cancer so SUCKS

dorookie

I hate this beast, I am so tired of hearing how more and more people are getting this beast, WHY WHY WHY, we have so much technology these days what the heck is going on!!! IT just breaks my heart, not just what I have lost because of this but for all of those you have paid the biggest price, it just sucks so bad. I am so MAD.

I know getting mad wont change a dang thing but I just feel like screaming and screaming, WHY WHY WHY, is there ever going to be an answer???

I am sorry for venting, just had to get it out this morning and I knew you all would understand...

Thanks
Beth

lisa42

venting is okay
Venting is definitely okay here, Beth.
The WHY question is one we all are asking! I think it's probably a direct result of what we now have in our environment and what's in the food we eat- all the hormones, additives, preservatives, dyes, etc, etc! Some people in the oncology world are starting to wake up to this, but most still are not, it seems. They're pouring a lot of money into new treatments and cures, which is definitely needed, BUT they need to wake up and realize and alert everyone to stop buying food with all the crap in it. Maybe if it came from American Cancer Society, American Medical Society, etc., people would really listen and then the food manufacturers would be hurt in the pocketbook and would be forced to change and get rid of all the stuff the harmful additives in our food, which I think is killing us!

Sadly, I'd be very surprised if the ACS or the AMA actually came out and said these are the things that are causing cancer. I guess they feel they can't because they don't have "hard and fast evidence" of it. It just seems to be common sense, though! Until it comes from a major source who is considered "highly respectable in the medical world", most people will just go on eating and buying things that are awful to put into a human body. I think a lot of people think like I used to- that it wouldn't be approved for sale and/or consumption if it were really harmful, so it must not be that bad.

I always also wonder about all the radiowaves and other type of "waves" we're surrounded by and that are constantly going at and through our bodies. Think of it- cell phones by our heads (and now the blue tooth hands free setups make our heads into antenna picking up signals constantly). I've got just a simple wire going from my phone to an ear bud & I don't leave it in my ear unless when I'm actually talking. I don't really know, but I'm hoping that's better than the blue tooth. I think of all the wireless everything we have in our houses- routers, wireless mouse/keypads on the computers, wireless printers. I don't know, but I worry that all those extra "waves" are not good. I don't even know how far of a radius is around. I know sometimes my laptop will pick up my neighbor's wireless network- so there's more that our bodies are being constantly bombarded by. I've not read any articles or studies on that, but I imagine it's a lot worse for us than ever will be let on. Will they tell us if it's found out? No way- no one would buy those expensive electronic products anymore & we've all become dependent on them.

Those are my thoughts. I guess we can't control the "waves" we're exposed to, but we can reduce what we create in our house and we can definitely try to control what we eat.

With all that said, I know there's people on this board who were already living healthy lifestyles and still got cancer. So, there has to be more reason than just this, but I guess we can only do something about what we CAN control.

Beth- take care- just be determined to take charge of what you can. Sometimes it's less stressful in life to just accept what you can't change (stress doesn't help cancer), but I think we CAN change a lot more than we sometimes think we can.

Lisa

VickiCO

I agree
Vent away...this is what I posted on my personal journal to my family just yesterday. We are thinking alike...

"Today I am angry. I am angry at CANCER. I am angry that so many of my friends are suffering, some much worse than what I have to deal with. I am angry that the caregivers have to change their lives because of cancer. I am angry that children have to watch their parent struggle to beat this disease, while trying to give the kids some sense of normalcy. I am angry that we have come so far with treatments, but CURE still eludes us. I am angry that the treatments are so debilitating and humiliating and robs us of our basic dignity. I want you to be angry too. Maybe if enough of us get mad, we can DO something. Just my thoughts for today."

And then I later posted:

"There is so much to be HAPPY about as well. I am happy I have 3 beautiful grandsons, and the oldest is coming to spend the night tonight. That means I am doing well enough to have him here! It's been a while...I am happy I have so many wonderful friends. I am happy that I have the best husband in the world. I am happy that I have a gorgeous, caring daughter and a handsome, smart and terrific son-in-law that I can call with my many medication questions. I am happy I can DRIVE again, at least this week. I am happy that I am quilting again.

BUT I am still angry at cancer...."

Hang in there...Vicki

JR

WHY ?
I think that Lisa is right on. The food we eat and the enviornment we live in. Way to much processed food, sugar, red meat, fast food, the reasons go on and on. We all need to make some drastic changes in our lifestyles. More importantly we need to teach our children a better way of living. Feel free to vent here anytime. This is the correct place for it. I think we should all vent regularly. Better to let it out in this forum than keep it inside and get depressed about it. Let's all keep up the fight.
Thanks,

John

drmrgirl47

Cancer so does suck!
I totally agree with you. Not only do we have to deal with the damn cancer, we have to deal with the treatments and the other awful stuff that happens to our bodies. Like me, abdominal blockages and surgeries and long, painful recoveries....blah, blah, blah...No apologies for venting. I hear ya! Vent away!!!

kmygil

I hear you!
You are so right! We have technology--only our bodies are not designed by people; none of our naturally given parts are titanium. I chose to think of it like this--if I had still been living in Africa, I would never have gotten the colonoscopy and would probably be dead by now. Instead, I am blessed to be where I am so I could go through some rough stuff and still be here to "brag" about it. Perspective is everything. I hate cancer with a passion, but I also bless my circumstances that I could be treated and have some good years ahead of me with my "new normal." But yes, sometimes I get SOOOO STINKING MAD!

Hugs,
Kirsten

dorookie

Thank you all
I appreciate everyone listening to me and allowing me to vent. I knew you guys would understand. I totally appreciate all the support this board gives, it truly has been a Godsend. Thank you so very much

God Bless
Beth

angelsbaby

dorookie said:

Thank you all
I appreciate everyone listening to me and allowing me to vent. I knew you guys would understand. I totally appreciate all the support this board gives, it truly has been a Godsend. Thank you so very much

God Bless
Beth

beth
I can relate I hate it too.

michelle

dorookie

angelsbaby said:

beth
I can relate I hate it too.

michelle

MC Licence
Michelle,
I took a class a few weeks ago and got my Motorcycle lic. I was so proud of myself. It exhausted me but I made it through. I am official now. Now my dad is going to get me that bike, its his but its to big for him, he is short. As you can see in my pic. LOL I cant wait. I took my other bike out the other day and just road around legally, I thought of your husband and smiled. I knew he would somehow be proud of me, because I am building my confidence up, sometimes I get a little scared when I ride and I wasnt that scared the other day.

Hope you are doing okay.
Beth

angelsbaby

dorookie said:

MC Licence
Michelle,
I took a class a few weeks ago and got my Motorcycle lic. I was so proud of myself. It exhausted me but I made it through. I am official now. Now my dad is going to get me that bike, its his but its to big for him, he is short. As you can see in my pic. LOL I cant wait. I took my other bike out the other day and just road around legally, I thought of your husband and smiled. I knew he would somehow be proud of me, because I am building my confidence up, sometimes I get a little scared when I ride and I wasnt that scared the other day.

Hope you are doing okay.
Beth

Good job
Beth that is awsome, now you are legal now, I am proud of you and angel too, just be careful and have fun I am doing ok angel got his headstone last week its really nice ,

michelle

trainer

Cancer sucks T shirt
My wife came back from some fair and a cancer group was selling bright red T shirts with big white letters spelling out Cancer Sucks!\
When I wear it, I get a lot of stares, most like it, others think it's in poor taste. Like I'm going to stop wearing it, right. If I can find out which group sells the shirts, I'll post it here.

lmliess

For what it is worth...
I fricken HATE cancer too. I get so mad thinking about how my 5 year old has to see her mom go through this crap and how my husband has to endure my crying spells. How my body has had to be altered because of a stoma and colostomy. How my 70 year old parents drive me to my appointments and give up their time because their daughter has to endure this. Nobody deserves this crap.

With that said.....I love my husband and daughter more than anything and appreciate every second with them. I am closer to my parents than I have ever been in 38 years. Because of them and all the prayers of family and friends I will not give into this beast.

It sucks...and I have read articles about the 'gift of cancer'. I am not there yet. I appreciate things more but I don't see this as a gift. Someday, maybe....but not yet.

Thanks for letting me get my 2 cents of venting in today....

dorookie

lmliess said:

For what it is worth...
I fricken HATE cancer too. I get so mad thinking about how my 5 year old has to see her mom go through this crap and how my husband has to endure my crying spells. How my body has had to be altered because of a stoma and colostomy. How my 70 year old parents drive me to my appointments and give up their time because their daughter has to endure this. Nobody deserves this crap.

With that said.....I love my husband and daughter more than anything and appreciate every second with them. I am closer to my parents than I have ever been in 38 years. Because of them and all the prayers of family and friends I will not give into this beast.

It sucks...and I have read articles about the 'gift of cancer'. I am not there yet. I appreciate things more but I don't see this as a gift. Someday, maybe....but not yet.

Thanks for letting me get my 2 cents of venting in today....

I hear ya Girl
I feel the same way. Its bad enough on us, but for our loved ones its just as hard, sometimes I think a bit harder, because they mostly feel helpless and that hurts them.

Please vent anytime, believe me I have done it myself a few times and the people here are just so great and supportive. I just love everyone here.

I will continue to pray for you and hope that things go great and you kick this beast in the A$$. I want that for everyone here and for those that are not here.

God bless you
Beth

eric38

dorookie said:

I hear ya Girl
I feel the same way. Its bad enough on us, but for our loved ones its just as hard, sometimes I think a bit harder, because they mostly feel helpless and that hurts them.

Please vent anytime, believe me I have done it myself a few times and the people here are just so great and supportive. I just love everyone here.

I will continue to pray for you and hope that things go great and you kick this beast in the A$$. I want that for everyone here and for those that are not here.

God bless you
Beth

I got on a custom t-shirt
I got on a custom t-shirt site and made a shirt that says Cancer? Whatever......
As you can imagine some people find that in poor taste but it is not meant to minimize cancer but a way to take some of the sting out of it. I think those of us who have had or do have cancer have every right to joke about it. If we can`t, who can?

Eric