I developed NHL in 2000, stage 4. I would like to know if other cancer patients have had the problem I have had with friends or family who compare their disease as being as bad as your cancer. Some people say I look well, so how could I be sick. Here's the one that really burns me up. My sister developed Diabetis II a few years ago. Now, everytime I tell her how I feel physically with chemo treatment, recurrence, side effects, the stress, etc.; she says she has the same aches and pains as I do (exact same). She then proceeds to tell me that her Diabetes is just as bad as my cancer. She takes pills every day for her diabetes and doesn't watche her diet nor take her blood sugar everyday. I wish has just had to do that to keep my cancer in control. I do feel empathy for her with the Diabetes, I want her to be well, but I feel she is mocking me and it just irratates me to pieces. It feels like she's competeing with me in some way. Has anyone else experienced this type of insensitivity.