Farah Fawcett
Cancer is so horrible, and it could happen to anyone.
Ohilly
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please don't worry
I know this is a horrible disease, and it takes many peoples lives. but a positive attitude and your faith in God (or whatever you may believe in), is the only thing you should be concentrating on. Farrah is someone who has been in our lives through television etc for many many years, so it seems as if it is someone you know and are close to. It does make it harder, and I'm sure it affects everyone harder than they think it will. Do not give up. If you are depressed, talking it out helps, we are all here for you. If we can't help, go to a professional. Please don't let it get so far that it affects your health. We all care about you too much, and it would hurt all of us too. Be well and happy.
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HUGS*HUGS*HUGS*
Ohilly, I can understand your emotions but please do not let her cancer become your stressor. It saddens us greatly to see anyone lose the battle with cancer, but to have it chronicled for us and see her struggle so personally portrayed is heart wrenching. That said Ohilly, her battle is not you path. Like you said you are a stage 1 and there is great success for survival for you. I say this to you from personal experience, you see I lost my mom to cancer (she fought it for 26 years) and my sister (8 year battle). It was my sister's death that struck me in a way that surprised me. I had just finished treatment and was just getting my hair back so I was super sensitive at the time. I saw my onco a few weeks after she passed and he knew immediately that for the first time since my cancer battles had begun some ten years previous I was down trodden. My onco knew why and before I could express my feelings he strongly told me that my sister's cancer was not my cancer and what happened to her was not necessarily going to happen to me. He then went on to remind me that I have beaten cancer three times and I am doing well. Ohilly, you too have beaten cancer, you too are doing well, you too are a survivor, you too have a future to live and enjoy please do not let cancer have that too. Enjoy and revel in your current healthier state, in your new hair, and the fact that you are getting stronger each and everyday. I agree cancer is a horrible illness, but it can be beat and you are on that path my friend, keep your chin up and know we are here for you!
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I think your reaction is
I think your reaction is normal. Even before I was diagnosed, I would wonder "what if it were me" whenever I heard of someone getting cancer. One of my husband's former supervisors, a great lady I had a lot of respect for, was a survivor for about 2 years. My Sister was diagnosed shortly after she died. My Sister was a survivor for 6 years, then she died 4 years before I was diagnosed. I have an Aunt and a friend now who are dying of cancer. It is easy to imagine myself in that position, but RE is right, you just have to remember that your cancer experience is YOURS. You have to choose to think about whatever is good, positive, admirable, and worthy of praise, (Phillipians 4:8). Do not let someone else's experience interfere with your good health or your good attitude.
Live as well as you can for as long as you can. seof0 -
Ohilly
I was also very depressed after watching Farrah's story. I don't think anyone who watched it would not be affected, whether they had ca or not. It is just harder for us to watch. But on the other hand it brings her own story to the media and not all of the other bad stuff that the National enquire etc. printed about it. And made others aware of the cruelty of the beast.
As Re stated though..this is not our journey and we need not dwell on it. Yes its the scariest thing we will ever do. But we have come so far with new treatments..and have so many survivors to look up to. I am going to try to distract myself by doing fun things that i enjoy. I just hate that little nagging voice in the back of my mind, I hope it gets better with time.
my best to you
Jackie0 -
Farrah
I am still in Ostrich Therapy as far as cancer is concerned~ I have never ever watched any life stories that I know may not end quite as "happily ever after" as I would like. I did go to the Entertainment Industry/Revlon 5K for Women's Cancers, as many of you know. I was one of over 100,000 participants. Combine that with the gazillions of Relay for Life walkers nation-wide and internationally. I think I read the Relay is now in 19 countries outside of the US.
Cancer is indeed horrible; we have been touched by it very personally. When I surround myself emotionally with all of you in here, as well as physically in the above-mentioned events~ I am encouraged by LIFE and a CURE, and not so much by the losses....
Hugs,
Claudia0 -
Hi, Ohilly
Honestly, I did not watch the program. But, via other (credible) news media - I understand that her situation is very dire, terminal. Which, of course, is very sad. It always is when cancer cannot be beaten back into submission.
Your reaction is totally understandable. Personally, I try to avoid stories like this - actually, ALL sad stories, of any kind. I won't even watch a movie if the family pet passes on. I figure I've had enough real sadness in my own life - I don't want any in addition, if I can at all help it. There's enough that happens that I simply cannot avoid...
Yes, cancer is horrible - beyond horrible, really. And, it certainly doesn't discriminate. But, we ARE survivors here - all of us. We are amongst the fortunate ones. Each morning brings another day of survivorship. And although the threat of recurrence looms, when I find myself getting a little too "crazy" over that fact - I tell myself there are risks all around me, every day. Each time I get in a car, an accident is possible. Every time I walk the dog in the forest, a tree could fall on me (or her). Depending on where we live, natural disasters are a threat: tornadoes, hurricanes, flooding, fires, earthquakes... The list goes on and on. Nevertheless, we don't stop living. Because life goes on. Time moves forward. Fear is paralyzing. I try very hard - and, admittedly, some times it's not at all easy - to allow myself a "moment" to ponder; and, then let it go. As if it passes through me, and away from me. This is just my way. And, it took me a long time to figure this out for myself.
I hope you're feeling at least a bit better today, Ohilly. I'm thinking of how you recently volunteered to reach out and help a new BC patient with her journey. I was so touched to read your post about it. And as a fellow BC survivor, so proud of you. What you're doing is a perfect example of living for today, and for the future. Making a real difference in someone else's life.
Kind regards, Susan0 -
12/25Christmas Girl said:Hi, Ohilly
Honestly, I did not watch the program. But, via other (credible) news media - I understand that her situation is very dire, terminal. Which, of course, is very sad. It always is when cancer cannot be beaten back into submission.
Your reaction is totally understandable. Personally, I try to avoid stories like this - actually, ALL sad stories, of any kind. I won't even watch a movie if the family pet passes on. I figure I've had enough real sadness in my own life - I don't want any in addition, if I can at all help it. There's enough that happens that I simply cannot avoid...
Yes, cancer is horrible - beyond horrible, really. And, it certainly doesn't discriminate. But, we ARE survivors here - all of us. We are amongst the fortunate ones. Each morning brings another day of survivorship. And although the threat of recurrence looms, when I find myself getting a little too "crazy" over that fact - I tell myself there are risks all around me, every day. Each time I get in a car, an accident is possible. Every time I walk the dog in the forest, a tree could fall on me (or her). Depending on where we live, natural disasters are a threat: tornadoes, hurricanes, flooding, fires, earthquakes... The list goes on and on. Nevertheless, we don't stop living. Because life goes on. Time moves forward. Fear is paralyzing. I try very hard - and, admittedly, some times it's not at all easy - to allow myself a "moment" to ponder; and, then let it go. As if it passes through me, and away from me. This is just my way. And, it took me a long time to figure this out for myself.
I hope you're feeling at least a bit better today, Ohilly. I'm thinking of how you recently volunteered to reach out and help a new BC patient with her journey. I was so touched to read your post about it. And as a fellow BC survivor, so proud of you. What you're doing is a perfect example of living for today, and for the future. Making a real difference in someone else's life.
Kind regards, Susan
Susan, you always know what to say to encourage someone. That is so special. Very nice.
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Your right it is scary as
Your right it is scary as hell but you have to know within yourself that you will beat it. You will survive, that's all that matters. Yes her story was sad, scary and everything else that we facing cancer can ever imagine. Pray for her, you and everyone on this site. We all will beat this. Have faith and believe.
God bless,
Babe0 -
Christmas GirlChristmas Girl said:Hi, Ohilly
Honestly, I did not watch the program. But, via other (credible) news media - I understand that her situation is very dire, terminal. Which, of course, is very sad. It always is when cancer cannot be beaten back into submission.
Your reaction is totally understandable. Personally, I try to avoid stories like this - actually, ALL sad stories, of any kind. I won't even watch a movie if the family pet passes on. I figure I've had enough real sadness in my own life - I don't want any in addition, if I can at all help it. There's enough that happens that I simply cannot avoid...
Yes, cancer is horrible - beyond horrible, really. And, it certainly doesn't discriminate. But, we ARE survivors here - all of us. We are amongst the fortunate ones. Each morning brings another day of survivorship. And although the threat of recurrence looms, when I find myself getting a little too "crazy" over that fact - I tell myself there are risks all around me, every day. Each time I get in a car, an accident is possible. Every time I walk the dog in the forest, a tree could fall on me (or her). Depending on where we live, natural disasters are a threat: tornadoes, hurricanes, flooding, fires, earthquakes... The list goes on and on. Nevertheless, we don't stop living. Because life goes on. Time moves forward. Fear is paralyzing. I try very hard - and, admittedly, some times it's not at all easy - to allow myself a "moment" to ponder; and, then let it go. As if it passes through me, and away from me. This is just my way. And, it took me a long time to figure this out for myself.
I hope you're feeling at least a bit better today, Ohilly. I'm thinking of how you recently volunteered to reach out and help a new BC patient with her journey. I was so touched to read your post about it. And as a fellow BC survivor, so proud of you. What you're doing is a perfect example of living for today, and for the future. Making a real difference in someone else's life.
Kind regards, Susan
Dear Susan, I can only second Cat's comments. Your post is a gift to us all. Like Claudia, you beautifully and powerfully express why and how we all should live with hope and joy. There is no more that can be said than this.0 -
Thanks SusanChristmas Girl said:Hi, Ohilly
Honestly, I did not watch the program. But, via other (credible) news media - I understand that her situation is very dire, terminal. Which, of course, is very sad. It always is when cancer cannot be beaten back into submission.
Your reaction is totally understandable. Personally, I try to avoid stories like this - actually, ALL sad stories, of any kind. I won't even watch a movie if the family pet passes on. I figure I've had enough real sadness in my own life - I don't want any in addition, if I can at all help it. There's enough that happens that I simply cannot avoid...
Yes, cancer is horrible - beyond horrible, really. And, it certainly doesn't discriminate. But, we ARE survivors here - all of us. We are amongst the fortunate ones. Each morning brings another day of survivorship. And although the threat of recurrence looms, when I find myself getting a little too "crazy" over that fact - I tell myself there are risks all around me, every day. Each time I get in a car, an accident is possible. Every time I walk the dog in the forest, a tree could fall on me (or her). Depending on where we live, natural disasters are a threat: tornadoes, hurricanes, flooding, fires, earthquakes... The list goes on and on. Nevertheless, we don't stop living. Because life goes on. Time moves forward. Fear is paralyzing. I try very hard - and, admittedly, some times it's not at all easy - to allow myself a "moment" to ponder; and, then let it go. As if it passes through me, and away from me. This is just my way. And, it took me a long time to figure this out for myself.
I hope you're feeling at least a bit better today, Ohilly. I'm thinking of how you recently volunteered to reach out and help a new BC patient with her journey. I was so touched to read your post about it. And as a fellow BC survivor, so proud of you. What you're doing is a perfect example of living for today, and for the future. Making a real difference in someone else's life.
Kind regards, Susan
Your words of encouragement were just what i needed, I also am touched by Ohilly's volunteer venture. To give back to others is a huge part of our journey, and you do this so well Susan also. I am comforted by your words.
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Dearest Cat, Moopy, and Jackie... :-)rjjj said:Thanks Susan
Your words of encouragement were just what i needed, I also am touched by Ohilly's volunteer venture. To give back to others is a huge part of our journey, and you do this so well Susan also. I am comforted by your words.
Love, Jackie
I just read all three of your posts, and I'm so appreciative of your kind words, dear friends. I am almost at a loss for words of my own, which my husband would tell you is quite unusual.
I'm simply honest, and share openly. I don't know how else to be.
Thank YOU.
Kind regards, Susan
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Ohilly, I feel as you do. I
Ohilly, I feel as you do. I keep finding my thoughts drifting back to the documentary and the most heart-wrenching scenes of Farrah in tears and suffering. When she was talking about missing rain in heaven and when she was told her cancer had returned in her liver and rectum I was crying with her. I have felt very depressed about the whole thing.0 -
I'm with you 50 footerchenheart said:Farrah
I am still in Ostrich Therapy as far as cancer is concerned~ I have never ever watched any life stories that I know may not end quite as "happily ever after" as I would like. I did go to the Entertainment Industry/Revlon 5K for Women's Cancers, as many of you know. I was one of over 100,000 participants. Combine that with the gazillions of Relay for Life walkers nation-wide and internationally. I think I read the Relay is now in 19 countries outside of the US.
Cancer is indeed horrible; we have been touched by it very personally. When I surround myself emotionally with all of you in here, as well as physically in the above-mentioned events~ I am encouraged by LIFE and a CURE, and not so much by the losses....
Hugs,
Claudia
I usually avoid those types of programs, I helped my mother in law die at home with colon cancer, and it was two weeks I would never replace but never want to relive through anyones eyes. It is sad, depressing, and it hits too close to home, so I have avoided it. I have heard some things about her on the news, but I don't think I will visit the program.
How was your Palms Springs vacation? hot?
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Yep Cat......cats_toy said:I'm with you 50 footer
I usually avoid those types of programs, I helped my mother in law die at home with colon cancer, and it was two weeks I would never replace but never want to relive through anyones eyes. It is sad, depressing, and it hits too close to home, so I have avoided it. I have heard some things about her on the news, but I don't think I will visit the program.
How was your Palms Springs vacation? hot?
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I watched my father lie in a hospital bed in our living room for 6 months, dying of lung cancer. I was 10 years old.
Back then, the idea was DON'T TELL THE PATIENT THAT THEY ARE TERMINAL. It was in fact, rare for doctors or family to break the bad news to the patient.
So, as a kid, I watched all of this going on around me, and was admonished repeatedly not to tell Dad that he wasn't going to make it. I watched and waited and kept my mouth shut, not fully understanding everything that was going on.
I'm sure he knew though. How could he not?
I don't think I care to watch anything like that again, even on television.
I would rather watch a sit-com.........
CR0
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