I did the deed

mlmjt1
mlmjt1 Member Posts: 537
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I did the deed yesterday and shaved my head after watching most of my baby fine hair go down the bathtub drain and putting my face it in it in the pillow case. Actually bald is better than what I had...but seriously it was a big step for me but I am glad its done

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  • 1surfermom
    1surfermom Member Posts: 396 Member
    Goodbye hair
    I know exactly how you feel. For me shaving and losing my hair was almost a relief.I agonized over it and when it happened all that agony went away and I could concentrate on other things.Today I was in the grocery store and a man complemented me on my hat. I said thank you and blurted out that I had cancer and that was the reason I was wearing a hat. After I said that I noticed that he was bald and he said "well at least your hair will come back, mine is gone forever". I felt better knowing that my hair will come back. So I guess we need to look at this as just a temporary situation although it still sucks. Love Surf.
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    mlmjt...........
    I know how you feel...mine is just coming back in. Now go without a headcovering or get yourself some beautiful scarves or hats. Either way, be proud of who you are, with hair or without!

    Hugs,

    CR
  • survivorbc09
    survivorbc09 Member Posts: 4,374 Member
    CR1954 said:

    mlmjt...........
    I know how you feel...mine is just coming back in. Now go without a headcovering or get yourself some beautiful scarves or hats. Either way, be proud of who you are, with hair or without!

    Hugs,

    CR

    You seem to have it all
    You seem to have it all together mlmjt! Good luck!
  • crazylady55
    crazylady55 Member Posts: 92
    you have done the hard part
    You got past the hard part. It gets easier to deal with. I know have the after chemo peach fuzz that is now looking like a buzz cut and no one has called me "sir" for weeks.

    Good luck, your hair will be back before you know it.
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    It is a big step and not one
    It is a big step and not one we women take lightly, no matter what kind of hair we have! Many of us ( me included) get a very tender scalp while the chemo is killing not just cancer , but our hair follicles! It's rather the feeling of wearing a too tight rubberband in a ponytail for waaay too many hours. And, almost as soon as the head is shaved~ ahhhhhhh!

    So bless your heart for taking this brave step as you move ever closer to Life not just during, but especially AFTER cancer! And the good thing? It really does all come back~ and you are aware that anywhere ( yes, anywhere) on your body you have hair is going to fall out? My Dr never told me, and I didn't put the 2 and 2 together~ just so you know!

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • faithandprayer
    faithandprayer Member Posts: 177
    So Happy For You!
    Hi MJ
    I'm soooo happy for you that it's behind you. No more putting your face in it on your pillow case!!!

    I'm still so new to this, I'm not a wealth of knowledge but can tell you from experience...your first night on your pillowcase is going to feel a bit weird when you hit the bed! Also, for about a week, I would brush away imaginary bangs - which, in hindsight probably looked pretty ridiculous!

    Good for YOU!!!
    KC
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    A Big Step...
    And you're handling it very well. Yeah, remember - it's temporary.
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member

    A Big Step...
    And you're handling it very well. Yeah, remember - it's temporary.

    That was a huge step and you
    That was a huge step and you did it! And, remember, your hair will grow back!

    Good luck!
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    BIG STEP
    And all of a sudden, it is out there in the open for everyone to see. Yes, it is a bit liberating though, isn't it? And Claudia is right, they never told me that I would lose all the hair on my body, nose hair, eyelashes, eyebrows, pubes, all gone. And boy did I wish some of it never came back....would help a bit with the grooming.
    I thought I would never have short hair either, but since it started coming back in, I have kept cutting it shorter, and am considering doing it again. I like it this way now. Enjoy the bald head while you can, I did miss it to an extent when it started coming back.
    Good luck with the rest of your treatments!
    Cat
  • padee6339
    padee6339 Member Posts: 763
    THAT'S ONE SMALL STEP FOR MAN..........
    One giant leap for Womankind! Congratulations on doing the deed! I had my hairdresser do it, forgetting there were other people in the shop. I felt the tears running down my face and the stares of the other customers, looking at me sadly. When she didn't go all the way with the razor, my brother finished it off that night. It was the hardest thing to do, but I learned to wear the wigs, hats and scarves. Everyone said it could grow back black, blond, curly or thicker than my own. Ha hahahaha, its growing back thicker, but so far straight and silver. Looks like a bottle of Preference is in my future! You get used to it and when people stare, stare right back at them! I saw a great t-shirt that said "This is What Cancer Looks Like". If I were at the beginning instead at the end of treatments, I would have gotten it. Bald is beautiful and you are beautiful and strong! Keep smiling, it does help.
    Pat
  • Kylez
    Kylez Member Posts: 3,761 Member

    So Happy For You!
    Hi MJ
    I'm soooo happy for you that it's behind you. No more putting your face in it on your pillow case!!!

    I'm still so new to this, I'm not a wealth of knowledge but can tell you from experience...your first night on your pillowcase is going to feel a bit weird when you hit the bed! Also, for about a week, I would brush away imaginary bangs - which, in hindsight probably looked pretty ridiculous!

    Good for YOU!!!
    KC

    That was a very brave thing
    That was a very brave thing for you to do! Now, it is behind you and you can proceed ahead! And, your hair will come back! Please keep posting and let us know how you do!

    Hugs, Kylez
  • lolad
    lolad Member Posts: 670
    padee6339 said:

    THAT'S ONE SMALL STEP FOR MAN..........
    One giant leap for Womankind! Congratulations on doing the deed! I had my hairdresser do it, forgetting there were other people in the shop. I felt the tears running down my face and the stares of the other customers, looking at me sadly. When she didn't go all the way with the razor, my brother finished it off that night. It was the hardest thing to do, but I learned to wear the wigs, hats and scarves. Everyone said it could grow back black, blond, curly or thicker than my own. Ha hahahaha, its growing back thicker, but so far straight and silver. Looks like a bottle of Preference is in my future! You get used to it and when people stare, stare right back at them! I saw a great t-shirt that said "This is What Cancer Looks Like". If I were at the beginning instead at the end of treatments, I would have gotten it. Bald is beautiful and you are beautiful and strong! Keep smiling, it does help.
    Pat

    How brave you are. I hope i
    How brave you are. I hope i can have that strength when i start my chemo. I find all about mine tuesday and not looking forward to it. God bless you

    laura
  • DianeBC
    DianeBC Member Posts: 3,881 Member
    lolad said:

    How brave you are. I hope i
    How brave you are. I hope i can have that strength when i start my chemo. I find all about mine tuesday and not looking forward to it. God bless you

    laura

    Congrats to you on doing
    Congrats to you on doing that! It was very brave of you and I am sure, very hard!

    Good luck with your chemo!
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    Bald is beautiful
    I know it was quite emotional for me, and it took a couple months to accept it. but there are lots of cute wigs and hats. I finally accepted it and have not worn anything for the last couple months. and it will grow back. Mine has been growing in (along with all the unwanted chin hairs, legs having etc. That was one of the perks...grooming time was a few minutes.! I hope all goes well with your chemo.
    hugs, jackie
  • Alexis F
    Alexis F Member Posts: 3,598
    rjjj said:

    Bald is beautiful
    I know it was quite emotional for me, and it took a couple months to accept it. but there are lots of cute wigs and hats. I finally accepted it and have not worn anything for the last couple months. and it will grow back. Mine has been growing in (along with all the unwanted chin hairs, legs having etc. That was one of the perks...grooming time was a few minutes.! I hope all goes well with your chemo.
    hugs, jackie

    That was a very big step you
    That was a very big step you took!

    Hugs, Lex