DEC 15TH

RE
RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hello all my bc buddies. Well Dec 15th is looming, some may not know it is the one year anniversary of my sister's passing to pancreatic cancer.

When she knew she would be leaving us she started boxing stuff for goodwill and setting stuff aside for us. Over the weekend i put up Christmas decorations and pulled out a heart that lights up that she gave me. It is two feet high by one wide, I have placed it over the entry door and have decided to leave it there year round. It is quite beautiful and when lit reminds me of her glowing personality. There are no words for how much I miss my big sister. Thanks for listening.

RE

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  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #2
    Big sis.....
    I am the big sister in my family........I cannot imagine how you feel. (((Hugs to you)))
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #3
    Wrapping my arms around you....
    December 12 was my daughter's birthday. This is year 2 since her death.

    I am hugging you so tight.

    Keep remembering the good times, as you are...

    Hugs, Kathi
  • phoenixrising
    phoenixrising Member Posts: 1,508
    #4
    That's beautiful Re, putting
    That's beautiful Re, putting the lit heart on your door year round. You'll always feel warm when you see it. I'm sorry for your loss and pain of missing her so much. I send you many cyber hugs and a sturdy shoulder.

    KathiM... I know losing a child is something we never get over. My heart goes out to you.

    love
    jan
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    #5
    Dear RE: I hope you are
    Dear RE: I hope you are feeling my hugs squeezing you tight from the east coast all the way to the west coast. The memories will always keep her in your heart. Prayers to you my dear friend. Thinking of you, Lili
  • Jadie
    Jadie Member Posts: 723
    #6
    Heres you another big cyber
    Heres you another big cyber hug from the east. My heart broke for you as I read your post. Time has a way of healing. We never forget but somehow it does get easier as time pases.

    Have a great Christmas. I am sure she would want you to.

    Jadie
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    #7
    KathiM said:

    Wrapping my arms around you....
    December 12 was my daughter's birthday. This is year 2 since her death.

    I am hugging you so tight.

    Keep remembering the good times, as you are...

    Hugs, Kathi

    Your daughter
    Kathy, I am so sorry for your loss and I am sending a big old (((HUG))) to you and yours. I am sure she was lovely!

    RE
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    #8
    Heart and Soul
    RE,
    Thank you for sharing your bittersweet story with us; I too am the Big Sister, and can only hope my Little Sisters hold me as dear as you do yours. It is just obvious that your words are not a longing for things you didn't do or say~but they are an extension of who and what you were to each other. I am partial to hearts myself, and I also think nothing could be more appropriate than keeping her love-light shining on you as you walk in and out of your home. What a tribute, to both of you!

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • creampuff91344
    creampuff91344 Member Posts: 988
    #9
    chenheart said:

    Heart and Soul
    RE,
    Thank you for sharing your bittersweet story with us; I too am the Big Sister, and can only hope my Little Sisters hold me as dear as you do yours. It is just obvious that your words are not a longing for things you didn't do or say~but they are an extension of who and what you were to each other. I am partial to hearts myself, and I also think nothing could be more appropriate than keeping her love-light shining on you as you walk in and out of your home. What a tribute, to both of you!

    Hugs,
    Claudia

    December 15th
    RE,

    Just a note to say how sorry I am for your loss, and especially with the Holidays facing us all. I, like Kathi, lost a daughter in 2004, and the memories are still fresh as to how she was such a shinning light for all of us, especially during the holidays. I think it is wonderful how you will have your "heart" to remind you of your loved one, not only for Christmas, but for the years to come. I keep a sequined white dove out for all to see year around, as it was used at my daughter's wedding. It always brings memories back to me when I spot it sitting on the shelf, and brings lots of opportunities for me to share her with those who notice it when they visit. What a wonderful way to pay tribute to a beautiful life. Sending hugs your way, and a smile for you and your family as you face this first season without your sister. Things do get somewhat easier as time passes.

    Judy
  • Irishwhispers
    Irishwhispers Member Posts: 96
    #10
    ..another hug full of love...
    from the East Coast!!!
    I admire how you honor and celebrate your sister's life. It truly says so much about the love between you both!

    Love ya ... more than my luggage!

    Trish
  • dorothyt
    dorothyt Member Posts: 103
    #11
    Irishwhispers said:

    ..another hug full of love...
    from the East Coast!!!
    I admire how you honor and celebrate your sister's life. It truly says so much about the love between you both!

    Love ya ... more than my luggage!

    Trish

    RE, I am very sorry to hear about your sister. December 15, is my brother, and sister birthday,they were two years apart, and they too are deceased. My brother died on April 15, 2003. My sister in 1969. Remember they will always be in our hearts.
  • mgm42
    mgm42 Member Posts: 491 Member
    #12
    Oh, RE
    Oh RE, my heart goes out to you on your loss. I wasn't aware that you had lost your sister until now, but I do understand the pain, sorrow and joy that your memories bring. I think your sister was a wise and loving person to do all that she did for her family before her pssing. Enjoy that heart. I lost my dad last May while I was undergoing chemo, so I understand the pain. So far, my memories are still riddled with my grief. I'm hoping the sweet memories will get here soon, just like the heart you'll place over your front door. Hugs, Marilynn
  • ohilly
    ohilly Member Posts: 441
    #13
    I can identify
    Re, I can identify with how much you miss your sister. I was extremely close to my father who died on June 23, 2005 of CLL (chronic leukemia). He was such a wonderful person, and I visit his grave every Sunday and say prayers and lay flowers. He always cared about other people, to the point that he was giving me medical advice as he lay dying in MD Anderson Hospital, and was asking the nurses things about their personal lives.

    Some people are really special, and we will remember them for the rest of our lives. I don't know what your beliefs are, but I truly believe that my father has been watching over me for my entire cancer experience. He was a pediatrician, and his purpose in life was to help sick chidren, so now he's helping a sick child (me, his daughter) from heaven. My oncologist, who is well-known in Chicago, probably would not have accepted me as a patient because he is so busy but for the fact that my father was his children's pediatrician!

    Feel free to exchange memories of your sister with me: she sounds like she was a wonderful person, as my father was.

    Hugs, Ohilly
  • GreeneyedGirl
    GreeneyedGirl Member Posts: 1,077
    #14
    ohilly said:

    I can identify
    Re, I can identify with how much you miss your sister. I was extremely close to my father who died on June 23, 2005 of CLL (chronic leukemia). He was such a wonderful person, and I visit his grave every Sunday and say prayers and lay flowers. He always cared about other people, to the point that he was giving me medical advice as he lay dying in MD Anderson Hospital, and was asking the nurses things about their personal lives.

    Some people are really special, and we will remember them for the rest of our lives. I don't know what your beliefs are, but I truly believe that my father has been watching over me for my entire cancer experience. He was a pediatrician, and his purpose in life was to help sick chidren, so now he's helping a sick child (me, his daughter) from heaven. My oncologist, who is well-known in Chicago, probably would not have accepted me as a patient because he is so busy but for the fact that my father was his children's pediatrician!

    Feel free to exchange memories of your sister with me: she sounds like she was a wonderful person, as my father was.

    Hugs, Ohilly

    Big Sisters are special
    My big sister has been my caregiver thru all my surgeries (4) and has held me when I wept, wiped my tears, cleaned my wounds, showered me when I couldn't do it alone. Without her, it would have been the loneliest journey. She has taught me so much in life-how to be a hostess-how to sew-the great places to shop.....I can only imagine the sorrow you feel at the loss of your big sister. Having wonderful memories, photos and big light up hearts help keep her alive in spirit. I will be praying and thinking of you as the day approaches.
    (((hugs))) to you.
    Melanie
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    #15
    THANK YOU ALL
    Thank you all, each and everyone of you! Your responses have warmed my heart and touched my soul. My sister was indeed very special to me and I appreciate you letting me share that with you.

    Tons of (((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

    RE
  • Eil4186
    Eil4186 Member Posts: 949
    #16
    Sending a hug to Re
    Re, I am sending you a big hug and my thoughts are with you at this time. I am close to my sister and can't imagine how painful it would be to lose her.

    You are in my prayers that you will feel peace and comfort during this difficult anniversary. Eil
  • Joycelouise
    Joycelouise Member Posts: 482
    #17
    Re,
    We are with you as Dec. 15 approaches. Thanks for sharing your sister with us. Love and Hugs, Joyce
  • itiswhatitis
    itiswhatitis Member Posts: 7
    #18
    Dec 15th
    My prayers are always with you RE I will be honestly thinking about you on this date and hope you will remember the good times you had wlith your big sister.

    big HUGS
    itiswhatitis
    Pam

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