rcc/ with lung lesions and now bone lesions

childcaremom

hi my husband has stage 5 rcc with lung and now bone lesions. i would like someone to email me or on here if you know of anyone that has this and how it is going. i am scard the Dr said there is no help.Just do the things he wonts to do while we have the time.

DAT1

First of all,thanks for replying to my message. I can honestly say I know how you feel. Thanks for caring about my feelings concerning my mothers death. I know that you are right that it is better that she went quickly and did not suffer for a long time. I pray that your husbands cancer is not so painful that he cannot enjoy life. My best advice is too enjoy every second that you two have together. I am thankful that God did allow me to spend my mothers last days with her. She was an awesome person and will be missed by so many people. One way I am finding that helps me to deal with her death is that I got involved in the American Cancer Society. It helps to understand. You and your husband will be in my prayers. Keep in touch.

Donna

aud252

My husband, Ron (age 51) passed away last year from RCC. He was diagnosed stage IV, in Dec,with a 10cm tumor on his right kidney and a 5cm one, plus a number of smaller lesions on his lungs. He passed away 8 months later. I wish I could give you some hope. But take it from someone who's been there, in order to survive this disease, you need a miracle. I can't tell you how hard I prayed for one. We traveled to the National Cancer Institute in Maryland, Sloan-Kettering in NYC and consulted (by phone) with Dana Farber in Boston. We tried everything: immunotherapy (IL-2), radiation, chemo, experimental drugs.......... they all just added to his suffering. I'm not telling you to give up but don't let the opportunity to tell him everything you need to slip away. My biggest regret is not thanking my husband for the 32 wonderful years we had together. I miss him terribly. In retrospect, I wish he didn't go through all the treatments he did. I wish he had some "quality of life" those last 6 months. But both of us believed he would survive and he courageously tried all that was offered. Unfortunately, it was too little, too late. I know what you are going through. I will pray for you and your husband.

shojo

aud252 said:

My husband, Ron (age 51) passed away last year from RCC. He was diagnosed stage IV, in Dec,with a 10cm tumor on his right kidney and a 5cm one, plus a number of smaller lesions on his lungs. He passed away 8 months later. I wish I could give you some hope. But take it from someone who's been there, in order to survive this disease, you need a miracle. I can't tell you how hard I prayed for one. We traveled to the National Cancer Institute in Maryland, Sloan-Kettering in NYC and consulted (by phone) with Dana Farber in Boston. We tried everything: immunotherapy (IL-2), radiation, chemo, experimental drugs.......... they all just added to his suffering. I'm not telling you to give up but don't let the opportunity to tell him everything you need to slip away. My biggest regret is not thanking my husband for the 32 wonderful years we had together. I miss him terribly. In retrospect, I wish he didn't go through all the treatments he did. I wish he had some "quality of life" those last 6 months. But both of us believed he would survive and he courageously tried all that was offered. Unfortunately, it was too little, too late. I know what you are going through. I will pray for you and your husband.

Aud, my husband (age 59) was diagnosed stage IV with 16 cm tumor on left kidney and mets to bone and lungs in Oct 04. Has had nephrectomy and pelvic embolization and now on Interferon. It's hard to keep hope but the battle seems to have such a high hill. We are spending quality time together and saying lots of loving things to each other. Getting affairs in order, etc. Thanks for sharing. I needed to hear your story and that there are others like me.