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MrsMick
MrsMick Member Posts: 6
edited March 2014 in Kidney Cancer #1
My name is Beth. My father had his right kidney removed in January and was diagnosed then, on my parents 50th anniversary. What a way to celebrate. My parents live with our family (we have 5 children at home.) About 3 weeks ago my father went on hosopice care. He hasn't eaten anything in over 3 weeks although he does drink water occasionaly. He has lost over 60# since the surgery. I know the end is coming. How can I help him, my mother and the kids? We have him at home and I want him to be there, but I am so stressed out, because I still work a full time job and try to keep the kids going to their activities. Help!! I just need someone to talk to because my mother can't face it. She has also discovered a new sarcoma in her lung that has traveled from her leg.

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  • wjm1961
    wjm1961 Member Posts: 11
    #2
    Beth,
    I am so sorry for all that you are going through. I had a partial nephrectomy in on the 27th of January, 2 days later my father-in-law was put into a nursing home because of final stage alzheimers. My wife was torn between staying with me and going to be with her father. I know I can tell you that it was difficult for her to decide but she said that her life and future were with me and her father as much as she loved him was her past. She was finally able to accept the fact that she could not be there every minute of every day. He passed away on the 28th of February.

    I know I have not offered you much advice or information, but please know that you and your family will be in thoughts and prayers. Please remember to take of yourself and realize that you are not Wonder Woman and cannot do it all.
  • BARBARATT
    BARBARATT Member Posts: 16
    #3
    HI BETH, I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR DELEMMA. I WAS DIAGNOSED IN OCTOBER WITH KIDNEY CANCER AND ON FEB 27TH HAD HALF MY KIDNEY REMOVED. MY SOUL MATE LEFT ME TWO DAYS POST OP FOR A WEDDING IN FLA. I WAS DEVISTATED. HER PRIORITIES WERE SCREWED UP. I HAD MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS TO HELP AND SUPPORT ME AND HELP ME THROUGH THE WORST OF IT . YOU DON'T HAVE TO CHOOSE TRY AND SPEAD YOURSELF OUT AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE TIME FOR YOU.IF YOU BURN OUT, EVERYONE DOES. E. MAIL ME ANYTIME, BARBARA BTBTBTSTING@AOL.COM
  • allan
    allan Member Posts: 3
    #4
    Hi,Beth and all I just want to express my feelings for all of you this darn cancer sure can
    put major stress on familys, am new here day one for me am dealing with renal cell stage 3
    but am going to win and so are you! i beleive it's all about how strong menalty one is to fight
    this "thing" I do know for a fact that cancer can
    weaken People but we cant let it win.

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