had expected.
Holy Grail;
I fart in your general direction...
King Arthur: [after Arthur's cut off both of the Black Knight's arms] Look, you stupid B'tard. You've got no arms left.
Black Knight: Yes I have.
King Arthur: *Look*!
Black Knight: It's just a flesh wound.
Knight 1: We are now no longer the Knights who say Ni.
Knight 2: NI.
Other Knights: Shh...
Knight 1: We are now the Knights who say... "Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-PTANG. Zoom-Boing. Z'nourrwringmm
LOL, sorry I'm off on a quest now to find quotes from these movies...LOL.
Best,
John0 -
What to say...staceya said:I never knew what to say
I never knew what to say about the #4s which really bugged me. Then a few months ago (it must have been skiffin) shared his tactic, which I have used ever since. I work with mostly medical people, which was great and remarkable helpful, it was outside of work where I heard the negative stories. Another reason this site has been a blessing.
Stacey
We are now the "survivors" who say... "Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-PTANG. Zoom-Boing. Z'nourrwringmm0 -
HahSkiffin16 said:Jabberwocky is Another
The monster so horrible that people caught the plague to avoid it...
It is the middle of the dark ages, ages darker than anyone had expected.
Holy Grail;
I fart in your general direction...
King Arthur: [after Arthur's cut off both of the Black Knight's arms] Look, you stupid B'tard. You've got no arms left.
Black Knight: Yes I have.
King Arthur: *Look*!
Black Knight: It's just a flesh wound.
Knight 1: We are now no longer the Knights who say Ni.
Knight 2: NI.
Other Knights: Shh...
Knight 1: We are now the Knights who say... "Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-PTANG. Zoom-Boing. Z'nourrwringmm
LOL, sorry I'm off on a quest now to find quotes from these movies...LOL.
Best,
John
I bought my son the "Just a Flesh Wound" tshirt AND stuffed toy with removable velcro attached limbs.0 -
Very KindBigfuzzydoug said:GEEKS!
You're all a bunch a total geeks with drain bamage!
... From the biggest geek-king of them all! :-D
Very kind of you to think of us, your majesty.0 -
Video Game, TooSkiffin16 said:Jabberwocky is Another
The monster so horrible that people caught the plague to avoid it...
It is the middle of the dark ages, ages darker than anyone had expected.
Holy Grail;
I fart in your general direction...
King Arthur: [after Arthur's cut off both of the Black Knight's arms] Look, you stupid B'tard. You've got no arms left.
Black Knight: Yes I have.
King Arthur: *Look*!
Black Knight: It's just a flesh wound.
Knight 1: We are now no longer the Knights who say Ni.
Knight 2: NI.
Other Knights: Shh...
Knight 1: We are now the Knights who say... "Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-Ekki-PTANG. Zoom-Boing. Z'nourrwringmm
LOL, sorry I'm off on a quest now to find quotes from these movies...LOL.
Best,
John
Wow - can't find our computer game "Meaning of Life". I want to play it now - haven't for years - probably long gone. Night, Brian.0
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