new here, just need to talk

TJRoze
TJRoze Member Posts: 1
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hi you all ,,I was just dx with Stage IIB breast cancer in January , had a mastectomy 3/3/03 8 days ago. This is very difficult to take in. The first couple weeks I felt numb,, now after surgery reality is hitting me.I still have drains in from surgery and supposed to get them out Friday,, I discuss treatment options and pathology report with oncologist tomorrow. Things are happening so fast, Its overwhelming :( thanks for letting me vent.

TJRoze

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  • banker
    banker Member Posts: 317 Member
    Hi, glad you found this site, I am sure it will be of great help. You are not alone. Yes all this information is overwhelming and everything is happening so fast. Doc's don't give you to much time to think do they? Well, when your tubes are out you will feel better and once you know what kind of treatment you will have, things will fall into place. I am a 2x survivor of BC, had mastectomy, chemo 1998, reconstruction 1999, Lumpectomy, radiation and chemo again 2002. Just finished last October. If you have any questions at all, feel free to e-mail me at
    [email protected]
    or you can reach me here. I hope you will remain positive and have a quick recovery. I wish you well. (((hugs))emmi
  • hummingbyrd
    hummingbyrd Member Posts: 950 Member
    banker said:

    Hi, glad you found this site, I am sure it will be of great help. You are not alone. Yes all this information is overwhelming and everything is happening so fast. Doc's don't give you to much time to think do they? Well, when your tubes are out you will feel better and once you know what kind of treatment you will have, things will fall into place. I am a 2x survivor of BC, had mastectomy, chemo 1998, reconstruction 1999, Lumpectomy, radiation and chemo again 2002. Just finished last October. If you have any questions at all, feel free to e-mail me at
    [email protected]
    or you can reach me here. I hope you will remain positive and have a quick recovery. I wish you well. (((hugs))emmi

    Hi there, you've definately come to the right place if you need to talk! I was diagnosed 6/00 w/ stage II breast cancer w/13 out of 27+ lymph nodes, have had 2 bone mets, but praise God I'm still here. If you want to chat, there is a chat room, and we each have email. Just click on the envelope below this message it'll give you a note already to email that person. Just type in subject and message, and don't forget to check your email! God bless you. hummingbyrd
  • RachelMichelle
    RachelMichelle Member Posts: 1
    Hi TJRoze, I am a 29 year old breast cancer survivor, diagnosed at age 28. I am considered a chronic care patient, and will be for the next 4 1/2 years, as I am on Tamoxifen daily and also receive monthly injections of zolodex (all methods to minimize the influence of estrogen). Anyhow, I see this is all quite recent for you so please email with any questions or if you just need a little extra support.
    Rachel ([email protected])
  • mamou
    mamou Member Posts: 15

    Hi TJRoze, I am a 29 year old breast cancer survivor, diagnosed at age 28. I am considered a chronic care patient, and will be for the next 4 1/2 years, as I am on Tamoxifen daily and also receive monthly injections of zolodex (all methods to minimize the influence of estrogen). Anyhow, I see this is all quite recent for you so please email with any questions or if you just need a little extra support.
    Rachel ([email protected])

    Hi JTRose, I know what you mean about things happing quick. I was diagnosed w/stage IIBC on Dec.6 of 02 and had my Masectomy on Dec.17,'02 and started chemo on Jan 9,'03. remember be strong and we're here to help.

    Julie
  • sassysally
    sassysally Member Posts: 150
    Hi, I am new to this site, but not Breast cancer. I am now 41, but have had breast cancer 3 times since the age of 28. all of the information that they give you is alittle overwhelming, but take notes and ask questions. Chemotherapy sucks, as does radiation, but the latter is not so bad. Try to have a positive attitude, although that is a tough one it does help. I am now as flat as a board, which is a alittle unnerving, but atleast I am still here to tell you so. The days of treatment seems unending, but you will get through them. If you have chemotherapy, to avoid mouth sores, everyday, chew on vitamin E capsules. 4 or 5 of them this will coat your mouth, helping to prevent sores ( I know, have never had one.) As far as fatigue that you may feel, try to rest when you can, but don't stop doing the things that you've always done. If you need to talk, I'll be there, I had a great support system in my family and friends. Try to find humor in the little things, laughter is a wonderfull thing. If you are going to lose you hair, go for a wig now so that the wig people can see what you look like now and match it as close as possible. thanks for letting me talk with you, write anytime. Any questions, I've been there, done that....
  • heavenlee
    heavenlee Member Posts: 113
    Hello,
    My name is Angel and was diagnosed a year ago with IIB also and had a mastectomy. I was 29 and pregnant at the time and was devasted. Things got much better. I am alive and love everyday I am with my family. God Bless you and take care.
    Angel
    [email protected]
  • sandytrif525
    sandytrif525 Member Posts: 106
    Dear TJRose, Welcome to the club. I was DX in June of 01 with stage 3 invasive lobular bc. I have had treatments, surgery, reconstruction, and radiation. It is a scary time, but stay strong. Once you get the drains out, you will start to feel a little more normal. The waiting part is the worst. I will pray that all goes well. It is alot to take in, take a deep breath and focus right now on getting better from the surgery. everything moved fast for me too. Like a whirlwind. I pray that your results from surgery are good and that your treatment plan won't be as intensive as mine was. Remember, take one day at a time. God bless sandy
  • bullfrog13
    bullfrog13 Member Posts: 213
    Dear Rose, Welcome to the club that NO body wanted to belong too! You are for sure not alone here on planet cancer. You will feel sooo much better once the tubes come out-this I promise you. Keep us updated on your what you and oncologist decide. You will find this room helpful. I know I did. Still do, even now that my trip to planet BC is over. I had my ''port'' taken out last friday, which (at least in my mind) was the end of it all. I still have those every 90 day check ups, but is a walk in the park compared to my last 2 years. Anyway, I will be more than happy to chat anytime you need to. I have 4 IM programs and my email is [email protected]
  • bullfrog13
    bullfrog13 Member Posts: 213

    Hi, I am new to this site, but not Breast cancer. I am now 41, but have had breast cancer 3 times since the age of 28. all of the information that they give you is alittle overwhelming, but take notes and ask questions. Chemotherapy sucks, as does radiation, but the latter is not so bad. Try to have a positive attitude, although that is a tough one it does help. I am now as flat as a board, which is a alittle unnerving, but atleast I am still here to tell you so. The days of treatment seems unending, but you will get through them. If you have chemotherapy, to avoid mouth sores, everyday, chew on vitamin E capsules. 4 or 5 of them this will coat your mouth, helping to prevent sores ( I know, have never had one.) As far as fatigue that you may feel, try to rest when you can, but don't stop doing the things that you've always done. If you need to talk, I'll be there, I had a great support system in my family and friends. Try to find humor in the little things, laughter is a wonderfull thing. If you are going to lose you hair, go for a wig now so that the wig people can see what you look like now and match it as close as possible. thanks for letting me talk with you, write anytime. Any questions, I've been there, done that....

    Dear Sassy
    Ive been there two times. I'd like to chat or IM with you one of the days if you have the time.
    [email protected]
  • sassysally
    sassysally Member Posts: 150

    Dear Sassy
    Ive been there two times. I'd like to chat or IM with you one of the days if you have the time.
    [email protected]

    hey how are you? I am great. Why don't you email me a [email protected]. It has been a long road to get here, but I'm glad I'm here!!!!Maybe we can swap stories. My experience could write a book!
  • TylersMom1
    TylersMom1 Member Posts: 57
    Hi,
    Welcome. I was diagnosed in April 2002 and have just finished treatments. One piece of advise I have is to take someone with you, if you can, to your appointments. They throw so much information at you, and you are in a state of shock, that having someone with you to take notes helps alot. I know for myself, I had missed much of what the doctor told me because I was still thinking about the previous thing. Having my husband there to take notes and ask questions was a blessing. I hope you have someone that can do that for you. Keep us posted, and you are in my prayers. Cheryl
  • lizzy
    lizzy Member Posts: 6
    Hello, your story sounds very similar to mine... I was diagnosed in 2000, had a mastectomy,( the drains are no fun, but so necessary), followed by 7 months of chemo and 1 month of radiation. I have had reconstructive surgeries and finally am doing very well! I never thought I would see the light at the end of the tunnel, but there is and now that I am at the other end I am grateful and happy. It was a tough road, stay strong, keep a great attitude and get lots of support from those you are comfortable with. Good luck and God Bless...
  • kbb044
    kbb044 Member Posts: 1
    Just finished chemo in Dec. 02 Had hysterectomy, mastectomy and six cycles of chemo in about seven months time. Stay strong and keep a positive attitude. Everything will be fine. By the way, I was dx with Stagell breast cancer.