How do you keep your sanity?

Fergus2007
Fergus2007 Member Posts: 109
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
How do you keep from going insane during the treatment of a loved-one when every doctor expresses every theory and worry along the way.
In the last two months of my fathers treatment we have heard a surgeon express her worry that the cancer had spread to the lungs (turned out to be allergies that caused my father to cough ... ), a doctor express his worry that the cancer had spread to the brain (turned out to be an electrolyte imbalance coupled with two undetected mini-strokes that were causing my father to hallucinate ... ), and a doctor saying the indigestion and abdominal pain might be cause by the colon cancer growing rapidly ( ... when in fact it was caused by the cancer shrinking dramatically and sending the Stent to be expelled ...).
How do you learn to NOT listen?!?

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  • oneagleswings
    oneagleswings Member Posts: 425 Member
    #2
    Just follow your heart and trust in a higher power.
    Bev
  • dash4
    dash4 Member Posts: 303 Member
    #3
    Bev says it all so well...you do learn to trust your heart. It is a constant time of questions and knowledge search and positive thinking.
    People say "take it a day at a time". To be truthful, some days it is an "hour" or even just "a minute" at a time that keeps you going. And then you regroup and are stronger and keep fighting. Actually, that you are here and writing shows that is what you are doing too. Good luck.
    Mary Kay
  • Fergus2007
    Fergus2007 Member Posts: 109
    #4
    oneagleswings said:

    Just follow your heart and trust in a higher power.
    Bev

    I'm just shocked at how many doctors are willing to expressed half-baked theories without having studied the case OR files.
    Theories that are VERY devastating to the family to even hear expressed.
  • Fergus2007
    Fergus2007 Member Posts: 109
    #5
    dash4 said:

    Bev says it all so well...you do learn to trust your heart. It is a constant time of questions and knowledge search and positive thinking.
    People say "take it a day at a time". To be truthful, some days it is an "hour" or even just "a minute" at a time that keeps you going. And then you regroup and are stronger and keep fighting. Actually, that you are here and writing shows that is what you are doing too. Good luck.
    Mary Kay

    I'm just shocked at how many doctors are willing to expressed half-baked theories without having studied the case OR files.
    Theories that are VERY devastating to the family to even hear expressed.

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