How long does it take to make a friend
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I don't think it takes that
I don't think it takes that long. Maybe a year or two to really get to know someone depending on how often you interact. Here it's different. Maybe it's because we cut through all the crap and get down to the business of helping one another. Marcia I've always valued your opinion and looked forward to your posts but just in case you don't know how valuable you are I'm going to consumate it and click on your + sign
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jan0 -
Right on!phoenixrising said:I don't think it takes that
I don't think it takes that long. Maybe a year or two to really get to know someone depending on how often you interact. Here it's different. Maybe it's because we cut through all the crap and get down to the business of helping one another. Marcia I've always valued your opinion and looked forward to your posts but just in case you don't know how valuable you are I'm going to consumate it and click on your + sign
Hugs
jan
I certainly consider everyone here my friend, sight unseen. You're right, Jan, from day one we cut through all the crap, and that definitely makes a difference.
We share EVERYTHING here -- the good, the bad, and the ugly -- and no one is ever judgemental. We laugh together and cry together, and there are unlimited virtual hugs. What more could you ask for in a friend?
With love to you ALL,
Debi0 -
I think both points are valid...
.... although I think a lot also depends on the individuals involved. I've known one of my friends for 5 years, yet feel just as close to her - maybe even more so, right now - as I do with others after 15-20 years.
But HERE, yes! - definitely. It's quite different. Because we all have the BC experience - which is extremely intense, to put it mildly! - in common. That experience in and of itself provides the foundation for immediate friendship. It's already there, in place, doesn't have to be "built"...
Therefore, Marcia - i wholeheartedly agree with with you. From the moment we read that very first post from a brand new member - there's a relationship already in place. Whether scared by possible test results, newly diagnosed, enduring treatment, long-term survivor. Doesn't matter.
Kind regards, Susan0 -
I agree totally Marcia about
I agree totally Marcia about people here becoming friends after their first posting. Breast
cancer solidifies a union between us that noone else can ever have. And, I am very grateful
for each and everyone of you. So, thank you Marcia for being my friend, and, thanks to all
of you who I count amongst my friends too!
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For some odd reason...
The theme song from the TV show "Golden Girls" is now running through my head, and won't stop...
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Dear MarciaKristin N said:Marcia, my friend. OK, that
Marcia, my friend. OK, that says it all!
I think friendship is something we can't predict but feel a closeness to. I feel such warmth and friendship on this board with not just, you but yes you darlin, but with all of us sisters there seems to be an unspoken bond that will never be broken, i love you. jackie0 -
Where else could you go inrjjj said:Dear Marcia
I think friendship is something we can't predict but feel a closeness to. I feel such warmth and friendship on this board with not just, you but yes you darlin, but with all of us sisters there seems to be an unspoken bond that will never be broken, i love you. jackie
Where else could you go in the middle of the night & talk to a friend you know will be there for you....only here. (I tried talking to my plants & now they look alittle "Droopy") What a comfort to log on already knowing you have friends on the other end of that "Click"!! I wouldn't dare wake a friend up 3:00am because I'm having a meltdown.(I don't think they would understand the eratic behaviour if not walking in my shoes....they may start to avoid me) I WOULD turn my puter on though and talk to anyone of you because I know you care and understand and most certainly would get back to me if you were sleeping. This is the kind of friendship that would never had been found if we all didn't share the same journey....I think I may have found a blessing in my pain! Adding you to my list as well, Marcia.....:) Pammy0 -
Marcia, from the first timeAkiss4me said:Where else could you go in
Where else could you go in the middle of the night & talk to a friend you know will be there for you....only here. (I tried talking to my plants & now they look alittle "Droopy") What a comfort to log on already knowing you have friends on the other end of that "Click"!! I wouldn't dare wake a friend up 3:00am because I'm having a meltdown.(I don't think they would understand the eratic behaviour if not walking in my shoes....they may start to avoid me) I WOULD turn my puter on though and talk to anyone of you because I know you care and understand and most certainly would get back to me if you were sleeping. This is the kind of friendship that would never had been found if we all didn't share the same journey....I think I may have found a blessing in my pain! Adding you to my list as well, Marcia.....:) Pammy
Marcia, from the first time you answered my post, there was a kindred bond between us....that is an instant friendship. I have known people for most of my life, and with some have never developed a friendship as tight and lasting as with those on this board. The commonality of the survivorship creates a very "special" friendship that can't be broken by rant, rave, crying, laughing, poking fun of, or disagreement. You, my friend, have been there for me more than once, and I will always consider you a friend, as are all the others on this board. We don't have to always agree, but we are always there for each other. The definition of friendship personified. Thank you all for being in my group. Hugs.
Judy0
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