Recurrent Cancer

chulitalady
chulitalady Member Posts: 5
edited March 2014 in Head and Neck Cancer #1
My father finished his initial treatment two month ago. Apparently, everything was going well til three weeks ago. The radiotion oncologist noticed a 2 to 3 cemtimeter mass on the same location, which is on the base of the neck. My dad was scheduled for a Pet scan; however, he ended up in the hospital due to an infection of G-Tube. The doctor noticed that he was having the same pain which radiated from the ear through the back of the neck. The pain will not go away even with motrin or anaprox. The doctor decided to do a CT Scan to see what is going on. The CT Scan showed areas of concern. The wall of the neck, the tonsils especially, the right side, plus the top of the mouth. The Ent oncolgist was concern with the recurrence so soon. My father was explained what does this mean and the only choose he has. The doctors told me that the only solution at this point is surgery, which my father declined already and won't change his mind. He is ultimately waiting for death to come upon him. If he chose to not do any surgery, then ENT doctors are giving him only six months. As a daughter and health proxy, I'm concern and angry to the fact that the cancer return so soon. Where did we go wrong? What did we didn't do that should have been done? Is it normal to have anger and question God for his action? I understand that people decide what they want to do with their life, but it is wrong to place your children in this ordeal also. People need to understand that treatment and last solution not only affect the patient but also the love ones too.

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  • rbw60
    rbw60 Member Posts: 13
    #2
    Mine has returned also pretty fast. It just means that the treatment did not kill all the cancer cells. No ones fault. Go here for help on this. http://www.cancer.org/docroot/MLT/content/MLT_4_1x_When_Your_Cancer_Comes_Back_-_Cancer_Recurrence.asp
  • rbw60
    rbw60 Member Posts: 13
    #3
    Mine has returned also pretty fast. It just means that the treatment did not kill all the cancer cells. No ones fault. Go here for help on this. http://www.cancer.org/docroot/MLT/content/MLT_4_1x_When_Your_Cancer_Comes_Back_-_Cancer_Recurrence.asp
  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #4
    Hi chulitalady

    Believe me I know your pain as I have been there with my cancer coming back three times. It is not easy for you to understand how your dad feels right now; he is in a depression stage and feels that no matter what he does the cancer will win in the end. You need to get him talking to a consular or someone to help him get out of the going to die anyway thinking.

    Also there are other form of cancer treatment besides radiation and chemo. Like I said my cancer came back three times and the last time I refused any more treatment and I am still here 5 years later.

    Take care and keep us up dated on your dad
  • rbw60
    rbw60 Member Posts: 13
    #5
    Hondo said:

    Hi chulitalady

    Believe me I know your pain as I have been there with my cancer coming back three times. It is not easy for you to understand how your dad feels right now; he is in a depression stage and feels that no matter what he does the cancer will win in the end. You need to get him talking to a consular or someone to help him get out of the going to die anyway thinking.

    Also there are other form of cancer treatment besides radiation and chemo. Like I said my cancer came back three times and the last time I refused any more treatment and I am still here 5 years later.

    Take care and keep us up dated on your dad

    Hondo, I am guessing you have Squamous Cell cancer??? If not what type of cancer do you have?
    What treatment did you opt for on second go round? You said you refused treatment last time, what stage was cancer in? Did you check into any Clinical Trials to see whats new?

    Take care,

    Robert

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