lung cancer

kaydeirene
kaydeirene Member Posts: 2
edited March 2014 in Lung Cancer #1
my husband was just told that he has small sell lung cancer he has already started treatment, but i find myself crying and having a bad time with him going through the treatment, i want to help him with going through the treatment but i don't know how, all i want to do is give him the support he needs and not make him think more of me than himself. how do i stop crying and and deal with his cancer, and help him get through his cancer

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  • michaelcie
    michaelcie Member Posts: 133
    #2
    hi , I am Mike, and Ihave small cell lung cancer,I am in remission two years now and they thought I would never leave the hospital. I know this is hard on you , but be there for your husband, he will need you to be strong for him and also to ask questions while he is undergoing treatment. He will beat this. hugsss and blesss, Mike
  • scottsc
    scottsc Member Posts: 4
    #3
    My husband has nsclc. He had half of his left lung removed 4 years ago and found out in Jan of last year that the cancer had returned. Last year he went through radiation and chemo and now it has spread to his spleen and adrenal gland and to his brain. There is nothing left they can do for him and he is now on hospice. All I can tell you is just take one day at a time. If your husband is still with you when you get up in the mornings, just thank God for giving you another day with him. Love him and make him feel as comfortable as you can. Cherrish each moment with him. I try not to cry in front of my husband as that only makes him feel worse. I take little moments for my self and go in the bathroom and just cry my head off. Wash my face and ask God to give me the strength to go on and be as strong as I can for him. I cannot get through one day without Gods help, but I know that with his help there is nothing that can come up that i cannot handle.
  • AJL
    AJL Member Posts: 13
    #4
    Hi My name is Andy and I have Small Cell Lung Cancer since Oct. 2001. I did Chemo and Radition for my initial treatment, but that didn't work as my cancer came back 4 month after my treatment was over. Then I was given the bad news that my cancer was incureable. Needless to say I was stunned. MY wife took it very hard and couldn't stop crying for days. After we had our cried, we had a long talke and decided that we will not let this cancer run our life, so we decided to fight this together. Please stay positive and give your husband all the love and support he will need as he's going through treatment. He will have his good days and bad days, be by his side and be strong in front of him and don't let him feel sorry for himself as my wife kept reminding me, we are in this together

    I wil pray for you and your husband

    Andy
  • kaydeirene
    kaydeirene Member Posts: 2
    #5
    AJL said:

    Hi My name is Andy and I have Small Cell Lung Cancer since Oct. 2001. I did Chemo and Radition for my initial treatment, but that didn't work as my cancer came back 4 month after my treatment was over. Then I was given the bad news that my cancer was incureable. Needless to say I was stunned. MY wife took it very hard and couldn't stop crying for days. After we had our cried, we had a long talke and decided that we will not let this cancer run our life, so we decided to fight this together. Please stay positive and give your husband all the love and support he will need as he's going through treatment. He will have his good days and bad days, be by his side and be strong in front of him and don't let him feel sorry for himself as my wife kept reminding me, we are in this together

    I wil pray for you and your husband

    Andy

    i just started chemo and radiation for my small
    cell lung cancer. what kind of treatment did you get,and what drugs did they use. kaydeirene
  • michaelcie
    michaelcie Member Posts: 133
    #6
    kaydeirene said:

    i just started chemo and radiation for my small
    cell lung cancer. what kind of treatment did you get,and what drugs did they use. kaydeirene

    hi Kay, I am mike, I had small cell lung, I started with cisplatnum, vp-16 and taxol. I crashed the second cycle on cisplatnum and was hospitalized. They changed the chemo to carboplatnum, vp-16 and taxol for four cycles. I had chemo every three weeks for three nine hour days and after the tumor was shrunk so they could get it into one port for radiation ( fourth cycle of chemo) I had six and a half weeks of radiation five times a week , to my chest, side and back.I had a total of six cycles of chemo. I have been in remission for two years this month. My Radiologist wanted me to have Prophylactic Brain Irradiation as a saftey factor for the brain because sclc is known to mestesize to the brain, but after some soul searching I opted out. You will have to make that decision for yourself, as you will know what is best for you. Well hope this has helped some, bless and hugsss, Mike
  • mary4luck
    mary4luck Member Posts: 1
    #7
    michaelcie said:

    hi , I am Mike, and Ihave small cell lung cancer,I am in remission two years now and they thought I would never leave the hospital. I know this is hard on you , but be there for your husband, he will need you to be strong for him and also to ask questions while he is undergoing treatment. He will beat this. hugsss and blesss, Mike

    HI.MY NAMEIS MARY.and i have been in remission now for four yearsand in the begining it was hard for me had it not been for the lord on my side and my family i don`t know how i would have made it through,be there for your husband he needs you now more than ever be strong and pray for god to help you and believe me he will,I WILL be praying for the both of you good luck and god bless you,mary
  • VickyCC
    VickyCC Member Posts: 2
    #8
    michaelcie said:

    hi , I am Mike, and Ihave small cell lung cancer,I am in remission two years now and they thought I would never leave the hospital. I know this is hard on you , but be there for your husband, he will need you to be strong for him and also to ask questions while he is undergoing treatment. He will beat this. hugsss and blesss, Mike

    Hi, I'm Vicky, age 40, My Mother who is in her 60s was just given the news that she has both small cell and large cell lung cancer in her right lung, with a spot already on her neck, liver and kidneys, with no cure. We were given 6moths to a year. She hasn't started chemo yet, could i get some advice. She has started taking shark cartlidge and other vitamins. They can't do surgery or radiation, only give her chemo for pain management. So far, she is not in pain, thank our good Lord above. Yes, we are Christians and believe God has healed her of this. We are going to the doctor to discuss options this week. Do you have some advice for my sisters and my mom. Thanks in advance for your help. Vicky
  • HERO
    HERO Member Posts: 1
    #9
    HI MY NAME IS HERO. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS BE YOUR HUSBANDS FRIEND. LISTEN TO HIM WHEN HE NEEDS TO TALK ABOUT HIS CANCER. I CRY ALOT TOO,BUT HE WILL ASK ME TO STOP . IT IS HARD BUT I REALIZED IT WAS NOT GOOD FOR HIM. HE NEEDS TO KNOW I WILL BE STRONG FOR HIM AND MYSELF THREW ALL THIS .WHEN MY HUSBAND WOULD HAVE HIS TREATMENT HE WANTED TO BE LEFT ALONE TO REST TO GET THREW THE WORST OF THE CHEMO TREATMENT. MOST OF THE TIME HE DOSEN"T SEE ME CRY. TALK WITH A FRIEND OR FAMILY. THAT WILL HELP YOU.



















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  • lilianayskip
    lilianayskip Member Posts: 2
    #10
    AJL said:

    Hi My name is Andy and I have Small Cell Lung Cancer since Oct. 2001. I did Chemo and Radition for my initial treatment, but that didn't work as my cancer came back 4 month after my treatment was over. Then I was given the bad news that my cancer was incureable. Needless to say I was stunned. MY wife took it very hard and couldn't stop crying for days. After we had our cried, we had a long talke and decided that we will not let this cancer run our life, so we decided to fight this together. Please stay positive and give your husband all the love and support he will need as he's going through treatment. He will have his good days and bad days, be by his side and be strong in front of him and don't let him feel sorry for himself as my wife kept reminding me, we are in this together

    I wil pray for you and your husband

    Andy

    Hi Andy I just find this web page and your coment.I feel total down and I need some information my fiancee had a surgery for long cacer they removed part of his lung, now the Dr. said he needs chemo and radiation for some months.We had plans to get merried and for me to move to his city, now we aren't sure if that's good idea he is very concern how he will feel and react to the treatmentand and being just merried I am afried to, but I love him and I want to be there with him and support him we are afraid to to this and I have a 9 years old boy who will need me too. please give some ideas about how was your treatment, how did you feel after? do you think I'll be too much to deal for both of us with the moving?, my son new school ,new job for me. I do not want to be an extra pain for him, but he means the world to me.
    thanks LILI
  • lilianayskip
    lilianayskip Member Posts: 2
    #11
    AJL said:

    Hi My name is Andy and I have Small Cell Lung Cancer since Oct. 2001. I did Chemo and Radition for my initial treatment, but that didn't work as my cancer came back 4 month after my treatment was over. Then I was given the bad news that my cancer was incureable. Needless to say I was stunned. MY wife took it very hard and couldn't stop crying for days. After we had our cried, we had a long talke and decided that we will not let this cancer run our life, so we decided to fight this together. Please stay positive and give your husband all the love and support he will need as he's going through treatment. He will have his good days and bad days, be by his side and be strong in front of him and don't let him feel sorry for himself as my wife kept reminding me, we are in this together

    I wil pray for you and your husband

    Andy

    sorru Andy I forgat to give you my email lilianat@isp
    I'm not sure how this web works thanks

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