cervical w/pregnancy

grduck
grduck Member Posts: 2
edited March 2014 in Gynecological Cancers (other than ovarian and uterine) #1
I am 32 years old and was 3 months pregnant when I underwent a radical hysterectomy. I "lost" everything. I am looking for anyone who went through this. I have one child.

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  • MrsSantolla
    MrsSantolla Member Posts: 20
    #2
    Hi Gretch,
    First no, this did not happen to me. However I cannot let your message pass without letting you know my heart goes out to you. Since my treatments (22mons ago) knowing now I'm not able to have a child has been hard. I have been blessed with two children. But for me, I wanted to know "I could have" children, if that makes sense. I can only imagine losing the ability and pregnancy. Again, my heart goes out to you. Because of all this, it does make me hug my children a little bit tighter.. ya know. I have contemplated adoption. This is something that I have thought about doing even before my treatments etc. Now I understand why I have always thought about this. Little did I know I would
    not be able to have children one day. Who knows what the future will hold. I'm looking forward to finding out. We have to live life each day to the fullest. Life is so precious and can be taken from you at anytime. Anyone that has had cancer knows that feeling. Maybe check with your doctors to see if there are any support groups. So you can get the support you need. I hope someone replies to you soon. Just keep talking and living! I'll pray for you.
    Take care and God bless.
  • sweet_girl_56270
    sweet_girl_56270 Member Posts: 2
    #3
    i am 26 and am 4 mounths pregnant and found out last mounth that i have stage 2 cervical cancer, they want me to have a hysteratomy but i wounder if i can handle it how are you doing?
  • sandi27
    sandi27 Member Posts: 12
    #4
    I am 30 and had a radical hysterectomy three years ago. I was also devistated and am still so sad about not being able to have any children. This is a tough time and I am so sorry to hear about your loss. No one can ever understand the loss you are experiencing but we all feel for you.
    One thing that helped me was reaching out to others through this website. I also went into therapy. It was kind of funny because I began to take classes at the Cancer Center here in town. I signed up for art therapy and I got kicked out!! The therapist couldn't really relate or understand. The support groups were full of older women who could not relate to infertility. That was hard. I stopped going to support groups. I started taking antidepressants and just avoided all contact with small children or pregnant women. I also felt a little out of sorts because I was getting all kinds of information about Breast Cancer and Colon Cancer and not a lot about Cervical Cancer. I was pretty much a train wreck for about a year. what are your issues? What scares you? What are you having a hard time dealing with? Talk to us here through this message board. We're here to help so you can get on with living.
    Sandi
  • sandi27
    sandi27 Member Posts: 12
    #5
    this is sandi. Carol1950 is a survivor and is welcoming questions and concerns about treatment, etc. You might want to give her a shout. She's entered on the discussion board relating to remission. See what she has to offer. How long ago was your treatment? Did you undergo chemo or radiation?
    Sandi
  • sandi27
    sandi27 Member Posts: 12
    #6
    gretch- I'm checking up on you. How are you hanging in? Have you gone into the chat room and spoken to some fellow survivors/care givers? I've been thinking about you. Please give us a shout out.
    Sandi
  • grduck
    grduck Member Posts: 2
    #7
    I am doing ok. I return to work on Mon. after being off since April 8 (the day I found out I had cancer.)so I suppose it's time to get moving. every day is a new challenge. Our house flooded last August and as fate would have it we moved the final car load back home on our way to the Mayo clinic. We are finally now putting things away and today I opened the box of my maternity clothes and that HIT ME HARD. One of my best friends just had her first baby on May 27, so it is hard for me to avoid babies. There are days when I actually wish I was still laying in that hospital bed in Rochester. I never thought I would wish for that!!!! But it felt safe there, like if I was there I was being watched over and it wouldn't come back. Now I feel like a target again. My family tries, but they really aren't much help (feel bad for saying that) I have a friend who has been a blessing from God. she MAKES me talk :) and let's me cry and isn't scared of what I might say. SHE IS AMAZING but...I know I still need to talk to someone. To be honest, I feel stupid typing on here. But at least I am getting some of it out! :) thanks for checking on me!
  • nkern
    nkern Member Posts: 37
    #8
    grduck said:

    I am doing ok. I return to work on Mon. after being off since April 8 (the day I found out I had cancer.)so I suppose it's time to get moving. every day is a new challenge. Our house flooded last August and as fate would have it we moved the final car load back home on our way to the Mayo clinic. We are finally now putting things away and today I opened the box of my maternity clothes and that HIT ME HARD. One of my best friends just had her first baby on May 27, so it is hard for me to avoid babies. There are days when I actually wish I was still laying in that hospital bed in Rochester. I never thought I would wish for that!!!! But it felt safe there, like if I was there I was being watched over and it wouldn't come back. Now I feel like a target again. My family tries, but they really aren't much help (feel bad for saying that) I have a friend who has been a blessing from God. she MAKES me talk :) and let's me cry and isn't scared of what I might say. SHE IS AMAZING but...I know I still need to talk to someone. To be honest, I feel stupid typing on here. But at least I am getting some of it out! :) thanks for checking on me!

    My heart goes out to you. I also had a radical hysterectomy but I was not pregnant. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. I noticed from your message that you had surgery at the Mayo in Rochester, so did I. My surgery was on May 16th and I live in Northern Minnesota. I am here if you need someone to talk to, you can email me at nik49@hotmail.com or keep coming here. But please keep coming, this is such a safe place to sit at your computer and cry, ask silly questions or just get great advice from wonderful people. At my worst moment during the early days of being diagnosed I didn't think I had the strength to make it through. Now I look back and think, yeah that was bad, but I made it. You will make it too, keep the faith, keep talking and crying. You are mourning not only the loss of your child but of future children also. You must let yourself go through the grief stages. I am here if you need me.
  • SAVED1
    SAVED1 Member Posts: 3
    #9
    I AM GLAD TO KNOW THAT SOMEONE ELSE IS IN THE SAME BOAT AS I WAS. I WAS 30 WHEN I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH CERVICAL CANCER. I WAS 15 WEEKS PREGNANT AT THE TIME. I NEVER THOUGHT THAT I WOULD HAVE TO MAKE SUCH A TRULY LIFE ALTERING DECISION. SHOULD I END MY UNBORN CHILD'S LIFE TO SAVE MY OWN OR SHOULD I RISK MY LIFE AND MY FUTURE WITH MY 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER? MY HUSBAND AND I HAD BEEN TRYING FOR 5 YEARS TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY AND THE NEWS THAT WE WERE FINALLY PREGNANT WAS JOYOUS. 3 WEEKS LATER, OUR JOY TURNED TO HEARTACHE WITH THE DIAGNOSIS. I UNDERWENT A RADICAL HYSTERECTOMY AND ALSO "LOST" EVERYTHING. I WENT THROUGH RADIATION AND CHEMOTHERAPY. THAT WAS 2 YEARS AGO BUT IT SEEMS LIKE FOREVER AGO. THE EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER WAS A ROUGH RIDE BUT I AM MUCH STRONGER THEN I EVER THOUGHT I COULD OR WOULD HAVE TO BE (AS YOU ARE TOO). WITHOUT MY HUSBAND, DAUGHTER, AND MANY FRIENDS IT WOULD HAVE BEEN DIFFUCULT BUT THE TRUE HEART OF MAN IS FOUND OUT IN TOUGH TIMES. I HOPE YOUR ROAD TO RECOVERY HAS BEGUN AND YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP-SOMEONE UP THERE IS LOOKING AT YOU!
  • 2003April2008
    2003April2008 Member Posts: 5
    #10
    My heart goes out to you. Last March, within a few days of each other, I found out I was pregnant and had cervical cancer. I had a radical hysterectomy in April and lost the child. It was a hard decision and sometimes I wonder if I made the right one.
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  • aaliyahs mommy
    aaliyahs mommy Member Posts: 1
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    hi im 22 years old and i
    hi im 22 years old and i have 1 child i went to see an obgyn bcuz of an abnormal pap. my dr. did a colposcopy on me n told me i have HPV and CIS carcinoma in situ. i just recently found out im 7 weeks pregnant and my dr. said that cervical cancer takes years to grow and i askd her if the HPV or CIS would have an affect on my baby and she said no but im really concerned that it might. should i go get a 2nd opinion?? was any1 told them same thing? im really scared she told me she was gna freeze my cervix well i was early in my pregnancy and that its shloud slow it down from growing but im really concernd so please give me sum advice
  • beckyracn
    beckyracn Member Posts: 322
    #13
    aaliyahs mommy said:

    hi im 22 years old and i
    hi im 22 years old and i have 1 child i went to see an obgyn bcuz of an abnormal pap. my dr. did a colposcopy on me n told me i have HPV and CIS carcinoma in situ. i just recently found out im 7 weeks pregnant and my dr. said that cervical cancer takes years to grow and i askd her if the HPV or CIS would have an affect on my baby and she said no but im really concerned that it might. should i go get a 2nd opinion?? was any1 told them same thing? im really scared she told me she was gna freeze my cervix well i was early in my pregnancy and that its shloud slow it down from growing but im really concernd so please give me sum advice

    I would get her to answer
    I would get her to answer your questions completely until your satisfied or get that second opinion. Good luck on your journey.
  • LoveMyBabies
    LoveMyBabies Member Posts: 9
    #14
    aaliyahs mommy said:

    hi im 22 years old and i
    hi im 22 years old and i have 1 child i went to see an obgyn bcuz of an abnormal pap. my dr. did a colposcopy on me n told me i have HPV and CIS carcinoma in situ. i just recently found out im 7 weeks pregnant and my dr. said that cervical cancer takes years to grow and i askd her if the HPV or CIS would have an affect on my baby and she said no but im really concerned that it might. should i go get a 2nd opinion?? was any1 told them same thing? im really scared she told me she was gna freeze my cervix well i was early in my pregnancy and that its shloud slow it down from growing but im really concernd so please give me sum advice

    Aaliyah
    Hi I just wanted to let you know that I too have HPV. Yes I have cervical cancer as well (almost finished with treatments, 2 more hgr) I found out I was pregnant with my daughter last february when I was scheduled for a LEEP procedure, when I let them know I was pregnant they just told me to call whenever I had my baby. My daughter is now 15 months old, beautiful and healthy. HPV will not cause any harm to your unborn baby. It is also propable that I had cancer before and while I was pregnant and that did not do anything to my baby.
    Good luck to you and whatever you decide.
  • cchil731
    cchil731 Member Posts: 3
    #15
    aaliyahs mommy said:

    hi im 22 years old and i
    hi im 22 years old and i have 1 child i went to see an obgyn bcuz of an abnormal pap. my dr. did a colposcopy on me n told me i have HPV and CIS carcinoma in situ. i just recently found out im 7 weeks pregnant and my dr. said that cervical cancer takes years to grow and i askd her if the HPV or CIS would have an affect on my baby and she said no but im really concerned that it might. should i go get a 2nd opinion?? was any1 told them same thing? im really scared she told me she was gna freeze my cervix well i was early in my pregnancy and that its shloud slow it down from growing but im really concernd so please give me sum advice

    Second opinion
    Hi, first of all I wanted to say my heart goes out to you. I think you should get a second opinion. I don't think this could harm your baby, but I do think that waiting might not be a good idea. I am only 21 and I just found out I have cervical cancer too. I was told by my doctor that it is rare to have this at our age because it usually takes 10 years to get to the cancerous stage, mine didn't. I had high grade CIS and had a LEEP procedure, but now have to go in for a different procedure. I think getting another opinion from a professional is a good idea, just to make sure there isn't anything they could do in the mean time. I am glad to see that you have already started a family, I don't have any children yet... Anyway, good luck to you and your family and I hope you get at least one more opinion before deciding.
  • kgage97
    kgage97 Member Posts: 2
    #16
    cchil731 said:

    Second opinion
    Hi, first of all I wanted to say my heart goes out to you. I think you should get a second opinion. I don't think this could harm your baby, but I do think that waiting might not be a good idea. I am only 21 and I just found out I have cervical cancer too. I was told by my doctor that it is rare to have this at our age because it usually takes 10 years to get to the cancerous stage, mine didn't. I had high grade CIS and had a LEEP procedure, but now have to go in for a different procedure. I think getting another opinion from a professional is a good idea, just to make sure there isn't anything they could do in the mean time. I am glad to see that you have already started a family, I don't have any children yet... Anyway, good luck to you and your family and I hope you get at least one more opinion before deciding.

    Hi. I just wanted to say
    Hi. I just wanted to say that hpv cancer during pregnancy should not harm the baby (my mom had it while she was pregnant with me, 30 years ago, an I am fine). But I would insist that they monitor you and your baby very closely during the pregnancy. I just had my second baby in Feb and I, too, had cervical cancer during my pregnancy. However, I had a very aggressive form of cc (neuroendocrine small cell carsinoma) and chose to undergo chemotherapy during my pregnancy. My son is PERFECT, by the way. So you can have chemo and a perfect baby and save both lives. Termination is not the only option. I am sorry if it sounds like I am preaching but I just want people to know that it is possible to survive this AND have a healthy child. Best of luck to you and always believe that whatever decision you make is the right one!!!
  • cherylm67
    cherylm67 Member Posts: 1
    #17
    My daughter in law is 22 weeks and she may have cervical cancer

    Hello.. my daughter in law goes to docs tomorrow.. She was told that she may have cervical cancer.

    She is 23 weeks pregnant and is scared to death.. She is 23 and this is her first child. My son

    is stressed for her and himself.. This was found in her pap smear.

    What is the treatment ? The baby is healthy and she has had a pretty good pregnancy besides morning sickness.

    Any advice is appreciated .. My son hasnt told her that he told me but we are very close and I want to

    call her and be there for them.. We live 1200 miles apart.

    Please help.. My mother died of cervical cancer 24 years ago .. She passed away less than a year later but she never told 

    anyone and she was so far .. It was too late.. This is super early .

    Help ??

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