A daughter wanting to help her mom

aine
aine Member Posts: 1
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
My mom has ovarian cancer, anyone that is going through anything similar, I would appreciate some support, I feel very lost and concerned.

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  • gmariam
    gmariam Member Posts: 1
    #2
    My mother has ovarian cancer, but I don't know how much help I can be. I cried alot in the begining.(but never in front of her. I didn't want her to think it was as bad as I thought it was) And my husband and I were trying to have a baby, but had infertility problems, so that made it all the worse. But we were able to get pregnant and my mom is able know our child, so that's nice. She was diagnosed in march of 2000. The lost part for me went away because I was there with my mom as much as I could be even though we don't live in the same city. The concern never went away for me. She will be starting chemo again next week for the 3rd time with the most aggressive drugs they have. I'm really concerned for many many reasons. But again, I will be there as much as I can.
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    #3
    Hi there! My mom had uterine cancer and underwent a hysterectomy and then chemotherapy. She is doing ok now and we are awaiting her 3 month checkup results. How much do you know about what is going on with you mom? The cancer.org Web site really helped me understand what was going on and figure out where my mother was in the stages. Just remember -- simply because a person has cancer doesn't doom them. My mother had breast cancer a few years ago and survived and she is dealing really well with this second bout. Hang in there and if you need to chat, please feel free.
    Take care!
  • sweetbird
    sweetbird Member Posts: 2
    #4
    Dear Daughter, I am almost 19 and my mother didn't live to see my 18th birthday. Her bone marrow cancer was this long, drawn-out process of ups and downs. I'd like to help you if you're willing to listen to me. I hope for the best for you and your mother. I lived with a sick mother for eight years. The best thing you can do is let yourself cry. I repeat: CRY. Avoiding it will end up in disaster, I can assure you. Secondly, show your mother how well you are doing. My mother was really comforted in knowing that I would be OK if she left. I think all mothers want that, no matter what age. Third, SPEND TIME with her. You don't have to bring a darn thing except yourself; just sit with her. You don't even have to say anything. That's probably the best advice I could ever give. Much love.
  • als26
    als26 Member Posts: 46 Member
    #5
    My mom has OVC too. She's been battling it since Dec. '01. I'm under 30. I get extremely down somedays, but then it turns around. I know life isn't fair, but never in a million years did I think that this would happen. It doesn't run in our family. It was the biggest shock of my life. It's hard because my friends don't understand. I don't blame them because none of them have been through this. All I can say is keep praying and be there for her.. When I cry, I try to do it when I'm not with her. I want her to stay positive. I feel lost too sometimes... but we have to keep our chins up!!! Women can continue to battle this disease for MANY years... Take care.
  • Unknown
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