HAIR TODAY,GONE TOMORROW ! UPDATE

grammadebbie

KATE58 said:

Yes,you think you'll wear it
Yes,you think you'll wear it like a 'badge of honour'until it
actually starts to fall out.I don't want to wear a wig,
can't afford one any way,but I have several pretty scarves.
and a couple of ski caps!

WARNING!!!

(I'm going to swear now,)
THIS SUCKS!!

Prayers
Dearest Kate,

I didn't think it would bother me either.....but it did!! I didn't loose all of mine but it was long and I had to cut it real short. I wore a wig. The funny thing is I'm a blonde (grey really) and I couldn't find a blonde wig I liked. Tried on a short red wig for the style but liked the color with my green complexion. ha ha Liked it so much that I died my hair red when it grew back. You are lovely so just do what makes you feel good. The Look Good Feel Good program is really fun. You can find it here on cancer.org under support programs.

Swear all you want. We've heard or said it all. I'll be praying for you.

Be Blessed,

Debbie (gramma)

coloCan

tootsie1 said:

You'll be lovely
Kate,

I'm sorry about your hair. I know I'd be a complete baby about that. But you're going to be beautiful in your fancy scarves and hats. Just keep that lovely smile shining!

*hugs*
Gail

Used to have my hair almost to my waist
but whether chemo/rad was going to cause it to fall out or not I figured I wouldn;t have the time/energy/strength to maintain it. keep knots out, comb it out etc as it was still thick so me and girlfriend clipped it all off. Had my hair long most of my life, from first time I saw the Stones/beatles til 1980 ,when I cut it to start my promotions at work and stopped cutting itin the baCK in 1991, after big promotion....Surprisingly, I didn;t miss having it as it made my life easier to live and cancer was enough of a battle. Men do/can get attached to their hair but in my case, being comfortable was more important....Steve

krf

KATE58 said:

I don't really like wigs,I
I don't really like wigs,I find them hot and uncomfortable.
I have about 6 or 7 scarves in different colours,
that I already had
and I bought a couple colourful knit hats today.
My doctor told me that I probably WOULD lose my hair.
Right now if you didn't know me, you probably would not notice,
but my friends are going to say "what's up with your hair"??!!
as soon as they see me.(they won't be mean,they love me)
If the same amount comes out next time I wash it ,I think it will be too
thin to go bareheaded.
as the day goes on I am becoming more accepting of it.
I'll just have to wait and see.
I'll keep you updated,I wash my hair every other day,
but I feel like a cat today with the shedding !!
:-(

kATE


SteveZ,
Are you near Lowe's and Cold Stone?

husbands hair
Hi Kate-
My husbands is starting to thin, and it bothered him and he thought it wouldn't. I have to tell you, from a caregiver standpoint going in and out of the cancer center, the women with the lovely bright scarves always make me smile. It is such a cheerful face on the awful cancer. My husband has said it would be nice if he had more choices that boring hats! (He isn't going to do a lovely silk scarf!)
Best of luck.

Buzzard

coloCan said:

Used to have my hair almost to my waist
but whether chemo/rad was going to cause it to fall out or not I figured I wouldn;t have the time/energy/strength to maintain it. keep knots out, comb it out etc as it was still thick so me and girlfriend clipped it all off. Had my hair long most of my life, from first time I saw the Stones/beatles til 1980 ,when I cut it to start my promotions at work and stopped cutting itin the baCK in 1991, after big promotion....Surprisingly, I didn;t miss having it as it made my life easier to live and cancer was enough of a battle. Men do/can get attached to their hair but in my case, being comfortable was more important....Steve

Kate.........
I can't sit here and say how or what I would do, well I could but it just isn't the same. Although last night I took the son to eat at Captain D's and there was a nice looking woman there with her family eating and she had a wrap of some type on her head. I knew immediately why and I walked over to her and her family and simply said "God Bless You", do you know what she asked me ? In her own words "What type did you have", to my astonishment she knew. I told her and we spoke a bit and then enough where I felt comfortable asking her," How did you know that I was a cancer patient", she told me, "By the way you asked me, only another survivor can know that ". Her beauty was such that it didn't matter whether she was bald, fat, thin, black, or white, her realism and inner beauty was enough for me to realize what a wonderful, beautiful, and confident woman I had just met. We ended with a hug and Best Wishes for the Holiday Season.

I guess what I am trying to say is that whomever knows what we go through to reach the point of survivorship or even fight the battle at all knows the time and well being that is sacrificed to wear the "turban"...Actually, the only thing I noticed is that by wearing the turban meant that she was most likely a cancer patient, and after the initial words spoken, it was something I never even noticed. I have already taken the time to cut out a tiny turban and place it over your hair......still just as beautiful as before, inside and out, and the very same person now as you were then.......Love and Hope , Clift

KATE58

Buzzard said:

Kate.........
I can't sit here and say how or what I would do, well I could but it just isn't the same. Although last night I took the son to eat at Captain D's and there was a nice looking woman there with her family eating and she had a wrap of some type on her head. I knew immediately why and I walked over to her and her family and simply said "God Bless You", do you know what she asked me ? In her own words "What type did you have", to my astonishment she knew. I told her and we spoke a bit and then enough where I felt comfortable asking her," How did you know that I was a cancer patient", she told me, "By the way you asked me, only another survivor can know that ". Her beauty was such that it didn't matter whether she was bald, fat, thin, black, or white, her realism and inner beauty was enough for me to realize what a wonderful, beautiful, and confident woman I had just met. We ended with a hug and Best Wishes for the Holiday Season.

I guess what I am trying to say is that whomever knows what we go through to reach the point of survivorship or even fight the battle at all knows the time and well being that is sacrificed to wear the "turban"...Actually, the only thing I noticed is that by wearing the turban meant that she was most likely a cancer patient, and after the initial words spoken, it was something I never even noticed. I have already taken the time to cut out a tiny turban and place it over your hair......still just as beautiful as before, inside and out, and the very same person now as you were then.......Love and Hope , Clift

Thank you,Cliff
Merry
Thank you,Cliff
Merry christmas.

Kerry S

hair
I am an old guy so hair is no big thing. Mine got real thin but came back thicker then before chemo and much darker.

Kathryn_in_MN

Thinning
I thought I would go bald, as I was losing so much hair. It has been different with each tx. With two cycles I had spots on my scalp that felt sunburnt and I lost a lot of hair from those areas. When it first started I was sure I'd be bald within a week at the rate it was coming out.

I have very very thick hair. I've lost about 1/4 to 1/3 of it now (tx#5). Because my hair was so thick to start with no one else notices, but I can tell - especially when I wash it and it compacts down to such a small amount. Every time I brush my hair about 3 times as much hair as normal comes out. Same for washing. So, who knows what will happen by the time I am done, but for now I still have plenty.

I'd just sit back and wait to see what happens. Maybe the hair loss will slow down.

chicoturner

I guess thin is different!
Hi Kate, you are so cute, you'll be fine no matter what! My hair thinned too...... if you count leaving 99 out of a hundred as thin! It's ok though! Mine "thinned" in about Fe.March last year, so much that I too got it buzzed. Then it grew back to about 3/4 inch, but quite thin! I don't always wear a hat or scarf (except it's cold to me now) and often remove it when I have those special "hot flashes" My kids at school (pre-K aged) don't even bat an eye any more! When it was growing (3/4 in) I tinted it colors and they loved it! Now I have double my dose of Irronotecan and it "thinned" a lot again! Oh well! It means life for me! Once you are over the shock, just enjoy it! As my son told me "Mom, you didn't do anything wrong, if people have a problem, it's their problem"! I love him for that! When I was leaving work for a treatment the other day, a new little boy asked me where I was going. My reply was the one the kids always hear from me " It's my day to get my special med." From across the room I heard another child reply.."It's for her hair"!
Merry Christmas Kate! Jean

Annabelle41415

Awww
So sorry you are losing your hair. That has to be so hard. I know going through treatment, I used to wash my hair and I would have my fingers covered with hair, but my hair is so thin I didn't have much to lose anyway, but I could tell a difference when I styled it. Even now after three months after chemo I am still losing some but not as much and not every time. I would also wait to shave your head. You can go to PaulaYoung.com to get stylish wigs for $25 or so. I had about 9 that I bought years ago. Never put one on since I have had cancer - just can't do it right now. They are a good place though and hope you check it out. Don't feel bad about hair loss though, you have healing to think about.

Kim

KATE58

Kathryn_in_MN said:

Thinning
I thought I would go bald, as I was losing so much hair. It has been different with each tx. With two cycles I had spots on my scalp that felt sunburnt and I lost a lot of hair from those areas. When it first started I was sure I'd be bald within a week at the rate it was coming out.

I have very very thick hair. I've lost about 1/4 to 1/3 of it now (tx#5). Because my hair was so thick to start with no one else notices, but I can tell - especially when I wash it and it compacts down to such a small amount. Every time I brush my hair about 3 times as much hair as normal comes out. Same for washing. So, who knows what will happen by the time I am done, but for now I still have plenty.

I'd just sit back and wait to see what happens. Maybe the hair loss will slow down.

Yeah, Kathryn,
my hair was
Yeah, Kathryn,
my hair was really thick too
posted picture of me was taken
about 2 1/2 months ago when it was still thin
from last bout of chemo.
it had really come back thick in last couple months,
but I NEVER lost it like this before,I think it's much thinner than
picture.my landlady is a hairdresser, she said to call her when I
was ready and she'd come to my house and buzz it for me.
with or with out hair I guess I'm still ME.