NED
Some of you have supported me and some wanted me gone. Thank you to those who have supported me. I certainly appreciate your prayers and good thoughts because IT WORKED! First they not only did a mammogram but also a sonagram. Then the radiologist came in and told me that there was NO "abnormal" breast tissue. I asked what I was feeling and he replied, that he found some "dense" tissue, but nothing unusual. He also explained that he saw was very likely due to meds. That more than likely explains the lumps in the Lymphs. He DID tell me to follow up with the surgeon. That leaves a very small degree of doubt, BUT I will take that over those 3 dreaded words. Now, please forgive me, I feel very stupid in some ways, and paranoid. I thank those of you that assured me it was very unlikely. To the small group who wanted me gone and thought I was a pervert just want to read about women's boobs. I can only say, you get your wish. I don't need to be here. I needed advice and understanding and I am so greatful to my friends. IF in some future it looks like I do have reason to fear, I will come back. For right now, I will leave this forum to those who very much need each other without the distraction of a paranoid pervert. I will continue to walk the Relay, as I do know it is like to think you may have it. It does give me an insight to the most widely feared disease in the world. I pray for all of you to beat the beast. I hope NED comes and lives with all of you. I will never forget some of you. Even though I am not deserving of membership, I will always consider myself a Daft Sod! May be more so than before. Take care, God Bless and Gentle Hugs!
Mike
aka MUD
Comments
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Mike, I sincerely pray...
that you NEVER earn true membership in this forum.
BUT I have lots of friends who do not have cancer and now I count you among them.
And friendship is thicker than cancer cells. So please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.
If you don't feel that you should post on the boards, at least pm some of us on a regular basis and just say hello.
Then we can pass the word among ourselves that 'our Mike' is still 'among' us.
God bless.0 -
Mike
I am very glad for your news, I do not believe anything other than the fact that you were worried and came to us for help. Please take care and pray that you never get the disease.
anybody that wanted to look at womens boobs have many more interesting places to see them than here. Glad to hear you will continue with the relays.
take care
Cat0 -
Mikecats_toy said:Mike
I am very glad for your news, I do not believe anything other than the fact that you were worried and came to us for help. Please take care and pray that you never get the disease.
anybody that wanted to look at womens boobs have many more interesting places to see them than here. Glad to hear you will continue with the relays.
take care
Cat
Mike,
I am glad everything worked out for you. And like said before you can always keep in touch with a PM every once in awhile to let us know that everything is ok.
Take care my friend and veteran,
Margo0 -
Mike,
so good to hear your news-that's wonderful!!
You don't have to leave here-who cares if you don't have cancer! This is not some exclusive stuffy club!The more the merrier.
The fact is that you did have a scare and had to have the mammogram and ultrasound like the rest of us have been through and been worried about!
I guess what I'm trying to say is don't leave because you feel we don't need you-you've been a great source of support!0 -
Mikeoutdoorgirl said:Mike,
so good to hear your news-that's wonderful!!
You don't have to leave here-who cares if you don't have cancer! This is not some exclusive stuffy club!The more the merrier.
The fact is that you did have a scare and had to have the mammogram and ultrasound like the rest of us have been through and been worried about!
I guess what I'm trying to say is don't leave because you feel we don't need you-you've been a great source of support!
NED is just the greatest thing I could have heard from you (Well apart from: Hey I won the lottery, wanna elope?)
I will always consider you 'One of Us'....and a Daft Sod too. Please don't feel you have to leave us just because you are well or somebody gave you negative vibes.
Outdoor girl was right. You have been more than supportive and joined in with our daft posts.
If you leave now, you will be missed a lot. I hope we hear from you again and soon. Hugs Bro! Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx0 -
Hey Everybody,
After reading some of your posts and discussing it with Robin, I have decided NOT to cut all ties. I know I can provide support and there IS a very small area of commonality. I won't proclaim that I know what it is like to through what all of you have gone through, but I do have a little experience as a caregiver and I never will be "totally out of the woods" with my family history and risk factors. If anything, I need to be here just to remain vigilant Also I can't really leave JUST YET... I don't know the outcome of the surgeon appt. For all I know he will do a biopsy?!?! I AM relieved at this point, yet with a smidgen of doubt. After all I have read posts where things were missed. Thank you for the invitation and to my detractors... I promise to "behave myself"! I had talked to Gretta at ACS and she sugested I bolg my LONG vents and stories. SO if I feel the need to vent or describe something it will be in my blog. Thanks again!!!
HUGS,
Mike
AKA MUD!0 -
Good news, Now you can moveThe1percen said:Hey Everybody,
After reading some of your posts and discussing it with Robin, I have decided NOT to cut all ties. I know I can provide support and there IS a very small area of commonality. I won't proclaim that I know what it is like to through what all of you have gone through, but I do have a little experience as a caregiver and I never will be "totally out of the woods" with my family history and risk factors. If anything, I need to be here just to remain vigilant Also I can't really leave JUST YET... I don't know the outcome of the surgeon appt. For all I know he will do a biopsy?!?! I AM relieved at this point, yet with a smidgen of doubt. After all I have read posts where things were missed. Thank you for the invitation and to my detractors... I promise to "behave myself"! I had talked to Gretta at ACS and she sugested I bolg my LONG vents and stories. SO if I feel the need to vent or describe something it will be in my blog. Thanks again!!!
HUGS,
Mike
AKA MUD!
Good news, Now you can move forward with peace of mind. But I have to ask after reading the posts here.Boobs is the story line here. Pervert hummmm What did I miss??0 -
Hi KatKat11 said:Good news, Now you can move
Good news, Now you can move forward with peace of mind. But I have to ask after reading the posts here.Boobs is the story line here. Pervert hummmm What did I miss??
That was aimed at a particular "few" and they know who they are. I really would rather not go into that any further. I still have my surgeon appt to go to, but things are ALOT LESS stressful now. I actually feel I can be MORE supportive now that I am NOT worried about me. I will let everyone know how that appt goes too. I can not begin to describe how much I appreciate the support that the majority of you wonderfull women (and guys) gave me when I was in my "hour of need" Take Care and God Bless Everyone,
Mike0 -
Mike,The1percen said:Hey Everybody,
After reading some of your posts and discussing it with Robin, I have decided NOT to cut all ties. I know I can provide support and there IS a very small area of commonality. I won't proclaim that I know what it is like to through what all of you have gone through, but I do have a little experience as a caregiver and I never will be "totally out of the woods" with my family history and risk factors. If anything, I need to be here just to remain vigilant Also I can't really leave JUST YET... I don't know the outcome of the surgeon appt. For all I know he will do a biopsy?!?! I AM relieved at this point, yet with a smidgen of doubt. After all I have read posts where things were missed. Thank you for the invitation and to my detractors... I promise to "behave myself"! I had talked to Gretta at ACS and she sugested I bolg my LONG vents and stories. SO if I feel the need to vent or describe something it will be in my blog. Thanks again!!!
HUGS,
Mike
AKA MUD!
You got flagged again,WHY?
Anyways,glad that you are sticking around! We've got your back!
Patty0 -
amazing!outdoorgirl said:Mike,
You got flagged again,WHY?
Anyways,glad that you are sticking around! We've got your back!
Patty
I guess since I wasn't "diagnosed" a certain person is upset that I decided to remain and support MY FRIENDS! I don't think I have to worry, I had already talked with Greta at ACS and as long as I 'behave myself' in regards to the posts that alledgedly offended this person than she has no problem with me. But to this person I am a "pervert" who is only here because of the discussion of women's breasts! I am so tempted to post her PMincluding her "name"... but I am ABOVE that petty behavior! Thank you for the head's up! Absolutely AMAZING!
I willnot be that easily bullied again!
Take Care... most of you are SO awesome that I feel privledged to call you FRIENDS!!!
Mike0 -
Mike,The1percen said:amazing!
I guess since I wasn't "diagnosed" a certain person is upset that I decided to remain and support MY FRIENDS! I don't think I have to worry, I had already talked with Greta at ACS and as long as I 'behave myself' in regards to the posts that alledgedly offended this person than she has no problem with me. But to this person I am a "pervert" who is only here because of the discussion of women's breasts! I am so tempted to post her PMincluding her "name"... but I am ABOVE that petty behavior! Thank you for the head's up! Absolutely AMAZING!
I willnot be that easily bullied again!
Take Care... most of you are SO awesome that I feel privledged to call you FRIENDS!!!
Mike
Sorry that I brought it up-just ignore it(or try to)! Don't let the few who might have a problem make you do anything crazy and possibly get yourself kicked off! It's not worth it.0 -
NED and MUDThe1percen said:amazing!
I guess since I wasn't "diagnosed" a certain person is upset that I decided to remain and support MY FRIENDS! I don't think I have to worry, I had already talked with Greta at ACS and as long as I 'behave myself' in regards to the posts that alledgedly offended this person than she has no problem with me. But to this person I am a "pervert" who is only here because of the discussion of women's breasts! I am so tempted to post her PMincluding her "name"... but I am ABOVE that petty behavior! Thank you for the head's up! Absolutely AMAZING!
I willnot be that easily bullied again!
Take Care... most of you are SO awesome that I feel privledged to call you FRIENDS!!!
Mike
I hope you live happly ever after.LOL
Jadie<30 -
I would like to address this please......
Mike,
First of all, did someone here actually call you a pervert? Whether by PM, or in a post? Or is that something that you interpreted from some message?
Secondly, I think that some do not understand why you would seek out a breast cancer support board, long before you were even tested. And the same question remains as to why you would want to stay, even after being given the opinion of NED. (I am very relieved for you, btw) I know that you still have an appointment with a surgeon. And I don't know, but I suspect that he/she will probably go by the results of the mammogram and the sonogram that you have had. I would doubt that he/she will suggest a biopsy unless you insist upon it.
Thirdly, yes, your sister had breast cancer. And that may put you at a slightly higher risk of developing the disease. But if I were in your shoes, I would be far more concerned about developing prostate cancer, given your strong family history of it.
Also, being a caregiver for your father, I would think that you would gain much more information and support from others, who are in a like situation to yours. And you would be better able to support others who are going through what you have had to go through.
Frankly, I did not come to this board to have to deal with dissention and more stress than I already have while dealing with my cancer issues. And yet, almost every day, I am greeted with posts containing accusations and the attempt to pit some members against others.
These posts are not especially giving comfort and encouragement to me, and I suspect that others are not taking anything positive away from them either. And I am pretty sure that new members coming here, having been recently diagnosed, and in an already fragile state of mind are not comforted by what they are reading either.
I am not trying to cause any kind of trouble or add to the conflict which seems to have arisen already. I'm just stating things the way I see them. So I hope that nobody here takes this post that way.
I merely want to address this whole issue in a calm and intelligent manner in the hopes that there can be some kind of resolution.
Because honestly, I'm not sure that I want to stay here if this conflict continues.
CR0 -
Dear Cindy...CR1954 said:I would like to address this please......
Mike,
First of all, did someone here actually call you a pervert? Whether by PM, or in a post? Or is that something that you interpreted from some message?
Secondly, I think that some do not understand why you would seek out a breast cancer support board, long before you were even tested. And the same question remains as to why you would want to stay, even after being given the opinion of NED. (I am very relieved for you, btw) I know that you still have an appointment with a surgeon. And I don't know, but I suspect that he/she will probably go by the results of the mammogram and the sonogram that you have had. I would doubt that he/she will suggest a biopsy unless you insist upon it.
Thirdly, yes, your sister had breast cancer. And that may put you at a slightly higher risk of developing the disease. But if I were in your shoes, I would be far more concerned about developing prostate cancer, given your strong family history of it.
Also, being a caregiver for your father, I would think that you would gain much more information and support from others, who are in a like situation to yours. And you would be better able to support others who are going through what you have had to go through.
Frankly, I did not come to this board to have to deal with dissention and more stress than I already have while dealing with my cancer issues. And yet, almost every day, I am greeted with posts containing accusations and the attempt to pit some members against others.
These posts are not especially giving comfort and encouragement to me, and I suspect that others are not taking anything positive away from them either. And I am pretty sure that new members coming here, having been recently diagnosed, and in an already fragile state of mind are not comforted by what they are reading either.
I am not trying to cause any kind of trouble or add to the conflict which seems to have arisen already. I'm just stating things the way I see them. So I hope that nobody here takes this post that way.
I merely want to address this whole issue in a calm and intelligent manner in the hopes that there can be some kind of resolution.
Because honestly, I'm not sure that I want to stay here if this conflict continues.
CR
Thank you, very much, for your honest, thoughtfully written and calmly worded post - for all to read. And respond to, at their own choosing.
I assure you that you are most certainly not alone in your stated perspective.
The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one.
Kind regards, Susan0 -
CR..CR1954 said:I would like to address this please......
Mike,
First of all, did someone here actually call you a pervert? Whether by PM, or in a post? Or is that something that you interpreted from some message?
Secondly, I think that some do not understand why you would seek out a breast cancer support board, long before you were even tested. And the same question remains as to why you would want to stay, even after being given the opinion of NED. (I am very relieved for you, btw) I know that you still have an appointment with a surgeon. And I don't know, but I suspect that he/she will probably go by the results of the mammogram and the sonogram that you have had. I would doubt that he/she will suggest a biopsy unless you insist upon it.
Thirdly, yes, your sister had breast cancer. And that may put you at a slightly higher risk of developing the disease. But if I were in your shoes, I would be far more concerned about developing prostate cancer, given your strong family history of it.
Also, being a caregiver for your father, I would think that you would gain much more information and support from others, who are in a like situation to yours. And you would be better able to support others who are going through what you have had to go through.
Frankly, I did not come to this board to have to deal with dissention and more stress than I already have while dealing with my cancer issues. And yet, almost every day, I am greeted with posts containing accusations and the attempt to pit some members against others.
These posts are not especially giving comfort and encouragement to me, and I suspect that others are not taking anything positive away from them either. And I am pretty sure that new members coming here, having been recently diagnosed, and in an already fragile state of mind are not comforted by what they are reading either.
I am not trying to cause any kind of trouble or add to the conflict which seems to have arisen already. I'm just stating things the way I see them. So I hope that nobody here takes this post that way.
I merely want to address this whole issue in a calm and intelligent manner in the hopes that there can be some kind of resolution.
Because honestly, I'm not sure that I want to stay here if this conflict continues.
CR
I would like to thank
CR..
I would like to thank you for having the fortitude to state what I am sure others are feeling and thinking... I have tried to shy away from this, because I sense an attempt to create distention among the members here, and the thought that someone who is going through the bc journey and needs support, or someone who has been there and can offer the newer members support and information from his or her own experience with the beast, would turn away from this site because of this garbage... is really disheartning to me...
And don't you dare go anywhere..
Hugs,
~T0
Pammy 
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