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I was BAD

Menda
Menda CSN Member Posts: 128
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I had a double mastecomy about a month ago. I have had some complications and have been in an under armor sports bra 24/7 since. Well I went today and bought 2 dresses at the local botique (a true botique)I can wear one with a sports bra and the other one has to wait until I am back in a bra. They were not on sale and hubby is going to kill me when he finds out. But gosh I wanna look like a girl. Give me some back up so I don't feel so guilty. They are really cute though !
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  • Jean 0609
    Jean 0609 CSN Member Posts: 2,462
    #2
    You go girl!
    Menda, Good for you. You deserve a new wardrobe after what you went through, so don't feel bad about 2 dresses. Hugs, Jean
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  • Emilyfimily
    Emilyfimily CSN Member Posts: 141
    #3
    way to go!
    LOL you funny thing, you - you deserve some new dresses!! :D Way to go!!
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  • mariam_11_09
    mariam_11_09 CSN Member Posts: 691 Member
    #4
    Good for you! I applaude

    Good for you! I applaude you for taking care of yourself. A couple dresses that you feel in good in, this is for your husbands sake as well.
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  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 CSN Member Posts: 2,729
    #5
    Tell hubby that it is an
    Tell hubby that it is an investment to make you look attractive when he takes you out! Gotta look as good as you think he does. Everybody likes having nice things.
    The things I spent a lot of money on because I loved it I never regretted.
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  • jo jo
    jo jo CSN Member Posts: 1,175 Member
    #6
    Go ahead and be BAD!
    Menda i did the same thing...went shopping for new clothes cuz i had new girls and ya i felt guilty spending money on myself (cuz thats rare for me...usually buying for kids or otherhalf) Then i thought i deserve this and also needed it cuz nothing fit anymore. After all we been thru we need that just to lift our spirits a little...i think hubby should understand.
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  • KayNYC
    KayNYC CSN Member Posts: 495 Member
    #7
    Cheerleading statements for you
    1. New clothes are an investment in my recovery.
    2. I do deserve to look and feel pretty.
    3. How much is too much to care for oneself?
    4. Be gentle with yourself as you would be to your best friend.
    5. Looking and feeling good-priceless.
    Hugs, K
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  • heidijez
    heidijez CSN Member Posts: 441
    #8
    not bad. . .Good for YOU!!
    i think you showed remarkable restraint by only buying two new dresses! i so understand about wanting to look like a girl!!!
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  • Punkindo
    Punkindo CSN Member Posts: 113
    #9
    I like it!!!!
    I bet you look good in them too!!! I think you have inspired me to go shopping!!
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  • mwallace1325
    mwallace1325 CSN Member Posts: 806
    #10
    You deserve
    You deserve all the dresses you see that you like. Whatever we need to do to make us feel good about ourselves during all of this is not only a good thing, but a necessary one.
    Enjoy them.

    marge
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  • aysemari
    aysemari CSN Member Posts: 1,596 Member
    #11
    If you want support
    you came to the right place. I own ## shoes (won't expose it here).

    Basically for the same reason "they were so cute". Do I have guilt?

    NO, they ARE cute and I LOOK good in them. And I bet you look
    fabulous in your dresses. Go ahead, INDULGE!

    Ayse
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  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia CSN Member Posts: 4,014 Member
    #12
    Partner in crime
    If you won't feel guilty, I won't. I bought a dress, skirt, a sweater set, 2 tops and 2 pairs of cute shoes today. We are going to my niece's wedding in NH this weekend and I just want to look nice too.

    About bras, my daughter found me a wireless one at Victoria's Secret that works well. It has some kind of a padded (but not really padded) cup that hides imperfections. Between the rib pain and the uneven boobs, I definitely have issues :-)
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  • survives
    survives CSN Member Posts: 254 Member
    #13
    CypressCynthia said:

    Partner in crime
    If you won't feel guilty, I won't. I bought a dress, skirt, a sweater set, 2 tops and 2 pairs of cute shoes today. We are going to my niece's wedding in NH this weekend and I just want to look nice too.

    About bras, my daughter found me a wireless one at Victoria's Secret that works well. It has some kind of a padded (but not really padded) cup that hides imperfections. Between the rib pain and the uneven boobs, I definitely have issues :-)

    Only 2??
    Awwwwwwww, sweetie!! Don't think your hubby would mind you buying whatever it takes to make you feel pretty. He's going to be happy that you're happy, and if only 2 dresses make you happy, then what the heck?

    My dh's smiling as I told him about you...and he said, "Kinda like you and garden stuff...."

    Have fun, and you look FANTABULOUS, Dahhhhhhhhhhhhhlin'!
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  • cahjah75
    cahjah75 CSN Member Posts: 2,631
    #14
    Menda I love Kay's
    response. You go girl! Shopping for something that's going to make you feel good is important. As Kay said, it's priceless. Wear them proudly!
    Char
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  • DebbyM
    DebbyM CSN Member Posts: 3,289 Member
    #15
    CypressCynthia said:

    Partner in crime
    If you won't feel guilty, I won't. I bought a dress, skirt, a sweater set, 2 tops and 2 pairs of cute shoes today. We are going to my niece's wedding in NH this weekend and I just want to look nice too.

    About bras, my daughter found me a wireless one at Victoria's Secret that works well. It has some kind of a padded (but not really padded) cup that hides imperfections. Between the rib pain and the uneven boobs, I definitely have issues :-)

    Good for you! See how great
    Good for you! See how great you feel though about the dresses? I think this is great!

    You will look wonderful in those dresses!


    Hugs, Debby
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  • meena1
    meena1 CSN Member Posts: 1,003
    #16
    cahjah75 said:

    Menda I love Kay's
    response. You go girl! Shopping for something that's going to make you feel good is important. As Kay said, it's priceless. Wear them proudly!
    Char

    Retail therapy is wonderful! I looooove shopping, i feel better just walking in the mall
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  • Angie2U
    Angie2U CSN Member Posts: 2,991
    #17
    meena1 said:

    Retail therapy is wonderful! I looooove shopping, i feel better just walking in the mall

    Bad is good in this case! I
    Bad is good in this case! I love to shop too!
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  • sea60
    sea60 CSN Member Posts: 2,613
    #18
    Angie2U said:

    Bad is good in this case! I
    Bad is good in this case! I love to shop too!

    I agree with Meena!
    That kind of therapy makes you feel better. And when you feel better, your husband will reap the benefits! HA!


    Blessing,

    Sylvia


    P.S. You need to post pictures of you in those 2 outfits!
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  • winsomebulldog
    winsomebulldog CSN Member Posts: 117
    #19
    LOL
    I just bought a bunch of super comfy stuff for the chemo days. I haven't even started my treatments yet, but some of this stuff I've been eying forever and I finally decided that with what I've already gone through and what's coming, I could afford to splurge a little on myself. We all need a little "comfort shopping" every now and then!
    Blessings,
    Jenn
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  • Ritzy
    Ritzy CSN Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    #20
    winsomebulldog said:

    LOL
    I just bought a bunch of super comfy stuff for the chemo days. I haven't even started my treatments yet, but some of this stuff I've been eying forever and I finally decided that with what I've already gone through and what's coming, I could afford to splurge a little on myself. We all need a little "comfort shopping" every now and then!
    Blessings,
    Jenn

    I love being BAD! lol
    WTG! You deserve all of the shopping that you can do and afford. lol

    I have to admit that my hubby has splurged on me and I also have kind of overdone it at times. But, you know...I feel like I earned it. lol


    You enjoy your new clothes and put a smile on your beautiful face!


    Sue :)
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  • cookie97
    cookie97 CSN Member Posts: 200
    #21
    Enjoy
    I think we all have a tendency to feel guilty about anything we buy or bought for ourselves BFBC. Now it's time to throw that guilt in that good ole circular file. Now is not a time to forget about who is Numero Uno right now. Enjoy, endulge and go back out there to get the shoes to match!!!

    Smile Pretty for those cameras.

    XOXO, Edie
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