Sad News

dextr
dextr Member Posts: 5
edited March 2014 in Esophageal Cancer #1
Early May I posted this http://csn.cancer.org/node/191464
I received a lot of support from everyone here and really and truly appreciate it.

A week after I posted this, my father had the endoscopy/biopsy procedure. The following morning he had a heart attack. A new CT scan showed that the tumor in the liver had grown quite a bit, and he had a new tumor growth on his spleen. He spent 3 days in the ER (no ICU beds available in the local hospital) recovering. On the day he was to be released, he suffered a stroke that took away use of his entire left side and made communication extremely difficult.

He made his wishes clear before the stroke that he did not want any heroic efforts to extend his life. He did not want to postpone the inevitable and be dragged along for a few months longer if the quality of life was not going to be what he wanted. All of his kids were able to talk to him before the stroke and we all made peace with the situation and what was to come. The stroke just moved things along much faster than we were all ready for.

We brought him home under hospice care and spent the last 3 days at his side. He left us in the early morning hours of May 12th, just two short weeks after being diagnosed.

Again, I thank all of you here for providing support for everyone dealing with this silent killer. Please don't stop doing this and never give up hope.

I put up a memorial web site for my father and I'd like to share it with you all: www.horstbernhart.com

Comments

  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    #2
    We are so sorry to hear your
    We are so sorry to hear your news. Prayers and wishes go out to you and your family. Your website is beautiful - thank you for sharing that with us.

    Cindy
  • Ellie_E
    Ellie_E Member Posts: 50
    #3
    So sorry to hear of the
    So sorry to hear of the death of your father. Once more we mourn one more who has fought this horrid disease. Our prayers are with you and your family.

    Ellie
  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    #4
    So sorry to hear the sad news about your father
    We are so sorry to hear the sad news about your father. Your website is a beautiful tribute to his life. I pray for you and your family and I pray that your father is now in a better place were there is no pain and peace and love are unlimited.

    Paul Adams
    AKA "paul61"
    McCormick, South Carlina
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  • cfight
    cfight Member Posts: 69
    #6
    I am so sorry for your
    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Carolyn
  • Pghmomma
    Pghmomma Member Posts: 141
    #7
    cfight said:

    I am so sorry for your
    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Carolyn

    Im very sorry to hear
    about the loss of your father. I too am having a terrible time with all of this, I recently lost my father. God bless.

    Tina
  • dragonflymom
    dragonflymom Member Posts: 46
    #8
    I'm in a state of shock. I
    I'm in a state of shock. I can't believe how fast things progressed for your father. You are in my prayers, please take care.

    Amy
  • Lylesmyprince
    Lylesmyprince Member Posts: 130
    #9
    so sorry...
    I'm sorry to hear about your dad. You did a great job showing his spirit on the website. What a great looking guy and fantastic smile!

    Susie
  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #10
    Lylesmyprince said:

    so sorry...
    I'm sorry to hear about your dad. You did a great job showing his spirit on the website. What a great looking guy and fantastic smile!

    Susie

    My deepest Sympathies
    Hello I would like to express my deepest sympathies to you and your family for the recent loss of your dad. I lost my dad to ec with mets to the liver in March. God bless you and your family at this difficult time. Peace be with you.
    Tina
  • dextr
    dextr Member Posts: 5
    #11
    when it rains, it pours
    Well... just 4 weeks after my dad has passed, my wife has been diagnosed with breast cancer. Not sure who I pissed off.

    She had an exam at her doctor in March, and found a lump on her own at the end of May (just one week after my dad died). She's 32 years old. Ladies... please do your self-exams regularly. This proves just how important it is.

    Here's her first post in the BC forum here: http://csn.cancer.org/node/194082
  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #12
    dextr said:

    when it rains, it pours
    Well... just 4 weeks after my dad has passed, my wife has been diagnosed with breast cancer. Not sure who I pissed off.

    She had an exam at her doctor in March, and found a lump on her own at the end of May (just one week after my dad died). She's 32 years old. Ladies... please do your self-exams regularly. This proves just how important it is.

    Here's her first post in the BC forum here: http://csn.cancer.org/node/194082

    Oh Dextr I agree, when it
    Oh Dextr I agree, when it rains it pours! Wow...you have a lot to deal with. Pray, pray, and pray some more. You already know how to be a great caregiver, now it is your wife you are caring for. BC is one of the most curable cancers. Hopefully she is at the beginning stages. Stay positive, stay strong. Keep in touch. "Come to me all that travail and are heavy laden and I will refresh you." Peace be with you at this time.
    Tina

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