New Caregiver to Mother In Law with Breast Cancer
I have read quite a few posts and find it hopeful and encouraging.
I am caring for my mother-in-law who has metastatic breast cancer. She was told that she had cancer in the beginning but told after her left mastectomy that they got all the cancer. They told her that the treatments (radiation and chemotherapy) was treatments for the bones with calcium and lasers that should have been given right away by the doctor who performed the mastectomy. This is all stories to conceal the fact that she has cancer and is being treated for it. My husband said this is being done to keep her hopeful.
She is 76 (just celebrated her birthday on June 13) and is so frail, thin and weak.
She had her surgery and initial treatment in Egypt where she has her home.
My husband brought her here to be with her and continue treatment. However, he travels for business and is away most of the time. I hope I can find some help and encouragement here. I have not gotten to hear from the oncologist here, yet, what she thinks is best for her. We are proceeding to some more radiation treatments, but I think this is my husband's wish.
She is so miserable - it seems unfair to push her through more treatment if it is not helpful. If the doctor has directed radiation for treatment of pain it seems that there would be less distressing methods of palliative care.
And it is really bothering me that she is not participating in the knowledge of her illness and treatment. I am working hard on just getting my husband to accept the reality of her condition - sometimes he says he knows she is in poor condition, but then other times it seems that he expects so much.
I know I have served up a mixed salad, here, but there are so many thoughts and feelings I have about this and I just don't know what the right questions are.
I just hope I can make her time lovely and comfortable.
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