Last night my husband (who lost his job a week before my mastectomy and his mother 3 weeks before my cancer diagnosis) asked me when I'm going to be healed. I had my mast. & tram flap on 12/11, still not back at work. He is very depressed and told me that he needs me to start taking care of him - huh? He has not done a single load of laundry in months. I had to bring in wood to start the fire in the woodstove this morning. He has done nothing but sit on his butt and complain about his back hurting him (too much sitting around). Day in and day out I hear his snide remarks about anything and everything the kids or I say. He could be verbally abusive before but now I just don't want to be around him. Everything is negative, negative, negative. I need to hear positive things. I have never once complained about having breast cancer. Never even cried. Just pulled up my boots (so to speak) and got on to the business of ridding my body of the demon. No crying, no whining, no moaning or feeling sorry for myself. I guess I just need a break from my life to be able to deal with my life - my new life. Can someone tell me when I'll be healed? I now know that I'm cancer free - they got it all in the mastectomy, but when will I be healed?