how wise are you??

jamjoe
jamjoe Member Posts: 6
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
anyone out there who has walk this road ?

more than ten years ago i was my brothers caregiver back in 93 when it was new, at least new to me. he died from colon cancer (lynch syndrome) at age 33.he was father of 2 young boys. i had to fill in often.
5yrs ago i was dianosed late stage 3 and survived.

my mom had same illness and died 2 weeks ago.i was her primary caregiver too. caregiving is total surrender to the person who needs it. its draining it exhausting work of total dedication. the grief is crippling me. i know im not the only one out there to do this, am i?

i find support from the greek playwrite,

"he who learns must suffer, and even in our sleep,pain that falls drop by drop upon the heart,and in our own dispair against out will, comes wisdom to us, by the awesome grace of god"
Aeschylus
needless to say i have new found wisdom.
anyone out there gaining wisdom lately ? we need to stick together. please reply. how many
of us are out there?

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  • sue Siwek
    sue Siwek Member Posts: 279
    #2
    love those words. i have
    love those words. i have learned that in life the most wisdom gained is from hard times. as much as i wish it weren't so it is. i always would tell my children when they were disappointed that how would we know when things are good if you didn't experience something you know you didn't like. cancer we all don't like but this is a way of profiting from it. my husband has had brain cancer and has parkinson's disease he has stopped being self absorbed and is smelling the roses. life is short and when you are ill you find out just what is precious to you.
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #3
    sue Siwek said:

    love those words. i have
    love those words. i have learned that in life the most wisdom gained is from hard times. as much as i wish it weren't so it is. i always would tell my children when they were disappointed that how would we know when things are good if you didn't experience something you know you didn't like. cancer we all don't like but this is a way of profiting from it. my husband has had brain cancer and has parkinson's disease he has stopped being self absorbed and is smelling the roses. life is short and when you are ill you find out just what is precious to you.

    Matthew 11:28
    Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened , and I will give you rest......simply turn it over to Him ......
  • slickwilly
    slickwilly Member Posts: 334 Member
    #4
    Buzzard said:

    Matthew 11:28
    Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened , and I will give you rest......simply turn it over to Him ......

    learning
    I have also been on both side of this issue. I see myself as a single cloud floating along in a clear blue sky. I don't know my purpose or direction. But pretty soon I gather enough energy to turn into a storm. Other clouds have appeared and I am no longer alone. My energy is drained out in a storm that refreshes the earth and air. And once again I am a single cloud and the cycle of life is starting over again. Someday I might not have the energy left to become a cloud. I will fade away and maby someone will remember the storm I produced to make things a little better. For now I will continue floating. Slickwilly

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