Mom 61 Lung Cancer Depressed

samilisa12
samilisa12 Member Posts: 1
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
My Mom was diagonosed with Stage 3 Lung cancer in July. They did chemo and Radiation. They had hoped to maybe do surgery but yesterday we went for our second surgical opinion and were told they would not consider it because of the risk. I have been taking care of my Mom since this started. She has been depressed and is on antidepressants. She had hoped for surgery but now that it is not an option she has lost all hope. She cries all of the time and feels she just wants it to end. She said the hardest part is not knowing how long she has. I am at the end of my rope for I do not know what to do to help her. I know that I can't possibly know what she is going through. I just want to help her try to enjoy what time she has left but don't know how. She is very bitter and angry and sad. She takes all of her emotions out on me. I can handle all of that I just don't know where to go from here. Any ideas.

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  • Mylin
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    I was a caregiver as well. I lost my mother in august of 2004 and for both myself and my mother, this site really helped. She vented a lot on here and I too vented on here as well. The chat rooms(when people are in there) are phenomenal! Such amazing support. All people are different, but I took the tough love approach with my mom and it worked. She was a strong woman and to watch her go into this "dark place" and start to give up was just not like her. I pointed that out to her. There are so many ways to approach this and I recommend talking with cancer survivors on here because they better than us know how it feels. God bless and good luck.
    melinda

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